Why do i want sex and relationships so much?

[Joshe]

12 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Lonely coomers are still lonely. Nothing societal about it. It's biological. You're made to be touched.

I suppose humans are too diverse to say one way or the other. I can tell you that not everyone needs to be touched and not all of the people who feel that way are operating on avoidant attachment.

As a child, of course you need your mother's touch, but when growing up, I found that so-called psychological needs are often malleable and can even be removed. With ample intelligence, self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-efficacy, many so-called "needs" are recognized as bullshit. 

As far as I can simulate out, the only psychological/physiological utility of touching others is bonding and to put the nervous system at ease. For example, there's a type of therapy where the therapist does nothing but place their hands on you to let you get used to being touched and this makes you more comfortable around other humans. Calms your sympathetic nervous system, which is a good thing, but I wouldn't call this a "need", no more than I would call meditation a need because it trains your mind for calm.

Edited September 23 by Joshe