Day time cold approaching and setting up dates

[melchangelo]

Hello guys, 

I’ve been doing weekly day time cold approaches for around a year now and am starting to get more and more IGs from girls/phone numbers. The flake rate is quite high though and ones that do reply I am having trouble setting up dates, they do speak to me but are unwilling to meet up. I believe the reason for this is because my approaches are way too logical like an interview and not emotional enough to create attraction. How do I practice making my approaches more emotional? Should I be making assumptions about her and riffing off of that? Another thing is that I live in Asia, mainly in between Taiwan and Japan and the culture is quite different from the west so a lot of times girls have a fear of strangers. I speak both languages so there’s no language barrier but girls here have a subconscious wall towards strangers that I have difficulty breaking through. Anyone experienced in day game that could give me some advise? 

[NoSelfSelf]

Well there is alot to it,but what i can tell you is that no women on the planet will trust you from the start,there is little trust earned through social circle dynamic to know you are safe,she observed you, how you behave but still you will be observed carefully.So your job is to show her who you are,but you dont know who you are,you are just a regular guy.Trust is always earned,but you dont want her to trust you,it will be earned by knowing you are not judgmental,you dont have fear,you are safe but that comes from experience and knowing yourself(that will be shown just by the way you speak because she already met a guy that knows what he is doing)which pick up dont really teach...

Edited September 21, 2024 by NoSelfSelf

[melchangelo]

So I don't necessarily have to be witty and funny then. It's about being comfortable being yourself and also making the girl comfortable during the approach. If I'm comfortable with myself then anything could work, whether it's being emotional and funny or being chill and laid back. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@melchangelo you are looking it the wrong way,you are looking at the woman as the outcome,you have the power to choose in which way you gonna impact,but when you dont know yourself(i already see by how you frame your words) you can only hit from your looks,so your looks must save you...

Edited September 21, 2024 by NoSelfSelf

[melchangelo]

Yeah that's what I mean, so I have to know and be comfortable with myself and when I approach from that authentic self I will get better results 

[NoSelfSelf]

Just now, melchangelo said:

Yeah that's what I mean, so I have to know and be comfortable with myself and when I approach from that authentic self I will get better results 

Again you are resault oriented so you cant be authentic..

[melchangelo]

If you don't have the intention when cold approaching to get numbers and dates why would you approach at all?. Obviously it's important to be detached and not worry about the outcome. But Like what Leo says as well, know what you want and go for it with no qualms. 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 hour ago, melchangelo said:

If you don't have the intention when cold approaching to get numbers and dates why would you approach at all?. Obviously it's important to be detached and not worry about the outcome. But Like what Leo says as well, know what you want and go for it with no qualms. 

Because goal is not the number goal is you, but what do i know 🤷‍♂️

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EogjdB3msWA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkfXuIIfULU

[Kid A]

Daygame in Japan. I’m not gonna lie: That sounds like hell. The only reason daygame is possible here is that we have a lot of foreigners. I’ve never been able to get a date with a non-foreign girl through cold approaching. You guys have even less culture for cold approaching than we do, and you basically have no foreigners from outside East Asia.

I’ve heard from people who have been to Japan that things move a lot slower with girls there. Time is your best friend. Try to make the interactions as long as possible and always try to get an instant date.