Best Friend

[LiakosN]

Is there this "thing" that we, humans, call best friends or best friends forever and especially between a man and a woman? What do you think? 

[philosogi]

If you both can make it work, then it's a thing. The rest of society be damned. 

[LiakosN]

@philosogi i mean everything changes. How can friends remain best friends? I think Barry Long once said that its not wise to have a friend for the rest of your life... 

[philosogi]

2 minutes ago, LiakosN said:

@philosogi i mean everything changes. How can friends remain best friends? I think Barry Long once said that its not wise to have a friend for the rest of your life... 

It's like surfing. Ride the wave as far as you can/want. Listening to others' advice can never be as true as listening to your own instinct.

[egoeimai]

It can happen. You need to trust this person and so the person needs to trust u too. It is the person,from all the other friends,that stands up! With which u spend a lot of time with! Damn my english! Better speak in greek. But you got it dude! Thats my opinion! 

[Lai]

My best friend is male.  He is also gay, but even if he was straight we would still be best friends.

[egoeimai]

26 minutes ago, Lai said:

My best friend is male.  He is also gay, but even if he was straight we would still be best friends.

I wish I had a gay friend! I dont! 

But I have a male friend. And he is my bestie! 

[YaNanNallari]

I think it's possible although not for every case. The deeper it gets and the more open the people are the harder it probably is to be best friends at least on both sides. I'm not sure why you're interested in this though, saying you're best friends is probably a way to show affection without any sexual vibes.

[Flare]

At the end of your life you will be able to look back and judge if there was any "best friend" or so called soulmate. 

But these kind of relationships doesn't work on the terms you try to give them before you get to experience them. But yes there is such a thing.

[Visitor]

Best friends are mutual friendships. It depends what you both are being mutual about. 

Some say that their best friend always supports them. Even when they are untrue? Yep! Unfortunately.

Many so-called best friends are really not that friendly. They tend to tell you what they think you want to hear, and not the truth. The fear losing their friendship because the friendship has been mutually beneficial to both concerned.

The saying, "Love your enemy" has reason for it. An enemy has no investment in pleasing you and is more likely to tell you the truth about yourself than a so-called best friend.

The best friendship is between honest truthful people, or working towards that end. Each is not afraid to question the other for their truth, and each is willing to expose their fears to each other. In this way, truth is practiced, and both are helping each other towards enlightenment.

[Bananas]

I am curious about this one thing. Can best friends fuck and still be best friends? Some people think that sex is not so important and that its only a release but I can't come to terms with that kind of worldview. Is that even possible? To do that and still call each other ''friends''. I see things pretty black and white in that area but then when I hear what other people do I'm just baffled. I would just like to understand where that kind of thinking comes from, without judgement.

[Salaam]

My Wife and I are best friends and the sex is amazing.

She's my favorite person to hang out with, to be around, and to talk about things with. And she's also my favorite person to express my sexual side with.

We can express all those different sides with each other, without any conflict or depression in the intensity and quality of those things. They flow in harmony together and with synergy, each side building upon and reflecting off of the other, like mirrors shining and sharing light  so a whole space is brightened.

 

Edited May 2, 2017 by Salaam

[Bananas]

I think that I am at this point of my journey where I am realizing that sex doesn't have to be connected with love. Human relationships are very weird to me.  And sex is also weird to me. I'm trying to make sense of it and I probably never will. I will always get the answer like ''it is supposed to be enjoyed'' or used for a reproduction or something. I decided to stop watching porn because I want to adopt a healthier view on sex and see it as something positive.

Oh, and female male friendships can be possible with a certain dose of awkwardness from my experience. I deal with it well because I love talking with intuitive men, females in my life mostly turned out to be my enemies.

Edited May 2, 2017 by Bananas