Lust Has Destroyed My Life

[Keryo Koffa]

30 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

eheh

"Eheh, it looks like I'm the best and you're the worst! Wonder who got the chest hair..."

[gettoefl]

3 hours ago, eTorro said:

Enlightened people like David Hoffmeister have confirmed a Course In Miracles, including David R. Hawkins. If you read the book, it doesn't seem like "all cope." We can have peace if we transcend the ego because anything in the world can't possibly satisfy us. David Hoffmeister states that the ego is a death wish. Pleasure or pain will never satisfy us, according to ACIM.

Lust, like all the so-called 'seven deadly sins,' is rooted in a belief in magic - the illusion that something external can fulfill you or bring lasting happiness. It is perfectly permissible of course to engage in healthy sexual activity without being trapped and hypnotized by this illusion. The key is to understand that true happiness can NOT come from anything in the external world; Happiness is within oneself harmonizing with God, whereby we return to a state of oneness and innocence. When we admit this, we free ourselves from the belief that goals lie in the world, and instead, we rest in the peace and joy that come from our unity with God.

Edited September 20 by gettoefl

[Fadl]

14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Able to doesn't mean I did it every day.

You guys love to jump to conclusions.

It is obvious with your skinny body.. don't act like you are searching for god or "you are god".. you just wanna fuck .. the AI told me that. 

[eTorro]

On 9/20/2024 at 7:10 PM, gettoefl said:

Lust, like all the so-called 'seven deadly sins,' is rooted in a belief in magic - the illusion that something external can fulfill you or bring lasting happiness. It is perfectly permissible of course to engage in healthy sexual activity without being trapped and hypnotized by this illusion. The key is to understand that true happiness can NOT come from anything in the external world; Happiness is within oneself harmonizing with God, whereby we return to a state of oneness and innocence. When we admit this, we free ourselves from the belief that goals lie in the world, and instead, we rest in the peace and joy that come from our unity with God.

Great perspective. Thank you for sharing it with us. Sexuality is so much less important than we think. We shall use sex for procreation. The rest is just stimulation.

[AION]

On 20/09/2024 at 2:18 AM, Emerald said:

It seems to me that your issue is more akin to sexual repression and sexual shame... which actually amplifies desperation for sex.

This is why the people and cultures who are the most sexually repressive have the MOST sexual dysfunctions and kinks. It's not healthy.

You must come to accept that you are a sexual being and that your sexual urges are normal.

Otherwise, it's the same thing that happens to people with eating disorders who get into binge and restrict cycles.

When a person has eating related shame, it gets in the way of their natural primal instincts to eat to the point of satiety to the point where they restrict themselves and then end up in a huge binge.

The same thing happens with the sexual instinct. The more you repress your primal sexual instincts and shame yourself for them... and starve yourself of what is normal, the more insatiable your craving will be. You will become obsessed with sex, like someone with a binge and restrict eating disorder becomes obsessed with food.

So, try to get comfortable with your sexuality and stop resisting it. Then, you'll be able to make more sovereign decisions about whether you want to have sex or not.

Good point. But the whole thing with religion is that religion understand the holistic part of sex but it doesn’t understand sexual transmutation thus people who are religious tend to suppress their sexuality which is not good.  

What religious rightfully understands that it recognizes libido as power force which can make or break a person. Libido can be transmuted love which in religion it is called holy wisdom/love!  which is an energy/emotion sexual in nature… Or libido can be transformed into motivation to get stuff done. Most religions and most people don’t understand sexual transmutation. Emotions like shame and guilt are not healthy emotions to be used against lust. So we agree on that but you are not so different then those religious nuts if you don’t believe extreme liberation of sex is as bad of extreme suppression of sex. 
 

Suppression of sexual energy is bad but extreme liberation of sexual energy is bad too. It is a vital force that can make or break a person. The same argument can be made that every society who misuses sex will fall into ruin like the city of Gog and Magog. Extreme suppression of sex is as bad as extreme liberation of sex. Libido has to be curated and transmuted  other wise it can destroy the person and destroy society. In fact if you look at the decline of western society it is directly linked to sexual immorality. But that is out of the scope of this thread.

The solution for lust without ejaculation is extreme relaxation. From my experience this only can be done with yoga and years of practice. I know people who achieved this. Recently I started with yoga to actualized sexual transmutation.

So I would recommend OP to do yoga and not listen to people who don’t understand sexual transmutation. 

Edited September 23 by AION

[El Zapato]

A lack of lust has ruined mine.

[AION]

10 minutes ago, El Zapato said:

A lack of lust has ruined mine.

Libido (kundalini up) is a precious energy. Youthfulness and libido is the same thing. When your libido dwindles your youthful dwindles too. That is why curation of this energy is so important. 

[El Zapato]

24 minutes ago, AION said:

Libido (kundalini up) is a precious energy. Youthfulness and libido is the same thing. When your libido dwindles your youthful dwindles too. That is why curation of this energy is so important. 

Quite true, I'm sure...But, I don't care... Nyuk! Nyuk! Nyuk! I keep my youthful energy up, by laughing at social conventions.  I hold it dear to my heart.