What do you think I should do in this situation? (about an old friend)

[1337]

I had a classmate 2 years ago. I was in the same class with him for about a year. We were also sharing the same desk in class. At that time, we used to play Pubg all the time. We played a lot of Pubg in the summer of that year.

One month before the end of the summer vacation, he suddenly stopped writing, did not log in to the game and was not active on WhatsApp. After a week, the messages showed as delivered but he did not respond. He even entered Pubg and started playing alone. He wrote on WhatsApp 7 days later. While we were talking, I asked him where he had been for a week, mixed with a joke. His internet was also down and that was weird. I just asked a question mixed with a joke, without judging. He said, "I can't talk about it, it's too confidential."

In the next academic year, the classes were mixed completely and we were transferred to different classes. He slowly stopped talking and he didn't even say hello when i saw him at school. We didn't fight or anything bad happened. We didn't talk for about a month. I didn't ask him why he acted that way (it would have been too embarrassing. After all, it was his decision).

Then one day, out of the blue, he texted me in the evening and we talked for a while. He talked about the new update coming to Pubg. Then he stopped talking again and we didn't talk. Even when we came together with mutual friends at school, we did not greet each other or even look at each other face to face.

while talking to a boy with whom we were mutual friends, I learned that he treated him the same way. He said that he had changed a lot.

This year, I was in the same environment with him at the opening ceremony on the first day of the new academic year. We did not greet or shake hands. Afterwards, there was a fake handshake session Then he asked another friend whose desk was empty in the class. The friend said, 1337's desk is empty, but if you want, ask him. There was a little silence and then he asked if he could sit next to my desk. I said yes, but I didn't think he would sit down.

We came to the classroom and literally sat at the same desk (desks are for 2 people). Then there was a long silence and he spoke first. There was a little conversation. We have been sharing the same desktop together for 4 days now. We chat like we did 2 years ago. We still make the same jokes, we still talk about the events that happened 2 years ago. but I feel bad. He didn't even say why he acted like that. He acts as if nothing happened. I don't want to sit with him, but it's not possible to kick him out of the desk either. We've been friends before and I don't think he's a good friend. but I don't know what I should do. I don't have any friends at school, and if I sit alone, I probably won't do anything all day. I don't want to make enemies in class. It seems ridiculous to sit with him all year. I don't even think he's a trustworthy person. It's so ironic that he still acts as if nothing happened. Not even a facial expression moves while talking about last year. Last year, it wasn't a problem for him not to talk for no reason. but he was acting like an enemy. Also, if he's seriously acting like an enemy, why does he want to sit on my desk now?

Still, would it be a mistake to continue sitting in the same desk with him? These thoughts are constantly floating around in my head. Also, I have no idea what happened to him for no reason last year.

I don't know what I should do right
now. Should I ask him why he's acting this way? After all, this is not a shameful thing. But even the idea of asking this seems scary. Am I thinking too much in my head? I've never had people around me act so unbalanced before. I'm waiting for your thoughts on the subject. I have often made wrong choices in social decisions before, and these affected the flow of my life. This is also a technically important decision. It looks like the decision I'm making right now will affect the continuation of my high school life(?) Have a nice day

[1337]

I realize the paragraphs are huge. It might be better if you skip it and read it. I just explained the situation and the process. Have a nice day.

[Hojo]

Probably just ask maybe his grandma died or something and he is sad. Maybe his dad came out as gay and he's shameful it could literally be anything. Maybe he got attracted to you and found it weird no one know till you ask.

say like hey I am looking for friends and the last time we were friend you just dissapear and act like I didn't exist .do you know why things happen like that ?it hasn't happened to me before.

Edited September 13 by Hojo

[1337]

@Hojo I thought about whether to ask him this during free lessons today. But I think it's better to focus on my inner world. I worry too much about what other people think and why they do x. Also, the answer I will get will probably be very strange. I mean, this is a subject that I've been thinking about from time to time for the last year and I don't even have the slightest idea. I'm not sure I'll like his answer. So he probably won't give an honest answer anyway. If I ask him expecting an answer, I will have a dilemma about whether his answer is correct or not. Instead of dealing with this, I'll try sitting at another desk. I learned a little lesson from here.

Have a nice day

[Sandhu]

Strange behaviour, maybe he is unstable mentally or some other reason. Instead of judging and guessing ask him straightaway.

How bad could it be, he'll probably give you the right answer or some clue.

[1337]

@Sandhu

He's hiding a lot of things about himself. I'm sure he will avoid answering this question. If I ask him this question, he won't be the same.

I'll just keep making small talk with him. He is not and will never be my friend. He probably thinks the same about me anyway. This is a very strange form of friendship. Neither side is actually friends, but they act like they are.

I would love to ask him and find out the truth, but it is not possible. I don't know if such ridiculous things happen among adults too. But this is definitely the kind of nonsense immature people experience

btw your profile picture is cool

Edited September 22 by 1337

[Evelyna]

@1337 Hmm honestly I wouldn’t ask. He already said it is too personal to talk about so, in your position I would leave it alone, he will tell you when he is ready to do so or when he feel comfortable enough to do so. For now enjoy the good moments together, in the present moment as they happen. You could mention during conversation that you want to let him know that whatever happened back then you don’t need to know that you understand he had some stuff going on , everyone has from to time , what’s important is the fact you are back to doing stuff together, that shows a respect towards his privacy and maturity on your side. At the end of the day it most likely had nothing to do with you and really was a personal matter. 

Edited September 22 by Evelyna