do you have to be a gay guy to understand the perspective of a straight women in bed?

[Emerald]

On 9/11/2024 at 11:36 AM, Majed said:

like to understand what straight women find hot about men, don't you have to be gay ?

No. But I have noticed that straight guys have a disadvantage when it comes to recognizing their own attractiveness and what a woman would be attracted to in them... specifically because a lot of straight guys have fears about recognizing what's attractive about a man, in case it means they're gay. And there's also taboos around a man being too Feminine. 

In contrast, women tend to know what's attractive about women, because most women can and do appreciate feminine beauty. And even the straightest of straight women can recognize and appreciate an attractive woman and know what a man finds attractive about her.

And she will know why a man responds with attraction to herself as well, and she can emphasize those qualities for greater effect because she can put herself in the straight man's shoes.

But most straight men don't put themselves in women's shoes because of social taboos.

And they don't let themselves recognize and meditate on masculine attractiveness. And they don't sense what a woman would find attractive about a man beyond utilitarian things like money, protection, etc... that make sense to them logically. They tend to just memorize a biology lesson or incorporate Social Darwinism as the rationale for why women are attracted to men.

To many straight men, the idea that a man could be the object of desire is foreign and abstract to them. It isn't a felt sense, just an intellectual knowing.

And so, many straight men don't actually recognize what's attractive about them. And they just try out a bunch of formulaic stuff that's tried and tested without any intuitive sense about how a woman really feels.

[RendHeaven]

On 9/12/2024 at 0:36 AM, Majed said:

like to understand what straight women find hot about men, don't you have to be gay ?

No just take a low does of MALT lol