Thread dedicated to inner child work,ptsd, CPTSD and trauma work

[Buck Edwards]

Patrick Teahan is a great resource. 

 

[Norbert Somogyi]

 

[Ajay0]

 

https://www.everydayhealth.com/ptsd/guide/treatment/

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Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” is a common treatment that involves talking with a doctor or other mental health professional about your condition. This type of therapy can occur one-on-one or in a group setting. Psychotherapy is increasingly seen as the “gold standard” first line of treatment for PTSD by many clinicians.

“PTSD is one diagnosis for which the psychotherapy modalities, which are evidence-based, are shown to be far more effective than any medication,” says Scott R. Hunter, MD, a board-certified psychiatrist in Santa Monica, California. Those modalities include therapies like prolonged exposure therapy, cognitive processing therapy, and eye movement desensitization (all described later).

“A core component of the most effective therapies is that you talk to someone who helps you learn how to manage your symptoms yourself,” Dr. Hunter says.

 

 

[Ulax]

https://integralguide.com/

^ A comprehensive meta-guide to healing

Edited September 9 by Ulax

[Lyubov]

https://www.youtube.com/@WuWeiWisdom

Probably the best teacher I have been so lucky to come across if you wish to resolve any issues that are keeping you from living as one and unaligned with your true value, spirit, god, whatever you wish to call it 

[Buck Edwards]

 

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[Buck Edwards]

Chair technique. 

 

Edited September 12 by Buck Edwards

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[Buck Edwards]

This is a very effective technique. 

 

[Buck Edwards]

[Buck Edwards]

This is a great channel for trauma work. 

 

[Buck Edwards]

 

[WonderSeeker]

Trauma and the Soul by: Donald Kalsched

[Buck Edwards]

 

[Buck Edwards]

Grounding exercise

 

Edited September 21 by Buck Edwards

[Buck Edwards]

People pleasing behaviors that trauma induced individuals need to be avoiding. 

We all want to be liked, but sometimes, our desire to please others can get in the way of our own self-respect.The difference boils down to authenticity. Constantly bending to accommodate others can often hide our true selves and intentions.

 

1) Always saying yes

One of the most common people-pleasing behaviors is the inability to say no. And trust me, being a ‘yes’ person can be exhausting.Often, we find ourselves agreeing to things we don’t want to do, purely to avoid disappointing others. But in doing so, we end up neglecting our own needs and wants.Saying no doesn’t mean you’re being rude or unkind. It’s about self-care and valuing your own time and energy.

 

2) Constantly apologizing

Now, this is a tough one for me personally. I’ve always been the kind to over-apologize, even when it’s not warranted. Anyone else relate? It’s like an automatic response, saying sorry for things that aren’t even my fault. I’ve realized over time that it’s one of those people-pleasing habits that actually undermines my self-respect.Working on this habit has been a game changer for me. I’ve learned to pause before saying ‘sorry’ and consider whether an apology is truly necessary.

 

3) Suppressing your opinions

Did you know that the most respected people in any context are often those who are unafraid to voice their thoughts and opinions?

Holding back your thoughts for the sake of pleasing others can create a false image of agreeability. While it might make you seem easygoing in the short term, it can also lead to others perceiving you as someone without strong convictions or ideas. Don't suppress yourself. When you are your authentic self, it will boost your self respect. 

4) Overcommitting

Being reliable is a great trait, but overcommitting is a different story. It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking on too many tasks or responsibilities in an effort to please others.What happens then? You stretch yourself too thin, compromising on the quality of your work and the time you have for yourself. This could lead to stress, burnout and even resentment towards those you’re trying to please.The key here is balance. Know your limits, understand your priorities, and don’t be afraid to delegate or turn down tasks that are beyond your capacity.

5) Neglecting self-care

Taking care of others is a wonderful trait, but not at the expense of your own well-being.when you consistently put others’ needs before your own, you’re sending a message – to yourself and to them – that their needs are more important than yours. And that’s simply not true.

Set boundaries and say no. 

 

6) Seeking constant validation

For a long time, I found myself relying heavily on others’ approval to feel good about myself. Every decision, every accomplishment, seemed less significant unless someone else validated it.But over time, I’ve learned that this is a dangerous path. Constantly seeking validation from others can make you lose sight of your own worth and achievements. It can trap you in an endless cycle of trying to meet others’ expectations, leaving you feeling unfulfilled and discontent.It’s nice to be appreciated, but don’t let others’ opinions define your worth or success. You are enough just as you are. And that’s something no one else should have the power to validate or invalidate.

7) Avoiding confrontation

Avoiding confrontation is a common behavior among people-pleasers. It’s often easier to keep quiet or agree than to voice disagreement and risk upsetting someone.However, avoiding confrontation doesn’t resolve issues; it just suppresses them. Over time, unaddressed issues can build resentment and undermine relationships.Expressing your feelings or addressing issues doesn’t have to be confrontational. It can be done in a respectful and assertive manner that fosters understanding and mutual respect.

8) Sacrificing your dreams

Your dreams and aspirations are the essence of who you are. They give you purpose, direction, and happiness.Sacrificing your dreams to please others is perhaps the most damaging behavior of all. It’s like denying your own existence, your own worth.

 

[Buck Edwards]

 

Five Crucial phases of Healing

1. Realize what trauma is doing to you 

2. Understand dysregulation as the primary driver of symptoms. Learn to re regulate. 

3. Learn to connect with other people. 

4. Face your self defeating behaviors

5. Shed limited ideas about yourself and discover the real you. 

 

[Buck Edwards]

The basic exercise by Stanley Rosenberg. Vagus nerve stimulation.