Interpret my ex's behavior - mixed signals

[NoSelfSelf]

Just now, Registered said:

I mentioned it already. My bruised ego if anything. Caused by the rejection out of nowhere and being replaced. I want to be the one that calls the shit quits on my terms. So i want her to come back first, then we can have our goodbye. 

And you wonder why she replaced you im done here good luck...

[NoSelfSelf]

Just now, Registered said:

We've already made plans for Monday. Calling now would be needy. 

😂😂😂

[Registered]

Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

😂😂😂

no? What's your read and thoughts?

[Daniel Balan]

10 minutes ago, Registered said:

True, it's just a bit fresh, i'm going to come to my senses, very soon. I'll be reflecting on this. Thank for this caring, loving comment

I will give my father as an example here, my mother never loved my father, he was exactly like you, she constantly told him that she wanted someone else and they should divorce, but he insisted and never let her go, eventually she got pregnant with me, she carried rocks and heavy objects in order to lose the pregnancy and always wanted to do an abortion but with the entire family from his side and from my mothers side trying to convince her to keep the baby, eventually I was born and a short time after that mother found someone else and my father did exactly like you do, she toyed with him all the time and in the end they divorced, now my father is totally destroyed mentally he never did anything with his life after that, he even to this day is depressed and is living alone and hopeless. Please learn from this story and make sure to never chase someone that doesn't value you one bit.

[Registered]

9 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

@Registered I understand how you feel and it is very hard to let go of someone you deeply love, I do believe in second chances but you have to think long term. Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? What she does now she will always do. With this woman you will never be able to build something, Imagine you want to buy a house, how could you ever save money together with this woman in order to buy the home for your family?

Trust me i realize this, there's no trusting this person with anything i would want to remain stable. That ship was sailed. You're right. My plan is not to bring her back to build a life with her. 

Edited September 7 by Registered

[Registered]

3 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

I will give my father as an example here, my mother never loved my father, he was exactly like you, she constantly told him that she wanted someone else and they should divorce, but he insisted and never let her go, eventually she got pregnant with me, she carried rocks and heavy objects in order to lose the pregnancy and always wanted to do an abortion but with the entire family from his side and from my mothers side trying to convince her to keep the baby, eventually I was born and a short time after that mother found someone else and my father did exactly like you do, she toyed with him all the time and in the end they divorced, now my father is totally destroyed mentally he never did anything with his life after that, he even to this day is depressed and is living alone and hopeless. Please learn from this story and make sure to never chase someone that doesn't value you one bit.

Thanks for sharing that your life story. I'll definitely call it quits soon no matter what and move on with my life. I'll be just trying to gain some experience here for a few days/ couple of weeks. Then ill leave this chapter behind me. 

[Daniel Balan]

@Registered I wish you good luck!

[Sugarcoat]

6 minutes ago, Registered said:

I mentioned it already. My bruised ego if anything. Caused by the rejection out of nowhere and being replaced. I want to be the one that calls the shit quits on my terms. So i want her to come back first, then we can have our goodbye. 

that's just petty imo

[Registered]

3 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

that's just petty imo

Definitely is. I need to get over myself and let the emotions subside. 

 

4 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

@Registered I wish you good luck!

Thanks brother <3

[Sugarcoat]

37 minutes ago, Atb210201 said:

If you want her just tell her you want her and you don't want to see her with some other guy that's just it simple as that

Your relationship It's already in a complicated situation make it simple for yourself and don't wait and beat around the Bush go on face her and find out the real answer for your own sake

Demand a yes or no answer from her if she wants you or not If her answer is no do your self a favor and do not stay any longer at all and cut her from your life go on find someone else

this is good advice, if he wanted her 

Edited September 7 by Sugarcoat

[Atb210201]

43 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

this is good advice, if he wanted her 

I sensed some wanting from him I thought he still might want her

But who knows only he himself knows that deep within 

[Sugarcoat]

5 minutes ago, Atb210201 said:

I sensed some wanting from him I thought he still might want her

But who knows only he himself knows that deep within 

Yea if he’s honest with himself and self aware enough 

Edited September 7 by Sugarcoat

[Atb210201]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

Yea if he’s honest with himself 

Sure he can be only he could know what he actually wants

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Atb210201 said:

Sure he can be only he could know what he actually wants

Yea

[Buck Edwards]

You have to let go and find someone else. She is probably using you for the time being sensing the neediness in you. The relationship is not fair for you though. If she wants to be with the other person she should be clear about it. Let her decide what she wants. Don't plan anymore dates with her as she is not prepared to be with you so she can't be trusted enough. 

[Schizophonia]

You don’t need us. It seems you just need friends to talk with.

Edited September 7 by Schizophonia

[Rishabh R]

Dude from my experience - Moving on is a superpower .