[SERIOUS] Suicidal due to academic situation. | I have a note and rope ready.

[Something Funny]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

How about I talk to him rather than your hypotheticals.

He already asked a similar question, but didn't get an answer. 

It's a legitimate worry too have, no?

[Leo Gura]

There is nothing wrong with working a simple job. Billions of people do it and find happiness.

Many successful people started out with very basic jobs. Or even homeless.

Edited September 9 by Leo Gura

[Alex4]

Hey man, let me give you a quick rundown of my story, in case it helps.

My father always pushed me to be good at math and to pursue a career in engineering. So, I signed up for industrial engineering. The first year went terribly, and even though I thought I could eventually pass (if I put in a lot of years and effort), I would’ve ended up being a mediocre engineer.

So, I lowered the bar and switched to international trade, which still had some math but more at my level. I graduated 4 years ago and things are going great. I’m good at what I do, and I actually enjoy it. I don’t make as much as an engineer, but I’m happy.

And after working for a few years, I’ve realized that the degree you choose isn’t that important. Looking back, I would’ve studied history (because it’s my passion), and if I didn’t find anything in that field, I would’ve done a specialized master’s in something like international business, international relations, or supply chain management. 

Please do not commit suicide over this.

[Ajay0]

I would ask you to do a psychological test with a career counsellor which would pinpoint out your strengths and weaknesses, and then choose a profitable career based on the evaluation. 

This helped me a lot when I was young, though i wished I had done it earlier when I was entering college so that I could have made informed choices then.

Edited September 9 by Ajay0

[vibv]

@Husseinisdoingfine I get the sense that a lot of your perspective still comes from your parents.

Go live on your own! How's that for a trajectory?

[vibv]

13 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I'm not dropping out of college because I and my family are too invested in me getting a degree.

Stop giving a fuck what your family thinks of you. You are your own human! It will feel so liberating for you to cut that umbilical cord.

Does your family know that you're suicidal? Maybe that would change their mind...

They may not want you to drop out of college —but they DEFINITELY don't want you to kill yourself.

Edited September 9 by vibv

[Kuba Powiertowski]

@Husseinisdoingfine stop being dramatic, Brother. Listen to the wise advice from people here. Turning off your avatar, called suicide, will not end anything. Quite the opposite. You will experience frustration, anger, irritation on an incomparably larger scale. Here, as a human, you have the opportunity to work through it. And you have no way out. You will not escape from yourself anywhere. Get to work, Brother👊

[Juan]

Even if things went well for you, you succeed at what you wanted if not more, the fact that you have a suicidal tendency is more worrisome. Other stuff in life can happen (like losing your parents, you name the example), you could probably have this tendency so I would suggest to go to a good therapist and do your best in heal. 

[Javfly33]

3 hours ago, vibv said:

@Husseinisdoingfine I get the sense that a lot of your perspective still comes from your parents.

Go live on your own! How's that for a trajectory?

 

3 hours ago, vibv said:

Stop giving a fuck what your family thinks of you. You are your own human! It will feel so liberating for you to cut that umbilical cord.

Does your family know that you're suicidal? Maybe that would change their mind...

They may not want you to drop out of college —but they DEFINITELY don't want you to kill yourself.

this

[Bobby_2021]

The university system suffocated the hell out of me even though my psyche was pretty much cut out for it. I was quite happy the it closed tf down from c19. That's was like God's gift to me and I got to spend time in solitude which I so craved for.

It's not really your fault to be frank that you feel like shit. The system is designed to make you feel that way regardless of whether you wre pursuing your interests or not. 

Giving up means you are letting the corrupt system win. 

Why not live fruitfully and show them that you don't need them? 

[Leo Gura]

@Husseinisdoingfine Go cut up your rope.

Do it.

Your mood will improve as you start taking right action.

Edited September 9 by Leo Gura

[Husseinisdoingfine]

What should I do with my immediate living situation? Move out of my parents? With what money? Minimum wage money?

Should I drop out of college? If so, what do I do in the meantime? How will I explain this to my parents? They only accept me living with them because "at least I'm not doing nothing (going to college) ".

Edited September 9 by Husseinisdoingfine

[Leo Gura]

@Husseinisdoingfine You will work on figuring out your life and future.

[CARDOZZO]

51 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

What should I do with my immediate living situation? Move out of my parents? With what money? Minimum wage money?

Should I drop out of college? If so, what do I do in the meantime? How will I explain this to my parents? They only accept me living with them because "at least I'm not doing nothing (going to college) ".

Give yourself permission to disappoint your parents. 

You'll feel extreme freedom for hurting your reputation. Break it in pieces. Let it go.

Be honest with your parents, tell them the truth and your whole situation. 

Your root problem is envy and comparison to outside standards of who you should be to survive. Let it go.

 

 

Edited September 9 by CARDOZZO

[Javfly33]

52 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

Move out of my parents? With what money? Minimum wage money?

why not. Find a job and live by your own, in this there can be 300% more growth than going to university. Especially if you are not going to study something you like. 

Edited September 9 by Javfly33

[Leo Gura]

You can live with your parents for a while, get a job, and even help them pay some bills. Don't move out if you don't have to. You can save good money living at home.

Edited September 9 by Leo Gura

[Davino]

Maybe you find value in this short film. I feel like they are living in your head, your parents, society, expectations...

That's the crime you have comitted towards yourself. To neglect and deny who you are to please others and fit into expectations that are not your own. You fear that more than death, isn't it crazy how you got into this situation?

[How to be wise]

@Husseinisdoingfine Think about Leo’s reputation as well. There have been too much suicides in this forum, eventually it will get Leo into trouble. 

[Mosby]

3 hours ago, How to be wise said:

Think about Leo’s reputation as well.

bruh seriously? 

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, How to be wise said:

@Husseinisdoingfine Think about Leo’s reputation as well. There have been too much suicides in this forum, eventually it will get Leo into trouble. 

Can you go and look at the stats per/day/yr in the US alone. I've seen 2 here since I've been registered since 2020. More threateners, but only actually 2 commited. 2 in 4 yrs for a public forum. I just checked, 49,000 people died by suicide in the US in 2022 alone. 

Leo could probably sue the state if he got in trouble. People are committing suicide left and right everyday everywhere. South Korea has the most and Norway, Sweden, Denmark and Finland the least.

Your neighbor probably threatened suicide yesterday and your co-worker is probably thinking about it as we speak and another 10 maybe 100 miles proximity from you in the last year. 2 in 4 yrs on a forum of people from across the globe is nothing even though one is one too many. 

Edited September 10 by Princess Arabia