Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

[Sidi]

I meet a girl online who lives 2 countries away. After texting a lot we seem to like each other. But we don't have any plans on meeting each other and I'm very skeptic about long distance relationships. I wanted to read what u think about long distance relationships. Thanks for your time  

[Guest Annetta]

Maybe?
I dated someone for a few years way back when but we were young.  Everyone's circumstances are unique.
Go for it if you're feeling it, don't if you don't.

[Prabhaker]

@Sidi 

Only long distance relationship can work. The happiest lovers are those who never meet.

One of the great poets of India, Rabindranath Tagore, has written a book. THE LAST POEM is the name of the book, but it is not a book of poetry; it is a novel. The hero and heroine are in deep love, they want to get married, but the uniqueness of it is that the heroine has agreed to marry him only on one condition: that they will not live in the same house.

They are very rich people and the woman suggests, "You can make a house on the other side of the lake. We will not invite each other; we will be meeting accidentally. Once in a while I may be boating, you may be boating; or I may be walking around the lake or you may be walking, but I want it to be accidental - and once in a while, not every day. I want to long for it, I want to wait for it, and I don't want to destroy it by having too much of it. I love you."

The man cannot understand. He says, "This is nonsense. If you love me... what you are suggesting, no lover has ever suggested. Lovers don't want to be separate even for a single moment. And what kind of love is this? - that I will be living far away on the other side of the lake. It is miles distant and you cannot invite me, I cannot invite you. We are married but we have to meet like strangers once in a while by chance, not by arrangement."

The woman said, "If you cannot understand it, then I am not for you."

What the woman is saying is perfectly true. If every lover had understood it, life would have been a very joyful experience. But lovers cling; they want to be together twenty-four hours a day. And they destroy something beautiful because they don't give a rest. It becomes a burden rather than a joy.

[egoeimai]

NO THEY CANT WORK.

END OF STORY.-

[ajasatya]

@Sidi no. an intimate relationship, at its finest, is supposed to provide peace of mind.

watch closely the feeling you have about this relationship. isn't it always that sort of anguish? are both of you desperate for egoic confirmations? do you run away from eye contact? are you running away from your insecurities? trace your own irresponsibility.

[jse]

51 minutes ago, Prabhaker said:

Only long distance relationship can work. The happiest lovers are those who never meet.

I wholeheartedly agree.  Having to share the bathroom is a romance killer.
And let's face it:  what is marriage anyway, but institutionalized slavery (for the man)?

I know what some of you are thinking - starting a family over long distance may be problematic.
Simple solution:  porn on the Internet.  Don't ask for details.

 

[egoeimai]

@Prabhaker looool this reply of yours ruined everything. It doesnt have to be "give it all" or "give nothing". Dude this is description/idea to an excessive degrew. Extreme at its best. Its so sad If people have this kind of relationship. Never meet each other,only randomly. 

[egoeimai]

14 minutes ago, jse said:

I wholeheartedly agree.  Having to share the bathroom is a romance killer.
And let's face it:  what is marriage anyway, but institutionalized slavery (for the man)?

I know what some of you are thinking - starting a family over long distance may be problematic.
Simple solution:  porn on the Internet.  Don't ask for details.

 

What the FFFF?

Who said that has to be romantic? Romance can only exist in literature.

Human needs are human needs. If u cant share the bathroom u r screwed. Looool.

Porn is the solution? Ok. Sad life.

[Prabhaker]

13 minutes ago, jse said:

what is marriage anyway, but institutionalized slavery (for the man)?

Marriage is something against nature. Marriage is an imposition, an invention of man – certainly out of necessity, but now even that necessity is out of date. It was a necessary evil in the past, but now it can be dropped. And it should be dropped: man has suffered enough for it, more than enough. It is an ugly institution for the simple reason that love cannot be legalized. Love and law are contradictory phenomena.

Love is creative, marriage is destructive. But love is not dependable: this moment it may be there and the next moment gone. And man wants permanent things; he is obsessed with permanent things. He wants security, safety, he wants to cling. Hence love is not reliable, so he created marriage.

Once two persons are tied together freedom is lost and anger arises. When freedom is lost everything becomes ugly. Love means that freedom remains intact: marriage means that freedom has been dropped. You have bargained for permanence, for security, and you have paid for it with freedom.

13 minutes ago, jse said:

Simple solution:  porn on the Internet.  Don't ask for details.

Jesus. Mahavira, Lao Tzu Chuang Tzu, they all remained unmarried. Buddha left his family , they lived blissfully, I think there was no internet two thousand years ago.

[Prabhaker]

2 minutes ago, egoeimai said:

Human needs are human needs.

Sex can be a need, love can be a need, living in a bondage using law, court, police can't be a need.

[Prabhaker]

9 minutes ago, egoeimai said:

Its so sad If people have this kind of relationship.

Marriage is a hell, but sometimes people need it. What to do? So I have to tell them to get into marriage. They need to pass through the hell of it, and they cannot understand the hell of it unless they pass through it. I am not saying that in marriage love cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity for it. I am not saying that in love marriage cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity, no logical necessity in it.

[Lai]

31 minutes ago, jse said:

I wholeheartedly agree.  Having to share the bathroom is a romance killer.
And let's face it:  what is marriage anyway, but institutionalized slavery (for the man)?

I know what some of you are thinking - starting a family over long distance may be problematic.
Simple solution:  porn on the Internet.  Don't ask for details.

José, get ready for some re-education when we meet.
 

[Lai]

12 minutes ago, Prabhaker said:

living in a bondage using law, court, police can't be a need.

Bondage using law and police?  
I think this works better:

[Evilwave Heddy]

3 minutes ago, Lai said:

José, get ready for some re-education when we meet.
 

Good luck becoming a cuck, jse. Lul

 

[Prabhaker]

23 minutes ago, egoeimai said:

Who said that has to be romantic?

If love is dies, then what remains ? 

   Then marriage is a permanent kind of prostitution; deep down, it is not different. Hence marriage and prostitution have both existed together.If you go into it, it is marriage that has created prostitution. And prostitution will never disappear from the world unless marriage disappears; it is the shadow of marriage. In fact prostitutes have been saving marriage. It is a safety measure so the man can go once in a while, just for a change, to any other woman, a prostitute, and save his marriage and its permanency. 

[Sidi]

Ok everybody thanks for your time... i decided that (at least for me ) such a relationship can't work. It can't be compared with what u can feel when the person is there with you. Please stop posting about marriage. This debate is supposed to be about long distance relationships, thanks for your understanding. 

Edited April 27, 2017 by Sidi

[Loreena]

What the . some of these comments are like...kindergarten...really.. So marriage is no longer sacred ? It's only about law, court, alimony. Who says so ? And the solution is only porn ? Omg. Why ? People never existed before. your grandfathers and great grandfathers never existed. Didn't they work hard to keep the marriage together. Didn't they have happy marriages ? Married is permanent prostitution ?   Lol what have your parents taught you. To look at a woman as a whore ? Just because you didn't get married, and your marriage didn't work out doesn't mean every marriage is a sham. Do not generalize so much just because you cannot the marital bliss that others have. And even if they didn't have, it could be a problem of the fuckn porn generation, don't blame a strong institution that existed for so many years. You people are taking marriage so much for granted. If a marriage has to work, both parties have to work hard for it, Don't blame Art if you can't become an artist. there are others who can.

Marriage is not just romance, its also living together, sharing together, loving each other, caring for each other. IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH. IN THE GOOD TIMES AND THE BAD TIMES. that's what marriage is. If you are a cyuk, nobody can help you, then satisfy yourself by fapping to porn, who cares, huh?  But don't disrespect the hard work that wonderful couples put in to make everything work. So much cynicism here, absolutely amazing isn't it. it takes a lot to be a good husband, a good father just like it takes a lot to be a good wife, a good mother. Didn't y'all parents even teach you this much.

 

Don't make mockery of a beautiful sacred institution just because you cannot honor the commitments demanded by it. You are always free to look for your cheaper substitutes of Porn, casual fucking, sex robot, woman robot(whatever the fell they call it), sex toys and all that.

True loves requires lot of strength, commitment, loyalty, hard work and all of that pays off really beautifully, If it doesn't its your bad luck, sit with it. Don't dream of true love when you cannot keep it.

 

 

I know in the real world, divorce happens, bad things happen, but understand this - What you create is what you get, If you want it to work, then you gotta create it. Manifest what you want by setting yourself as an example.

 

 

If this is the attitude then real love has really died, no hope sorry.

 

Looking for love when not ready to invest the effort and then placing blame on the opposite gender, looking for excuses and settling for Porn, one day you'll even get tired of porn, because its only sexual satisfaction. It doesn't fulfill the heart.

Marriage is hell, marriage is bondage. What  d. Marriage is equally hard for a woman, try being a woman sometimes, and especially a mother you whiny babies!! Marriage is bondage only if its unsuccessful and when you mess it up, when you cannot take responsibilities, and when you get a bad wife, yes I admit, aren't there bad husbands, do you only see bad wives, huh ? Just because one wife is bad, start painting the brush and call all women bad...great. Mistakes and failures happen on both sides. It takes two to make it and anyone or both to break it,

Dissatisfied cyks crying like fox and the grapes - because I cannot them, oh, well they must be sour !!

What a pity......................... generation these days  sigh

 

 

 

 

Edited April 27, 2017 by Loreena

[Shin]

If you too were together for a long time, and have to separate for a definite frame of time, why not,
But why start a relationship that can't even be considered as a relationship in the first place ?

If you ask yourself this question enough, and if you're honest with yourself, you'll find out why.

Hint: You're not gonna like the answer.

 

[Prabhaker]

@Loreena Nobody has courage to speak the truth, marriage is a social need, so nobody speaks about it honestly. Society don't want rebels,society wants slaves, which can be manipulated easily.

[Loreena]

@Prabhaker You keep imagining in your mind, that marriage is slavery. It might be for you. Maybe you are unmarried for the same reason. Doesn't mean it's slavery for all. The generalization .....oh ma gawd