Feeling of inferiority because of height

[siasatmadar]

I’m a short guy and I’m insecure about my height. Every time I stand next to taller people, especially guys, I feel inferior and less worthy compared to them. It destroys my self-confidence.

It also makes me less entitled to talking to girls as I believe they deserve someone taller than me.

I’ve had positive reference experiences before. For example, my ex was taller than me and there is a taller girl who has explicitly told me that she wants to have a relationship with me. Also, it’s inspiring for me to see guys with the same height as me who are doing extremely good with women. I remember watching RSD Max, who is a bit shorter than me, surrounded by taller guys whom he was coaching.

How do I stop beating up myself and feeling low-value because of my height?

[Sugarcoat]

Separate yourself from your looks. You don’t have to like how you look, but don’t beat yourself down for it, because those are two different things, you and your looks

 

Edited September 1, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Raze]

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Edited September 1, 2024 by Raze

[NoSelfSelf]

20 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Separate yourself from your looks. You don’t have to like how you look, but don’t beat yourself down for it, because those are two different things, you and your looks

 

I see you made some progress 👏

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

I see you made some progress 👏

I have bigger problems now that’s the thing 😂 but yes 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

I have bigger problems now that’s the thing 😂 but yes 

Big girl pants are on i see 😂

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

Big girl pants are on i see 😂

Yes 😂

[shree]

Shift focus to your strengths. When people mention it, joke about it. it shows confidence. You don’t need to compete with taller guys.

 

Instead, focus on what makes you unique and attractive.

 

Learn to own your space wherever you are.

Doing MMA helped me build confidence, strengthen my boundaries with people, and become more assertive. It could be a good way to develop these qualities, so you might consider something like that.

 

Remember, your value isn’t in your height. Focus on your personality, skills, and attitude. Those are what truly make you stand out.

Edited September 2, 2024 by shree

[Nemra]

@siasatmadar, changing your height is beyond your control, at least in your lifespan, I think.

If women are attracted to you despite you being short, then it's not about women but your non-acceptance of being short than other guys.

Edited September 1, 2024 by Nemra

[manuel bon]

55 minutes ago, siasatmadar said:

I’m a short guy and I’m insecure about my height. Every time I stand next to taller people, especially guys, I feel inferior and less worthy compared to them. It destroys my self-confidence.

It also makes me less entitled to talking to girls as I believe they deserve someone taller than me.

I’ve had positive reference experiences before. For example, my ex was taller than me and there is a taller girl who has explicitly told me that she wants to have a relationship with me. Also, it’s inspiring for me to see guys with the same height as me who are doing extremely good with women. I remember watching RSD Max, who is a bit shorter than me, surrounded by taller guys whom he was coaching.

How do I stop beating up myself and feeling low-value because of my height?

In my opinion it's not true that you should not like your looks. You should, simply by realizing that you are born with the body you have. It's special, nobody's like you.

I think that the paranoias we have towards our bodies are planted in our brain by societal rules. And these exist since thousands of years, think of the ancient Greeks trying to make "perfect sculpture bodies" with their "perfect ratio". 

All this doesn't make sense. Realize that you are unique the way you are. I don't know how you can do it... But in the moment I really understood this, I stopped judging my body and all the paranoias I had (I am short, have a big nose, I'm skinny fat, blablablah) simply disappeared.

Good luck man, I believe in you❤️ 

[Princess Arabia]

I'm like 5'10" and short guys are constantly approaching me. My ex was shorter than me and shorter guys, to me, shows a lot of confidence. Maybe it's to compensate for their height in their mind, idk. I actually prefer guys my height, maybe 5'11" or shorter. I said before I would date a midget if we were very compatible and had fun together. Some guys who meet me sitting down usually say something about my height when I stand; but they don't mind because, to them, I'm pretty so even if they like shorter females, they don't care. Guys are more worried about their own height than most women. Try to compensate in other areas if you feel insecure about it. A good quality female won't use that against you, if she's feeling you.

[Tenebroso]

I am 6'4 and have never really had a love life.  I don't want to dismiss your experiences but I can tell you there is no automatic romantic free pass for tall men, a lot of other things still have to line up in your favour. Attraction is mysterious and paradoxical.

[Salvijus]

If you judge other people's value on their looks (in this case on their height), then you won't be able to escape judging your own value on the same basis. 

Edited September 2, 2024 by Salvijus

[Princess Arabia]

On 9/2/2024 at 1:21 AM, Lila9 said:

Short men can still be very attractive and charismatic. There are tall men with very little charisma and short men with insane levels of it. I myself am the product of love between a tall woman and a short man, my parents.

I think that the most unattractive thing about short men is not their height but insecurity and lack of self acceptance. 

This. My mom was taller than my dad also. Maybe that's why I don't mind shorter men. Most of them are so charismatic. Taller men with muscles are usually, from what I've seen, are full of themselves and are in the mirror more than the ladies. 

[Schizophonia]

4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

This. My mom was taller than my dad also. Maybe that's why I don't mind shorter men. Most of them are so charismatic. Taller men with muscles are usually, from what I've seen, are full of themselves and are in the mirror more than the ladies. 

Lol.

 

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

Lol.

 

What's so funny.

[Yimpa]

Just accept that you will never be accepted by mainstream society. That's a boring life, anyway. Over time, you will find your niche; it'll be the best love story you'll ever telltale-whale-snail.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Princess Arabia Mirrors dont play games 😏

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Princess Arabia Mirrors dont play games 😏

Not sure what your point is, but OK.

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

What's so funny.

Because it makes 0 sense 🤣