Starting to find all human interaction burdensome

[The Caretaker]

2 hours ago, Bobby_2021 said:

All human interaction? No.

Most human interaction? Yes.

This sums up my position as well. Casual discussion with coworkers don't bring me much joy as well. But I do feel in a much better mental state after I speak to somebody. Yes, feel at "peace" when I am alone, but at the same time, my mind is starting to play games with me.

[Ropuch7]

23 hours ago, Onecirrus said:

I was just wondering if anyone else could relate?

It definitely feels like that for me.

But I avoid thinking about it in this way. Because you CAN make it fun for yourself.

Relationships may not be the best thing you can imagine, but you sure can make them feel worse by resisting and dwelling on the impurity.

In other words, I do relate, but I am also mindful of how I am creating the experience.

[gettoefl]

the law of god is giving is receiving

you don't need happiness

because guess what you're its source

and not to burst bubbles

but no-one else alas has it

so your role is the game of tag

psst - pass it on

best to know you beforehand

for which no forest is necessary

[Ishanga]

On 8/20/2024 at 11:58 AM, Onecirrus said:

I think one of the most profound discoveries of my life is that human interaction does not really produce happiness. It can be a nice experience, but it’s ultimately an impermanent fleeting experience, and it doesn’t really fundamentally make me feel any better than if I didn’t have it. In fact, just being alone in my own awareness is far more satisfying than having to play human. All human conversation is also usually about past, future, problems, and pop culture, it really drags me into concepts, thinking, meaning making, and judgment, which all really produces quite a bit of unhappiness and obscure being. Playing human just ultimately feels like a chore, I was just wondering if anyone else could relate?

Yes for sure in many ways, but this is due to a very strong Identification with the Mind and Intellect that everyone is having in today's Societies.  The Intellects main purpose is to separate or compartmentalize things so You can understand it better, so if You think this Intellect is You, then it is breaking everything and everyone down to pieces when ever there is an interaction, its analysing and reacting and such, so this is very complex and basically demoralizing to say the least, its like trying to know someone by dissecting them, it doesn't work like that..

To really know someone You have to Include them as Yourself, some form of Intimacy (not sexual) has to be formed, and once it is then the relationship gets more intense and personal and alive, if that is not present then being involved with other ppl will feel burdensome for sure!!

[Wilhelm44]

I can relate, but I do remember Matt Kahn saying that at some stage it all becomes interesting and fascinating again. So keep going, that sense of human interaction feeling burdensome is not the final stage. We're not meant to only be in full joy when meditating in the forrest. 

[NoN-RaTiOnAL]

On 20/08/2024 at 6:58 PM, Onecirrus said:

I think one of the most profound discoveries of my life is that human interaction does not really produce happiness. It can be a nice experience, but it’s ultimately an impermanent fleeting experience, and it doesn’t really fundamentally make me feel any better than if I didn’t have it. In fact, just being alone in my own awareness is far more satisfying than having to play human. All human conversation is also usually about past, future, problems, and pop culture, it really drags me into concepts, thinking, meaning making, and judgment, which all really produces quite a bit of unhappiness and obscure being. Playing human just ultimately feels like a chore, I was just wondering if anyone else could relate?

generally i would agree with you BUT i would say from my experience that having social connections and having small talk with different people i meet throughtout my day produces a kind of general feeling of "the world is safe and people are good" which provides a small sense of oneness with the world for me which lasts and isnt fleeting. if i compare a day i spend alone with myself or a day i had a few nice interactions i generally tend to feel happier when i had some interactions. and i say all that as an introvert. 

also, keep in mind that social interactions are basically a set of skills and as you become better at them you also derive more joy out of it. all those gurus who always shit on social interactions are also usually not very active socially and are not that developed in that area of their life. 

Edited August 22 by NoN-RaTiOnAL

[Ero]

Totally understandable. At a certain level of consciousness, human bullshit just becomes tiring.