Projecting onto others

[Spiritual Warrior]

I have developed a keen awareness that I am constantly projecting my own desires onto other people. Now I look at it and I can't believe I was so blind to it before. 

I'll give you an example..

Some background information is that I'm a dance instructor, I dance for a living.

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I had plans to take my girlfriend out to dinner tonight so I set that all up. But then my dance friends told me that they are going out to this salsa club after work. My deep and selfish desire is to completely ditch my girlfriend and go to the salsa club without her so that I can have fun and practice my dancing. Instead of admitting this to myself, I text her and ask her if she really wants to go out because it doesn't seem like she does. At the time of asking her this, I had no idea that it was me that didn't want to go, no awareness about that at all, I constructed thought patterns in my own head that put the blame onto her, as a way to somehow get out of going out with her. 

Right after I sent that text to her, I  realized  that it was my own desires all along being thrown onto her. 

Fucking crazy that my mind works like this. 

I will continue to look for ways that I am not taking responsibility for my own true desires and instead projecting them into other people. 

I contribute this insight to my meditation practice, I can feel myself becoming more and more aware every day.

Leo's last video on the psychology of being wrong was also helpful. 

Look for ways that you project your own desires onto other people.

Look for ways that you are not being honest about your own true desires. 

[Salvijus]

8 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I had plans to take my girlfriend out to dinner tonight so I set that all up. But then my dance friends told me that they are going out to this salsa club after work. My deep and selfish desire is to completely ditch my girlfriend and go to the salsa club without her so that I can have fun and practice my dancing. Instead of admitting this to myself, I text her and ask her if she really wants to go out because it doesn't seem like she does. At the time of asking her this, I had no idea that it was me that didn't want to go, no awareness about that at all, I constructed thought patterns in my own head that put the blame onto her, as a way to somehow get out of going out with her. 

Lol

9 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I contribute this insight to my meditation practice, I can feel myself becoming more and more aware every day.

Bingo