I havent had sex for over a year now. I feel shameful.

[Applegarden8]

I haven't got any for 28 years 8) and I don't really care to be honest. The desire comes and it goes and the most time of the day I spend without wanting it. I am starting to think my talents lie in other things than that.

Edited August 16 by Applegarden8

[Schizophonia]

The problem of existence of life.

 

[meta_male]

11 hours ago, fabger said:

I'm comparing myself to others on social media.

If you go out to meet real people your problem will solve itself.

[Javfly33]

58 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

The problem of existence of life.

 

@Schizophonia What you mean?

[museumoftrees]

You are fine. Just approach women. Or don't.

[Joshe]

I think I'm going on like 6 or 7 years with no sex and am not bothered by it because the cost is too high. To get sex, you have to give something in return. 

It's possible you're more concerned about how others would perceive you if they knew you weren't getting any. If that's going on, reject the conformist ideals. 

For those who've never had sex, it might help if you find a girlfriend and have sex with her 500 times. Do that 2 or 3 times. It seems like only about 25% of girls have the good stuff, so try to get one of those. Eventually, you'll look down at it and wonder, "what am I doing?". That's when it loses all it's magic. The thrill fades away and only comes back momentarily, which can be handled in a swift minute. 

Sex is not as important as it seems to be when we're younger. 

Edited August 17 by Joshe

[Joshe]

37 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

This is not an effective method to prevent pregnancy. Unless the woman is not fertile at all.

Use condom and save the headache for your partner of getting through the exhausting process of abortion.

Hmm, I thought it was but I could have been wrong and just got lucky a thousand times. Maybe they were infertile, or maybe I am. Lol. Yeah, I’m going to remove that line because it could be wrong. Thanks. They all got pregnant after me, so either I’m infertile or it worked. Or it just wasn’t in the cards. 

Edited August 17 by Joshe

[Joshe]

@Lila9 yeah, that happens. I imagine it’s quite common in superficial relationships where the girl doesn’t want anything to do with the guy or she doesn’t feel safe or know how he’ll respond. My girlfriends wanted to get pregnant and couldn’t stand my refusal to have sex during their ovulation windows. I wouldn’t recommend having sex without condoms with random hookups but I do recommend it in relationships. Sex with a condom is like getting a back massage with a ski jacket on. 

Edited August 17 by Joshe

[Schizophonia]

17 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

@Schizophonia What you mean?

That his problem isn't that important.

 

[Keryo Koffa]

53 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

That his problem isn't that important.

@Schizophonia I haven't had psychedelics in a month! Take that for an important problem!

Edited August 17 by Keryo Koffa

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Keryo Koffa said:

@Schizophonia I haven't had psychedelics in a month! Take that for an important problem!

And me for a year !

In addition i have plenty of 4 HO MET in my bag.

mhhhh

[Keryo Koffa]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

And me for a year ! In addition i have plenty of 4 HO MET in my bag. mhhhh

Daaaammmnnnn!!! How aren't you calcifying into a normie human yet?! (like one concerned with relationships)

[Schizophonia]

16 minutes ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Daaaammmnnnn!!! How aren't you calcifying into a normie human yet?! (like one concerned with relationships)

 

But i am a normie !!! 

 

[Keryo Koffa]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

But i am a normie !!! 

Us derailing threads reminds me of how I derailed the universe when I converged Stage Coral!

Edited August 17 by Keryo Koffa

[Schizophonia]

14 minutes ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Us derailing threads reminds me of how I derailed the universe when I converged Stage Coral!

We think that what we have to say is more interesting that the initial subject of the topic.

Hence the "narcissistic" score at the DSM test.

Q.E.D 

Edited August 17 by Schizophonia

[Keryo Koffa]

25 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

We think that what we have to say is more interesting that the initial subject of the topic.

Hence the "narcissistic" score at the DSM test. Q.E.D 

100%, you got me! Us...

[LordFall]

I mean same. I'm not a massive fan of casual sex though and I'm not stable enough to date a woman I would be really attracted to so mostly in "monk mode."

Trying to quit porn and channel that energy into building my life which is half-working so let's see where I end up in 6 months.

 

[Fabio]

On 8/16/2024 at 1:45 AM, fabger said:

I havent done it for more than a year because of several reasons. School, work, not meeting new people etc... Recently I have become severly insecure about it, which is making me even more needy, insecure, and envious. I feel like I trapped myself. Now that I'm out of college my social life is basically nonexistent. What's even crazier is that I'm slowly starting to believe, that i'm an incel. I constantly need reasurance that I'm not and I'm comparing myself to others on social media. I was hesitant about making this post but I'm just very fearful about my future in terms of social stuff. I'm already 25

I have had experiences like that, maybe 6 months dry spells.. where despite my efforts in game I didn't get past 2nd base.. a lot of close ones.

To be relatable, I understand the feeling of like feeling Im never going to get laid again and blaming myself or women. Im almost 30 and experienced that many times, and it has eventually always happened again. Been seeing two new girls in the last month and a half .. but I've been putting in the work for the last year and a half. It seems like its getting easier and could happen even more often. Anyway, the thing that changed things most for me is working on my mindset and being okay whether or not it happens and reminding myself constantly that its okay and I'm valuable either way. 25 is not old. You underestimate how much you can change if you put in the work internally and externally.  The process can be enjoyable, I've made a lot of guy friends through learning game too. 

Its okay to feel down, but see it for what it is , just a feeling and temporary perspective.  

Edited August 19 by Fabio

[QVx]

On 17/08/2024 at 5:49 AM, Lila9 said:

This is not an effective method to prevent pregnancy. Unless the woman is not fertile at all.

Use condom and save the headache for your partner of getting through the exhausting process of abortion.

Gentlemen, please take Lila9 advice. There is no safe natural method which is anywhere near as effective as modern contraception such as condoms and the contraceptive pill/implant. A natural method also does not protect from STDs.

Not using contraception in favour of a natural approach, or taking a gamble, is a fools errand. The physical and physiological damage for a women can be life changing. There is also bringing a child into the world without the means to provide them with safety and love.

Don’t be a fool, wrap your tool.

Edited August 21 by QVx

[El Zapato]

you've answered your own question...don't feel bad...sex is ok, but many times not worth the hassle (especially with a wife that you don't like but have a child with)...