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I havent had sex for over a year now. I feel shameful.

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I havent done it for more than a year because of several reasons. School, work, not meeting new people etc... Recently I have become severly insecure about it, which is making me even more needy, insecure, and envious. I feel like I trapped myself. Now that I'm out of college my social life is basically nonexistent. What's even crazier is that I'm slowly starting to believe, that i'm an incel. I constantly need reasurance that I'm not and I'm comparing myself to others on social media. I was hesitant about making this post but I'm just very fearful about my future in terms of social stuff. I'm already 25

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A year is not even that long.

No big deal.


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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So you're saying you feel like an incel? That's a rookie insecurity, if you really wanna climb the ladder, you gotta acquire more!

Here's a starter pack you can add to your arbitrary list of culturally exchangeable social game insecurity paradigms:

Jock/Nerd/Prep/Pop-Kid/Emo/Hipster/Gamer/Weeb/Bookworm/Loser/Geek/Wannabe/Try-Hard/Basic/Freak

It's on you, you are whatever you believe yourself to be and you can change that just as easily if you believed otherwise


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You're only an incel if you think that you're entitled to it and it's society's fault ;) 

One year isn't that long. I mean you had no sex for more than a decade at the beginning of your life (at least I hope so).

Furthermore spirituality aims to work with that energy in other ways than to release it in a sexual way — so you could even see it as an advantage!

Relax. Everything will unfold at the right time in the most perfect way.

Edited by vibv

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@Spiritual Warrior I had sex at 15 to see what all the fuss was about, it's nice, like chocolate, but way overhyped


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2 hours ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Here's a starter pack you can add to your arbitrary list of culturally exchangeable social game insecurity paradigms:

Love this sentence

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Posted (edited)

I’m 27 years old and I haven’t had sex in 27 years. You are okay mate.

Sex is a drug.

Edited by r0ckyreed

“Our most valuable resource is not time, but rather it is consciousness itself. Consciousness is the basis for everything, and without it, there could be no time and no resource possible. It is only through consciousness and its cultivation that one’s passions, one’s focus, one’s curiosity, one’s time, and one’s capacity to love can be actualized and lived to the fullest.” - r0ckyreed

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Comparisons work like that, is a Lost Game from the start

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3 hours ago, fabger said:

I havent done it for more than a year because of several reasons. School, work, not meeting new people etc... Recently I have become severly insecure about it, which is making me even more needy, insecure, and envious. I feel like I trapped myself. Now that I'm out of college my social life is basically nonexistent. What's even crazier is that I'm slowly starting to believe, that i'm an incel. I constantly need reasurance that I'm not and I'm comparing myself to others on social media. I was hesitant about making this post but I'm just very fearful about my future in terms of social stuff. I'm already 25

I totally understand you man, but let me tell you something. 

In September I'll turn 23. Last December I met my current girlfriend, and that was the first time I had sex after 2 years precisely. I was feeling like you are right now, and it's not nice for sure; my libido is pretty high, and not only I was not fulfilling this natural stimulus, I was also getting super insecure about myself. And then I met my girlfriend. 

My advice is: either you really work on it (pick up and these kinds of things), either you just go on with your life without this making you feel bad. Sooner or later you will find someone, and sex will happen. And also then you will understand that if not the biggest deal of your life (and of the relationship). 

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@manuel bon Nice advice, reminds me of Leo's "Worry is Useless" episode. Want something? Do it or don't but stop worrying.

Edited by Keryo Koffa

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Just now, Keryo Koffa said:

@manuel bon Nice advice, reminds me of Leo's "Worry is Useless" episode.

I haven't seen it, but I will do it soon. But yeah, many times we feel really bad about some worries we have, but it really doesn't help the situation. Of course sometimes the mind and thoughts are so strong that we feel helpless. 

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Bro i haven't had sex in 17 years

I'm quite happy 

 

 

(I'm 17)


I believe in the religion of Love
Whatever direction its caravans may take,
For love is my religion and my faith.

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5 hours ago, Keryo Koffa said:

@Spiritual Warrior I had sex at 15 to see what all the fuss was about, it's nice, like chocolate, but way overhyped

I agree. I'm trying to find ways to go deeper though, getting more in touch with the energy fields within my body, having better control over arousal and ejaculation, and studying how to have full body orgasms without ejaculation

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Well there’s a deeper unresolved spiritual lesson here. You are beating yourself up for not having sex. So you believe a person who goes a year or longer without sex is what? Not good enough? So not having sex affects a persons value? Is that true? 

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If you want to solve the fast way, go to a escort.

If you want to solve slowly, go to Tinder and be direct on your intentions :D 

You can go to clubs and talk to girls, maybe they want to fuck a spiritual nerd :P

Edited by CARDOZZO

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If you have a place that you can be alone with a girl for at least 3h, you are just not doing the work to solve it. 

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Select the fat girls (I love them ♥), average looking that are needy as hell so you can love them with all your spiritual force. 

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I’ve never had sex, why should it feel different from never going on a rollercoaster or something?

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And why do these posts get attention but not mine? :( 

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