Top advice for getting laid -Mega thread

[Tenebroso]

15 hours ago, DianaFr said:

As a female, my advice 'to get laid' (I hate this expression, it devalues sex like nothing else) is to have no intention to get laid, but instead being genuinely curious about the other person. What seems to 'work' is attunement, empathy, playfulness, cheerfulness, great listening skills, on one hand, and femininity, positive attitude to your own body and sexuality, and a sense of self, on the other. Good sense of humor and openness are very helpful as well. What I've found, men (and people in general) like to be heared and seen, and appreciated, and, after some time, challenged. Most men I've met, tend to keep their wall up (whatever it means for the particular person), so they often get caught by surprise that there's actually a back door to their protection. Since I love exploring the mind, the soul, and the body of the other, it all comes quite naturally, at least it used to when I was still dating. It's like a dance - synchronizing with your (potential) partner, following their lead and leading (inviting) when needed. 

Attunement, empathy, playfulness, cheerfulness, listening skills etc are all great qualities but they have nothing to do with attraction. Negative, psychopathic, abusive men have zero issues attracting all kinds of women. It is clear there is no correlation between being a good person and getting laid.

As we speak a racists, misogynistic killer Wade Wilson, who murdered two women has received 4000 love letters. Society does not want to deal with the dark truth of what really triggers raw female attraction.

Most men keep their wall up due to experience. If you are an adult man and have no experience of emotional safety why wouldn't you self-protect. It is a myth that women are more nurturing and emotionally intelligent than men. The overwhelming experience for men is that you can't trust women with your feelings.

Edited August 9 by Tenebroso

[Bittu]

3 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

It is a myth that women are nurturing and emotionally intelligent. 

Come on man. Why do you even want to deal with women if you think they are so horrible and only get attracted to narcissists and psychopaths?

Women are good people too, just like everyone else.

[Schizophonia]

19 hours ago, PenguinPablo said:

@Schizophonia Lowkey such a unique response and perspective

19 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

Thanks dude. One of the most helpful pieces of insights I have received on this forum.

Thanks.

 

[Schizophonia]

On 8/3/2024 at 8:53 AM, NoSelfSelf said:

Pay 150 euros  dont be cheap 😂

"A real men is not afraid to reveal his escort budget" 

 

NoSelfSelf - 2024

[PenguinPablo]

12 hours ago, DianaFr said:

As a female, my advice 'to get laid' (I hate this expression, it devalues sex like nothing else) is to have no intention to get laid, but instead being genuinely curious about the other person. What seems to 'work' is attunement, empathy, playfulness, cheerfulness, great listening skills, on one hand, and femininity, positive attitude to your own body and sexuality, and a sense of self, on the other. Good sense of humor and openness are very helpful as well. What I've found, men (and people in general) like to be heared and seen, and appreciated, and, after some time, challenged. Most men I've met, tend to keep their wall up (whatever it means for the particular person), so they often get caught by surprise that there's actually a back door to their protection. Since I love exploring the mind, the soul, and the body of the other, it all comes quite naturally, at least it used to when I was still dating. It's like a dance - synchronizing with your (potential) partner, following their lead and leading (inviting) when needed. 

Why do you think men are like this?

And I agree. Of course lust comes into the picture sometimes. But it's pretty strange to just see another human as a tally on your spreadsheet... Trying to rack of lay count and so on and so forth  The pleasure is in the attunement. Men are so lost these days, me included.

I guess it's shame and lack of confidence. 

Edited August 9 by PenguinPablo

[Zen LaCroix]

@Someone here You say you have to be a man first not true. Getting good at game and getting laid by a lot of hot girls will make you a man

[Tenebroso]

@Bittu Guys like you who enable women by pandering to them ironically cause more damage. If women were more honest about their supposed 'female intuition', nurturing ability and emotional intelligence they would make less decisions that endanger their own physical safety. They wouldn't try to change men who have no business being changed and they would observe men and potential suitors more carefully, instead of relying on an intuition that clearly doesn't work well or exist, considering the kind of men they endlessly complain about but continue to entertain.

I can tell by your response you have embraced the identity of being one of the good non-toxic men. Whatever bro, the world is not sunshine and rainbows, truths might be uncomfortable. Take the condescension elsewhere, you are not more virtuous or moral than me, understood.

[Emotionalmosquito]

4 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Guys like you who enable women by pandering to them ironically cause more damage. If women were more honest about their supposed 'female intuition', nurturing ability and emotional intelligence they would make less decisions that endanger their own physical safety. They wouldn't try to change men who have no business being changed and they would observe men and potential suitors more carefully, instead of relying on an intuition that clearly doesn't work well or exist, considering the kind of men they endlessly complain about but continue to entertain.

 

 🎯 

 

[Tenebroso]

@Emotionalmosquito Exactly. No sympathy for these types, they deserve everything they get.

[Lyubov]

14 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

Attunement, empathy, playfulness, cheerfulness, listening skills etc are all great qualities but they have nothing to do with attraction. Negative, psychopathic, abusive men have zero issues attracting all kinds of women. It is clear there is no correlation between being a good person and getting laid.

As we speak a racists, misogynistic killer Wade Wilson, who murdered two women has received 4000 love letters. Society does not want to deal with the dark truth of what really triggers raw female attraction.

Most men keep their wall up due to experience. If you are an adult man and have no experience of emotional safety why wouldn't you self-protect. It is a myth that women are more nurturing and emotionally intelligent than men. The overwhelming experience for men is that you can't trust women with your feelings.

However you can choose to be a honest person and still get laid. I don’t know where this misnomer that being honest means more sex or even deserving of sex though. In fact being honest often times weeds out all sorts of draining dishonest sex leaving room for love based sex that is in alignment with truth 

female attraction can vary but a lot of guys look for predictability and morals in it which there aren’t. It’s just as free of morals and dishonesty and inconsistencies compared to all the ways men will engage in dishonest sex, rape, cheating, etc. Plenty of violent psychopaths repel just as many women, if not more than they may attract. 

Every man needs to stop putting women on a pedestal once and for all, I know that’s a challenge though, beauty is hypnotizing and a doorway to love. 

Emotional intelligence is a word thrown around that is confusing. We create our emotions. We aren’t a victim to them. We do so through our beliefs. From my point of view I wouldn’t say women are any more or less aware of how they create their emotions or how others do. But I will say they are better at reading body language and social situations much more so than men, and due to having more opportunities for getting sex and attention and approval from other people, are able to take advantage of these opportunities. 
 

 

Edited August 10 by Lyubov

[Lyubov]

As for getting laid: This is a very simple thing yet can be quite nuanced when you take into account the uniqueness of each individual. What works for me and what i have to do in order to achieve this may be very different from someone else who has to develop qualities I take for granted.

i would say the most important thing for me though is clearing all lies like “not being good enough” and whatnot and then being fully engaged in life. Expanding your consciousness but actually resolving your inner issues. You have to actively ponder these deeper inner issues and give yourself the knowledge to resolve them by either going out and finding it or developing your own principles, usually both.
 

Charm, intelligence, strength and resources attract women. Focusing on your own inner transformation, letting go of expectations and actually going out helps. You have to be open to new experiences and be really engaged. How social can most of you honestly say you are?? Many of yall have no idea how radically different life is when you develop extrovert qualities and can seamlessly make friends and talk to women. Moving is also a great idea if you live in a boring place with no hoes. 

one shoe does not fit all. It’s better to seek personal advice by sharing your story and where you are having problems and why you believe you are having these problems.

Edited August 10 by Lyubov

[NoSelfSelf]

10 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

"A real men is not afraid to reveal his escort budget" 

 

NoSelfSelf - 2024

Im not a real man im just a...

https://youtu.be/5PsnxDQvQpw?si=eZnn-XpXJm-ulNRD

[something_else]

21 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

Attunement, empathy, playfulness, cheerfulness, listening skills etc are all great qualities but they have nothing to do with attraction. Negative, psychopathic, abusive men have zero issues attracting all kinds of women. It is clear there is no correlation between being a good person and getting laid.

As we speak a racists, misogynistic killer Wade Wilson, who murdered two women has received 4000 love letters. Society does not want to deal with the dark truth of what really triggers raw female attraction.

Most men keep their wall up due to experience. If you are an adult man and have no experience of emotional safety why wouldn't you self-protect. It is a myth that women are more nurturing and emotionally intelligent than men. The overwhelming experience for men is that you can't trust women with your feelings.

Mate what are you actually doing with your life besides moaning on the internet

[Spiral]

I made up this rule myself. I call it the 5% rule.

The idea is quite simple. Try to identify the average of most quantifiable traits in your city/neighborhoods/town.

Then try to be at least 5% better in all of them. Dress at least 5% better, work out at least 5% more/harder. Have a diet at least 5% better. You get the idea. Everything. 

Something’s you’ll already excel at so you can leave them for later.

[Keryo Koffa]

Forum Threads pile up, so I'll meta-summarize the conversation!

Page 1

  Sexlessness solved! Just be a man, touch grass, get a job & a life + Talk to girls daily

  Pay lots of money on dates, too!

  Aww, you didn't ghost me after all! ❤️

  I'm the best thing that ever happened to you! 😆

  Don't overblow yourself. I know you're fakin'  

  Wanna get laid? Stop trying, then you'll get it!

  Nightclub entrances and backpacking are lit, be social is all.

  Approach, talk, lead!

  Be female, losers!

  Accept outcomes, match by aura, actualize & energize!

  Elaborate on auras and self-fulfillment. (Schizophonia)

  Read Rsd Tyler for fundamentals of game (links)

  Associations mirror + be Yin to be Yang!

  Any tricks, Treewatcher?

  Deadpool Meme, Schizophoni!

  Why so much moneyyy?? (NoNoSelf response)

  Unique! (Schizophonia response)

  Thanks, best insight on this forum (Schizophonia)

  Empathy, not Lust. Just be a caring human being!

  Love Song! (link)

Page 2

  Women love Psychos, nice guys finish last. (to DianaFr)

  If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing (to Tenebroso)

  Thanks (to his posts' appreciators)

  "A real men is not afraid to reveal his escort budget" (to NoNoSelf)

  Men are lost in shame and lack confidence (to Diana)

  Be man first? Nah, become man by getting laid!

  You're the reason women are like this, pandering instead of honesty (to Bittu)

  Guy protects girl, gets beat up, girl leaves with the guy who beat him, guy feels proud 🎯 

  Exactly. No sympathy for these types, they deserve everything they get.

  Stop putting women on a pedestal. We create our emotions & are not their victims.

  If you care about getting laid, transform yourself, gain skills & find the right places.

  I'm not a man, just an Everyday Normal Guy (video)

  Mate what are you actually doing with your life besides moaning on the internet (Tenebosso)

  I made this 5% rule. Just be 5% better than the average.

  *makes a whole freakin' summary*

  Oh wow, Leo should hire you! (to Keryo Koffa)

  Too much work, in AI I believe! (to Sugarcoat)

  jk, don't pay more than 15$ until you see her qualities, e.g. cooperation

Edited August 15 by Keryo Koffa

[Sugarcoat]

@Keryo Koffa Leo should hire you to be some editor or something 

[Keryo Koffa]

@Sugarcoat Thanks, but I think I'll let the AI Singularity handle the Politics Section!

 

 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Keryo Koffa Edit that money part to:dont pay more than 15 bucks on dates(even less)before you see shes the person that has qualities to be spoiled.Like number 1 quality the cooperation.