feeling guilty for ending friendships

[yasseringgg]

So for the past few years, I've been becoming more and more authentic since I always used to be a people pleaser. I ended up cutting a lot of people out of my life, even close friends, because our belief systems are just too different. I was tired of always dishonoring my values and stepping into their perspective all the time to keep them happy. I trust that I will meet better people that share the same values as I do in the near future. But part of me questions whether I am stopping these friendships because it gives me a sense of power or because it was actually the right thing to do. I feel like there is a part of me that feels really guilty for not trying to make these friendships work (even if they were clearly dysfunctional, at least for me) and I don't know what to do with it. I tried accepting it but the sadness and guilt just keep resurfacing everytime.

[Salvijus]

A concious way is to never turn your back on anyone. At the same time to never compromise your integrity to please different forms of ego's cries. 

If your integrity is solid, people who lack honesty, open mindedness, virtue will naturally fall way from your life and won't be able to stick around.

 

[Applegarden8]

Welcome to the minority of people who decide to end relationships. Don't be too hard on yourself. Immagine how much potential you would lose if you would stay into the relationship. What is there to feel guilty about? It's a wake up call for them too. Yes, you have to learn to use that potential and some of it you will waste and by thr virtue of being more authentic you will attract people who value what you value.

Edited July 25 by Applegarden8

[Buck Edwards]

This is a good decision you made. Lately I've been cutting out people too. If they suck your life energy, you're better off without them. You need healthy loyal people, healthy I mean someone who isn't mentally draining you with their drama and gymnastics or using you as a doormat. If you have a people pleaser personality look into why pleasing people gives you happiness, or is it another form of insecurity you'll perhaps need to work on.