How to deal with negative emotions Leo and others ?

[Rishabh R]

Is the key to deal with negative emotions is to feel through them and not resist them ? I have noticed that yesterday and the day before yesterday I was feeling bad for an issue but when I decided that I will feel through it the negative emotion which is suffering started to dissolve and a smile came to my face . After the suffering was dissolved I felt a sense of purification .

[Raze]

Try break through difficult emotions by Shinzen young 

[Brittany]

In my experience, it is a mixture of (1) feeling/accepting your feelings and being a loving parent to your emotions, (2) seeing through the stories which creates your thinking by changing your worldview, and (3) changing how you think.

Accepting your negative feelings, doing shadow work 24-7 and sitting in your trauma, sitting with your painful feelings all day, being a loving friend to your emotions..... but never actually questioning the thoughts that produce your feelings in the first place --- is unproductive.

Seeing through the illusory nature of thoughts by changing your worldview using methods like non-duality, nihilism, stoicism, ACIM, etc. but being terrified and afraid to sit with painful feelings in the body --- is unproductive.

And changing your thoughts on an individual basis using CBT, REBT, Law of Attraction etc. but demonizing negative thinking and not seeing the value and sometimes truth in negative thinking --- is unproductive.

It is good to do a mixture of all 3.

Edited July 20 by Brittany

[Spiritual Warrior]

Use the Sedona method:

1. Feel into the raw sensation of the emotion
2. Release your grasp on the emotion as if you are unclenching your fist
3. Allow the emotion to float away. Your emotions do not control you. 

[Yimpa]

6 hours ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

Your emotions do not control you. 

This begs the question: Do you control your change? 

Edited July 21 by Yimpa

[Ishanga]

You can either be a Slave to Outside Situations and what others say, this is basically Compulsive Reacting, or You can Choose to Respond, and establish Your Being, and Consciously Decide How to Be within Yourself and How outside Situations affect Your Inner Experience, that is the choice we have as Human Beings, Free Will is our basic Capability if we choose to exercise it!

[Ulax]

On 7/20/2024 at 2:18 PM, Raze said:

Try break through difficult emotions by Shinzen young 

I second this.

Also, this youtube playlist from Shinzen:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3541FC41053BE50E

 

[Evelyna]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

This begs the question: Do you control your change? 

I’m my opinion We are in control of how we react to the emotion , implementing change is in our hands and no one else’s. 

[Evelyna]

@Rishabh R I have a way I define emotion, it’s - energy in motion. This now gives me a suggestion that it can be observed and moved around.  So called “negative” emotions give me feedback on what I don’t prefer and “positive” emotions feedback what I do prefer, and I use them as kind of alarm system to determine my reaction.
As for techniques one I use in the case of “negative”  emotion is to bringing  myself back to present moment when it comes up instead of reacting instantly, I do this by looking around my immediate environment, focusing on colours, textures sounds etc when I do this I bring myself back to present moment and a neutral position, in that given moment from there I can decide how I want to react to it ( feel about the situation) and choose a better reaction available. With “positive” emotion I like to just enjoy it, really feel it, hold that state for a time and include a feeling of gratitude to it.  

[puporing]

You should be able to figure out exactly what/why you are suffering and where that is from. Some of it can be improved but others can't because it's from your environment..

I've had to change "career" many times due to not being able to hide it for long as a result. I mean for me it's fundamentally because I cannot find anybody here to relate with anymore.. it's like I am here still in a body, but nobody can "see me" lol. Literally like being in an isolation chamber.

Edited July 21 by puporing