Text game tips

[Chadders]

Anyone got any tips for getting better at text game?

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OZebLs6v7o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDl3Tx4qZAY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gANvvAD-3eM

https://www.girlschase.com/how-to-text-a-girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BuvK9BjSO6o

Edited July 19 by Raze

[Yimpa]

 

[Yimpa]

My partner just sent this to me just now 

[NoSelfSelf]

Give me specific example so i can see where you going wrong.

[Chadders]

@Yimpa yeh gifs are pretty good

[Chadders]

I just hate the way I second guess more with texting. It’s just so far removed from normal F2F interaction and you can’t get that emotional connection going. Like 80% of communication is non verbal or something like that which I’m better at

I think for me it’s developing a skill that’s almost imagining the person in the room talking to you and then responding so it’s as if you are there in person

But yeh biggest problem I think is I second guess it too much. In part because of these dating apps that are all about the text game. Fucking shit. Sometimes I hate the digital world lol

I’m a very emotional person so the disconnect with the digital world I really hate

Edited July 20 by Chadders

[Chadders]

@NoSelfSelf would prefer more general guidance. Just gets too messy with specific examples

Or more to the point insights would be better 

Ultimate problem is I second guess too much creating inhibition which I don’t get F2F. I’m probs different to a lot of people in that respect as many I think prefer the safety of communicating through a digital medium 

Edited July 20 by Chadders

[NoSelfSelf]

@Chadders Think about it more that is the same, everything you would say to them in real life in your head ,say them to them over text.Texting like in real lifes follows the end goal what is your end goal with a woman?

[Chadders]

@NoSelfSelf Yeh that’s it

Ive actually just had a revelation what might be hindering my success. I’m not staying in set long enough 

Because I don’t like texting I’ll text her for a bit and then fuck off to text her a few days later. This is not right actually. I need to stay in set and plough it more and build a rapport (as much as you possibly ever can with text)

Basically it’s a quality over quantity thing. When you text her and she texts you back you have her attention so stay in set and plough for longer. By texting for a bit and fucking off to then text again a few days later it’s breaking her attention and then she’s less likely to respond on the second or third time. She’ll be thinking oh he’s texting me again

 

[Chadders]

I need to just get better at it and not worry about making a mistake and plough 

In person this is not really an issue for me I’m just far more sure of myself and I can fall back on my charisma and sexual intent 

[Chadders]

Actually rather than start a new thread here’s another way to ask

Give me 5 things guys commonly do wrong when it comes to text game and 5 things guys do right

So I feel like not staying in set long enough ie being quantity over quality is one of the common things guys do wrong

i don’t like specific text examples of what you should or should not have said. You can only know yourself and through the context of the interaction. Every interaction and person is different so that doesn’t really help but overarching themes/principles do

Wish we could just be old school and chat over the phone but the ladies do not like this at early stages!

Edited July 20 by Chadders

[Yimpa]

You text her exactly your intentions. No beating around the bush! 

[Chadders]

On 20/07/2024 at 10:37 PM, Yimpa said:

You text her exactly your intentions. No beating around the bush! 

 

If I was completely honest about my intentions with her it would be to say I’m up for casual sex. I think that’s a bit too honest at this stage in the game lol

[Yimpa]

2 minutes ago, Chadders said:

If I was completely honest about my intentions with her it would be to say I’m up for casual sex. I think that’s a bit too honest at this stage in the game lol

Think harder. And don’t just think about your own needs and desires.

My partner and I play multiplayer games. I was a wuss for playing on the lower difficulty levels until she pushed me to go to the next level. 

 

Edited July 23 by Yimpa

[Chadders]

40 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

Think harder. And don’t just think about your own needs and desires.

 

I’ll assume she also wants the sex 😂

I’ll see how it goes. We can drink wine and make love if all goes well

[NoSelfSelf]

@Chadders If you cant ask for what you want and accepting her saying no,then get out of the game.Because women aint stupid ,she knows you want only sex then she uses your weakness to gain mainly your friendly attention or free food etc.

Edited July 23 by NoSelfSelf

[Chadders]

@NoSelfSelf You might be right man. Maybe I should just text her and say you know I’m not gunna lie I’m in it for the casual sex if you’re up for it

But you also might be wrong and that’s too strong at this stage. I’ve met her once, we flirted we brushed up against each other and I got her number. In hindsight I should have got an insta date when I saw her rather than just getting her number

Because if you are right then that would be the strategy to deploy each time on dating apps to basically send a message and say look girl I’m up for sex. Maybe it works for some maybe others it doesn’t

I’ll figure it out myself. I can only know through trial and error 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Chadders Now i wrote to the other guy in this sub forum ,you are thinking from a low position, problem is you dont think you are valuable because you havent discovered or created your value, so now you stress over some women you havent even met properly, its ridiciolous when you think about it.You did what you did now you can only change it or do the same..

[Chadders]

@NoSelfSelf I can build more value in myself surely. That is a journey

But I’m not that bad lol. You’re projecting a bit there. I’m just being vulnerable in this forum by mentioning all this. I perceive myself as high value. I don’t have self esteem issues. 

Remember this is over text not f2f. She might flake and that’s okay. I’m just understanding best approach. In hindsight I hadn’t secured an insta date and could have been more direct when I met her. Still might be game on. She is up for meeting Tbf 

For someone who has only just got back into the game and is actually very introverted so I have not socialised anywhere near what the average dude does I’m happy with my progress here. I’m changing 

Edited July 24 by Chadders