😜😈🙏 - SEX, LOVE, MONEY, & then NIRVANA - Systems Thinking & Contribution 🐱👤

[Lucasxp64]

 

 

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My goal in this current phase of my life is to burn through karma...

I'm 25+

Giving myself the environment I need to thrive is the priority.

You see, my major issue so far wasn't the lack of innate capabilities, but that I didn't give myself the proper environment. The income. A private place of my own. Not being under my parent's heels. Not being under the constraints of a 9-to-5. The kinds of loving relationships to women that I crave, and that I can't meditate away forever.

I suffer from a mild form of "Shit life syndrome".

And I suffer from that, because I've not been learning in a goal-oriented manner. Because I didn't want to pick. Because I wanted to be like Peter Pan, with infinite future possibilities, but to get anything done, we must lock-in. We must be specific.

Let's break -- What I call --- the fucking "cycle of doom".

"He's NOTHING but potential."

 

 

 

FULL-STACK ENTREPRENEURSHIP (Traffic + Sales + Product/Service Creation) 

 

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I have many interests (mainly: Coding & Design & Personal Development in general), and I'm still figuring out the next step.

But I'm sure I'll be doing online business, having a fully fledged "business funnel" to sell some services/products, build an e-mail list, keep followers under my sphere of influence (as reliably as possible, without being under the risk of a single platform), eventually sell them more of my products/services, that might be more expensive or different.

But when it comes to services to sell, I think holistically, the best would be something I can do through writing/speaking as much as possible. Through some kind of public communication.

Perhaps a Personal Development Coach? I don't know.

That's because, I have already been doing that for over a decade reliably with my own personal notes.

Although I like the idea of building some full stack apps as my creative contribution to the world that are actually within the scope of a fully fledged startup.

But I'm geared towards the direction of finding niches/opportunities, starting with the business needs at first (Not my pet wishes).

They got deep pockets.

If we solve them an issue that wastes them 100k, we can easily charge them 10k.

Perhaps something related to saving them money, or making them more money by improving their conversion rates. Or some kind of marketing campaign management, or improving their graphics design of their 10-year-old WordPress websites, lol.

Perhaps not even doing it myself, but outsourcing the work, so I can focus even more on getting the customers than becoming technically excellent on the job.

I've wasted hundreds of hours trying to become a good engineer, but haven't yet done it to publish a specific project (Which, in turn, actually made me merely a sloppy Hello World programmer).

But I don't have time to wait, I must move towards marketing whatever skills I have right now ASAP, otherwise the inertia of my life will keep pulling me back.

Too many great professionals out there, that don't make nearly enough they could.

 

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Some of the best posts/comments I had written recently:

 

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I'm literally looking at dating now like a system, like a business funnel.

**Hire slow, fire fast.**

**Keep hiring. Don't stop. Drop the bad candidates fast, keep pouring new candidates into the system like a machine.**

Getting women is a function of... (like a mathematical formula):

SMV * social exposure (time) * game

If you could game with 10 million women in a day, by the next day you will be having orgies with dozens of tens - or select the best girlfriend out of all of them (even if that were 0.00000001% of them).

Dating is chaotic as heck, but at the end of the day, your brain would either have fried or you would have had such understanding of females, humans and yourself that you would probably be an enlightened god of charisma walking among humans. 😂

Adapt to survive. Just see that as a new data point to use in your favor.

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In actuality, you did "hard work" to find a niche and positioning yourself well in the market, in the sense that it somehow made you stand in some way away from the 9-5er or run-of-the-mill internet freelancer. But that's not scalable across an entire society. There is just so many people to use the same exact funnels, keywords and traffic sources before you start seeing your business going down, but by then, you already will already have enough skills to know how to replicate whatever you did, or build on another business model that puts you are an even higher position of leverage than them. 

It's a mix of brute-force work and building leverage. You got a lot of leverage, so at this point it doesn't need as much effort.

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(The actual title should be: If you are obsessed about getting something done, you will find ever single possible crevice, little door, and high-yield technique that possibly exists.) 

 

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I agree with everyone here on the thread. Everyone is speaking some part of the truth. If anyone listens to Leo Gura long enough, it's obvious.

I agree that people for a healthy long-term deep relationship is more actualized as a person in general, I respect it on women. I appreciate her as a person to keep close by, and sex feels like connecting with her as a person that she is, not merely just a visceral connection to her looks.

My personal notes as a man wanting to improve his game, most of it are notes from Owen Cook's course, but I thought about breaking down each element into different types of love I need to bring in.

BE IN LITERAL ABUNDANCE: It will avoid you to be screwed over. Because hot young beautiful woman are in abundance. They will destroy with you if you are highly invested and not in abundance, that's how you protect yourself. NO WOMAN IS AN EXCEPTION. SHE HAS TO KNOW YOU ARE 100% NOT KIDDING that you have ABUNDANCE, and that the moment she tries to screw you, YOU CAN LITERALLY FEEL 100% BODY, SOUL AND MIND moving to another girl just from where she came from.

There are different types of love:

# EROS
**NOT OPTIONAL**
- Physical Beauty and Sexuality
- [[Sexual Social Interaction]]

# LUDUS
**NOT OPTIONAL.**
- **Self-qualification is beta male strategy. That's why provider strategy is unattractive to woman.**
- **Flirtation. ATTRACT, DON'T SEDUCE.**
- Disengage the logical mind. Free Associate, talk just for the sake of having fun  in the moment. Speak with authority and high emotional energy even if you are talking non-sensical crap.
- Ludus stimulation is just like sexual stimulation, creating tension is crucial to increase arousal levels of LUDUS. It's not inauthentic to force it a bit.
- Playful, flirting validation, seeking, verbal playfulness
- NEED FOR VALIDATION: "I'm a cool playful and amusing guy, and you want my validation", not so much a "Hunk of a man that you want to ravish and only a naked picture of my body would be enough for your selection of me".
- Entertainment and excitement
- Game of seduction, Gleefulness, Playful, Amusing, Teasing, Fun, non-commitment, non-monogamous.

# STORGE
**DO NOT USE STORGE ONLY**
- [[Assume Familiarity]]
- [[Look At What A 'HUG' Did To This Woman In The Middle Of A Walmart!]]
- Non-threatening, Familiar love, peace and physical safety.
- Peaceful and slow, chill
- Care to their well-being.

# PRAGMA
- **DO NOT USE PRAGMA ONLY**
    - "I cheated on you because you could have never pulled me out from a club and fucked me, but you used your stability to manipulate me."
    - You want to do it through LUDUS & EROS because then she can never say you are tricking her with money, and she will know as A 100% SOLID FACT, you can pull women whenever the hell you want, just the same way you know she can do it. So it balances it out.
- Care to their well-being.
- Practical and traditional, resources, money, gifts
- Is a style of love that emphasizes the practical aspects of love. The pragmatic lover considers compatibility and the sensibility of their choice of partners. This lover will be concerned with goals in life, status, family reputation, attitudes about parenting, career issues and other practical concerns.
# PHILIA

# MANIA
Mania is a style of love characterized by volatility, insecurity, and possessiveness. This lover gets highly upset during arguments or breakups, may have trouble sleeping when in love, and feels emotions very intensely.

# AGAPE
- Universal Love. Buddhist loving-kindness to all beings.

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PS: DOES FREE WILL MATTER?

Please learn about buddhism well, dig deep into it.

Don't listen to Leo Gura that they are a bunch of rats, or anything of that nature, because Leo Gura himself is going through his own personal suffering and he himself seemed to be dismissive of the major problem that we should be interested on: The problem of suffering.

I'm not sure what problems you are going through reading the initial post, maybe you are going through chronic pain or some highly emotionally energetic cognitive feedback loops that are beyond your capability to process.

I think that the spiritual framework you are using with the goal to tackle the problem of suffering is just overkill and you are too emotionally biased towards making use of it.

Stick with a framework like buddhism. What I have seen from you is that you are utilizing the paradigm of determinism/lack of free will as a framework to help you process whatever suffering you are being afflicted by due to your clingings and aversions towards specific mental states or physical sensations which you would like your body or mind to present.

You don't need to go to the point of bringing your mind towards de-realization in order to process it. Within buddhism, at some point something similar seems to happen, but I'm not quite sure. But you need to follow a specific sequencing of the techniques to spiritually acclimate yourself, mind and body towards a well developed type of enlightenment that deals with suffering.

There are many kinds of enlightenment, I think even Leo had an episode on that one.

I remember up to this day I was listening to that episode while I was at the health care hospital because I used to have those severe inflammations on my eyes, I still do have that tendency but I think drinking enough water and sleeping well solved them for the last year at least.

Just use more softcore approaches first towards your problem with suffering.

I'm not dismissing anything, you are just biased locked in a specific paradigm or a specific kind of enlightenment if you believe that's the case. There is plenty I hear from serious Buddhist teachers of students having all kinds of views towards dealing with suffering or their view of reality itself that is just completely unskilful towards the problem of suffering.

 

Here is a critic against neo-advaita, and why it is a problem this worldview/paradigm that "you are just the witness":

She basically says that you just don't know how to differentiate between the state of mind of the witness vs the actor, and you are deluding yourself. It's something that needs to be practiced.

 

This guy below had some similar views to you, and how it was causing him suffering:

The canonical buddhist knowledge from a secular buddhist and two ordained monks:

 

 

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Original Poster, I felt worried for you about your initial post. It's very omniums sounding. I really hope you don't do anything harmful physically towards yourself, whatever is going on, if it is a kind of deep realization or physical or traditional emotional pain caused by depression and so on. You should find a place within yourself that offers shelter until you figure it out a way towards a more wholesome (more complete, more holistic, more grounded, more skillful, more trained on actual meditative practices) alignment of body, mind and soul. If you believe that there is no such place or that there is no point of finding it, then I'm obligated to tell you that you got stuck in one of the million different labyrinths of the mind and reality and it's not doing you any good to you and others around you follow that belief. If you are solipsistic and thinking about physical death, then I must also tell, that you should reconsider that it might be again some kind of mental state like the ones people get from salvia where they forget they took the drug and they do crazy shit and die.

Or if someone took psychedelics on his fucking bathtub.

Oh jezz, would it have been mahasamadhi if he had drowned his sorry ass while the survival parts of his brain were offline? Fucking no. It would have been just a dude drowning high on drugs.

There is a fine line here between being the enlightened person on the market delivering on goodies (Look at the Zen 10 ox hoardings pictures) and being someone that decided on something awful and died off.

It's fucking spiritual masturbation if it leads you to madness to the point physical death is anything remotely acceptable. It's unskillful as fuck.

I don't use it to discredit powerful insights and exploration into the infinite depths of the infinite tapestry within the web of all possible possibilities or anything of that kind.

Hope everyone is doing fine tonight!

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  On 10/02/2021 at 2:10 AM, Preety_India said:

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Yes, I have wasted nearly 6 years of my precious youth in men that weren't worth my time

 

I also wasted just as much time with women, but it was long distance relationships. I met two out of the three of them in person, but it was for brief encounters, because I couldn't take care of the logistics of it. But regardless, they didn't add to me.

Anything I got out of those relationships was that I shouldn't be in one, just like the clarity that the OP is showing.

At least, I got rid of that feeling that personal insecurity about women. I'm not even a virgin anymore, but either way, it wasn't great. I should have done just like the OP and had 100% of that mental focus and clarity for myself...

Actually align how I see the truth of things with how I act:

This is the kind of crap that a man (or woman) might be led into that absolutely wrecks their well-being, and they lose the clarity to even see it was a problem, where you keep trying, but you are never fully mentally free.

Again, if it taught anything, it was not to fall for those kinds of situations, but I wouldn't have fallen for them in the first place if I had more financial resources and I had gotten my meditation/spirituality/self-inquiry sharper. It improves tremendously my self-inquiry NOT to keep repeating those lies I was repeating to myself that were creating my suffering in the relationships: I could have let it go.

But also, I think just after I move from the current phase I'm in, where I start to get some minimum success with business enough for me to start dating, I'll do so, but I'll do it RIGHT.

What's right for me?

I think to myself, if I had put all of that emotional energy for doing COLD APPROACHES (What I did, and what led me into my major issues was that they lived too far, or I didn't have the logistical means to met them).

Also, the quality wasn't the best in terms of attractiveness and overall fit of personality/goals. I believe, like, everyone here said, I improve myself as a man in general: Better Game/Social skills, Logistics/money+time, etc. It will improve the choices and quality.

And not being so quick to jump at the first lady that seems nice - and actually having that wealth of opportunities by being in the flow of a high-quality dating life, I'd have been so much better in terms of personal growth and having a relationship that is successfully healthy, or having some other kinds of "open relationships" - ON MY TERMS, (fuck buddies, one-night-stands, etc.) that wouldn't be draining of hundreds to thousands of hours as opposed to the long-distance stuff I had that left me only craving like a hungry dog for physical touch, affection/sex, with too much of a time commitment.

Don't get me wrong, I'd LOVE to have high quality time spent with a girl EVERY DAY, but there has to be extremely sharp boundaries about the time we spend together, we can't just chat all day.

For the time we spent together, we have to make it worth the time. Not wasting debating about some random political crap she is obssed about.

Like how David Goggins would said once in a podcast:

 

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"For anyone that wants to be in my life, I'll give you EVERYTHING YOU NEED, so that you stay the hell away from me while I'm in the zone and don't interrupt me." - (Not verbatim)

 

And that, of course, requires high-quality handling of the logistics of it. If there is too much pain in that, the benefits of a girl in my life would go down, to the point it mostly leaves me just craving physical proximity/cuddling/sex and not having enough of it.

I should not get complacent getting some odd job just to get a quick fix for my problem with money just for the purpose to look for a relationship, I should do it all right.

I got to accept I'm in a phase of my life, I GOT to nail this down. Furthermore, I'm almost 26. There is no fucking time to waste.

Women are supposed to be there for me to share positive things with, not because I'm a hungry ghost enslaved by the desire. 

They feel that from me, that's my inner frame.

 

 

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PUT BOUNDARIES. DO NOT LET YOUR PARTNER WASTE YOUR TIME WITH TRIVIALITY

(And even... They themselves don't care. Deliver on what they CARE.):

 

 

 

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Pigs realizing they are being feed to be eaten.

"[...] Your eyes cannot take the blinding light of the truth and you scurry back into the cave [...]"

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