Feeling suicidal help

[Yimpa]

12 hours ago, Yimpa said:

Update: I ended it with them and communicated my intentions clearly. It’s pointless to even debate about it. I’m moving forward.

I am referring to myself and my own abusive tendencies. There is no one else to blame. And I am discovering how to set healthy boundaries.

Edited July 9 by Yimpa

[Treewatcher]

@Leo Gura

On 07/07/2024 at 8:43 AM, Leo Gura said:

Homeless guys can have good game. Often the guys with the best game and who are most attractive are psychopaths and degenerates. Girls love that stuff. Shouldn't bother you since most people do stupid things.

Does this mean one should embody these aspects of oneself?

[Emotionalmosquito]

On 7/6/2024 at 7:55 AM, integral said:

https://www.actualized.org/insights/lessons-in-pickup

“And you must also make her feel safe with you by not coming off as an unhinged, socially-miscalibrated creep.”

Owen rants about how it’s good to be unhinged, using that word exactly. One of his videos had a thumbnail of that dad bod guy in the patriotic speedo wearing a cape acting crazy.

“He’s not acting like a drunk frat-boy or dancing monkey.”

What if acting wild and crazy like that and even being creepy is our most authentic self expression? What if being that way IS being ourself at the most fundamental level? This is why I keep saying we need to stop telling people “be yourself”. Seriously. Start auto banning anyone who says that. My true personality is a 100 trillion lightyears away from being anything like this suave character which the blog post says we’re supposed to act like.

So which is it; do I be myself which means having tons of fun and self amusing and quite possibly even being creepy or do I CHANGE who I am enough to be like this perfect gentleman, and enough to somehow genuinely enjoy acting how he acts?

 

[integral]

32 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

My true personality is a 100 trillion lightyears away from being anything like this suave character which the blog post says we’re supposed to act like.

it’s not about acting and behaving exactly like him, it’s about feeling how he feels. From there your natural personality comes out as the Best version of you. Women strongly sense how you feel about yourself and it comes out in your behaviour.

Being creepy is when you don’t feel good about yourself when socializing and you act out in uncomfortable ways and everyone feels it around you. How you feel comes out in your body language, and your tone of voice, and the way you’re guiding the conversation, and the speed that you’re speaking.

if you want to get laid just get high right before a social event and your chances of hitting off with someone are 10 times higher. Alcohol is popular for this reason it’s just so much easier when you feel good and free to connect with everyone.

Edited August 3 by integral

[Emotionalmosquito]

9 minutes ago, integral said:

Being creepy is when you don’t feel good about yourself when socializing and you act out in uncomfortable ways and everyone feels it around you. How you feel comes out in your body language, and your tone of voice, and the way you’re guiding the conversation, and the speed that you’re speaking.

 

That’s only part of what creepiness is. It’s also talking about stuff they don’t like or merely stuff that’s irrelevant to the situation, even if you feel good talking about it. This list is vastly larger than what’s acceptable to talk about. It’s also creepy to just be grossly sexual or violent with your word choice or talk about bizarre shit you’re into, no?

16 minutes ago, integral said:

Alcohol is popular for this reason it’s just so much easier when you feel good and free to connect with everyone.

That’s actually a pretty good point. I’ve often thought about microdosing alcohol every time before I go out as an experiment. Just enough to take some of the edge off yet nowhere near enough to become sloppy. And take plenty of abstinence days to prevent any tolerance/dependence from forming. Should work wonders