Stuck in materislistic trap

[danniel]

I found actualized last summer. I have used it for a very small amount of development yet it has been significant, esp regarding with my physical health. But right now, I feel lost, stuck in the quicksand of materialistic trap, which is now affecting my mental state. Gaming and squandering time, with almost no productivity. I have very tiny amount of self control at the moment.

i cannot seem to find the strength to leave video games, even though i know (on surface) it is waste of time because there is a fear of missing out. I feel like a drug addict. One of those guys which is at ease with an IV drip as the source of happiness. "I want to quit this way of existence", i say to myself yet when i get free time i go and sit infront of the screen to waste another 3/4 hours of my day.

I would be contented if anyone wants to guide/talk abt this personally. Because there are some underlying issues which are uncomfortable and also depress me.

Thank you for taking your time to read this.

[Evelyna]

Hello Danniel

I am sorry to hear you are  struggling a little bit with your gaming time. I have a question for you. Do you know what you would like to do with your time instead ? Do you have some ideas of what you want ? Perhaps you find a comfort zone within the game worlds, it would be good to determine why you prefer to spend time in those worlds and not in this one. If you dont know yet exactly what you would prefer to do instead. There is no simple one time solution to this problem but you can take some steps to implement change. 

When you want to make big, positive changes in your life there are certain things you must change about yourself. The more quickly you can make these inner changes, the more quickly changes will occur in your life circumstances. And, of course, the longer it takes to make these inner changes then the longer it takes for the outer changes to happen.

Here is what you must do:

1.Decide exactly what you want. This is very hard for some people. Often they are afraid of making a commitment, because they are afraid they might fail. Sometimes this fear is hidden behind the phrase: “I don’t know what I want.” Another variation is when people say they want a lot of different things that usually conflict with each other. For these people I recommend that they skip to the next item.

2.Try to Get rid of your fears, about the changes you want to make, about the obstacles you think you see, about the past, present and future. The more fear you get rid of, the easier it is to make changes in your life.

3.Try to Get rid of your angers, toward yourself and everyone else in your life. Just like fear, the more anger you get rid of, the easier it is to change your life. Again, check out different books and classes and any other source you can find.

4.Try to Make peace with your present circumstances. The more you resist the way things are, the harder it is to change them. I do not mean to passively accept them. I mean to realize that they are just temporary and to let them be while you make plans and take actions toward your goals.

5.Keep your mind on the benefits of the changes you want to make, and not on how they will happen. When you start to worry about how you can do something you close your mind to opportunities. Keep your focus on what you want without worry and opportunities will happen.

I can offer a simple technique to figure out what it is you want:

The Technique

Take a little time away from everything , even laying on a sofa, sitting in a chair with no distractions, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths.

Say these words aloud or in your mind: "Wouldn't it be good if..." (you can substitute "Wouldn't it be nice if..." or "Wouldn't it be cool if..." etc.)

Allow the thoughts and ideas to rise in a nice relaxed way and be patient. I particularly like to explore any ideas that make me smile, that make me feel good, that warm my heart.

In a surprisingly short time you will have figured out what you want or what you want to do.

 

I do hope this helps in some way.

 

Eve

 

 

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[danniel]

about what I want to do with my time, the simple answer would be art. I am a self taught artist. But from last couple of years, my love towards art turned into a desperation of for validation on social media. I seem to have understood that now, so from couple of months i have taken a break. But now i cannot seem to find that passion in art( i am working on it)

apart from this, i want to work on my consciousness, i want to meditate more, start visualising and do small things to improve my mind, out of the victim mindset of mine. But this "want" remains a "want". I start meditating consistently for a week, then something happens, and i don't meditate for a week or maybe more. But a guilt persists because for me, i guess it is because my higher self knows that those activities are right and just.

But my victimizing my ownself/ or any other lower self values end up sustaining themselves.

But then apart from these 2 things, which i already disrespect by not doing them with loyalty. I seem to have no other things to look forward to...which bothers me, because i seem to know there are so many things out there in the world, yet i am clueless and lost with what i want

[Evelyna]

15 minutes ago, danniel said:

about what I want to do with my time, the simple answer would be art. I am a self taught artist. But from last couple of years, my love towards art turned into a desperation of for validation on social media. I seem to have understood that now, so from couple of months i have taken a break. But now i cannot seem to find that passion in art( i am working on it)

 

Oh thats great you are an artist, I am one too so I understand you from that point of view. Have you thought of painting/drawing game characters you play? you could find some art in a thrift store on in the UK a Charrity store for very little money and draw some of your favourites characters/scenes on to those old paintings, its fun. You could also do a bit of everything in the free time ,,set aside time for painting/sketching then do a bit of meditating and then gaming. 

Edited July 3 by Evelyna