Maybe you are actually Fearfull of Love

[Rafael Thundercat]

This video below hits the point ot me. It explains clearly one of the reason I got myself sabotage many intimate relationships and often even some one nigth stands. 

Is important to notice that when you got hurt in a arena in your life you may create a scar of it and scare of it, the fear of repeating and getting beated again. 

This is a good one to contemplate and do the shadow work into:

Do you Fear Love? What if Suddenly a Man would come to your life and Love you deeply and profundly? Would you recieve it fully?

What if the Dream Loving Woman you desire come and Love you as you are deeply? Will you accept?

Watch the video for more

 

[Leo Gura]

Of course!

Love should terrify you.

[OBEler]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Of course!

Love should terrify you.

In this terms it's not love what you terrify but becoming hurt again. 

[Rafael Thundercat]

4 hours ago, OBEler said:

In this terms it's not love what you terrify but becoming hurt again. 

The video present all the nuance. 

[Leo Gura]

5 hours ago, OBEler said:

In this terms it's not love what you terrify but becoming hurt again. 

No, love itself.

[Osaid]

Love isn't a relationship between two things, or what that thought points to.

There aren't "things coming into your life and loving you."

Where is the boundary in feeling, which would create that separation?

Separate objects aren't love, they're concepts not experienced.

Feeling isn't an object. It's now.

Edited July 2 by Osaid

[Etherial Cat]

@Rafael Thundercat

Great subject here. 

That's a profound topic to explore.

I have firsthand experience with this issue on two levels.

Firstly, from encountering men who are afraid of love. Initially, I used to take their reactions personally, especially when they responded in hurtful or difficult-to-take ways. It took me time to realize that their fear had nothing to do with me. It stemmed from their own internal struggles and insecurities. They couldn't believe they were deserving of love from a woman because, deep down, they didn't love themselves or found themselves worthy of it. So all my attempt to bounding with them ended in awful ways.

Then, I have experience with it as I struggle with it myself too. I've been literally watched with the most wonderful gaze by people who couldn't pierce through my own sense of inadequacy. I couldn't see, and still up to this day, see myself how they've seen me.

In relationships, both individuals must love themselves first to truly connect intimately. You can only give what you have available within yourself and accept what you believe you deserve.

Shame is what keeps us away from Love. Always.

 

[Rafael Thundercat]

This may connect perfectly with the video that started this post. From Fear to Love to True Love. 

Here she will not deal with Metaphisical Love but Relationship Love and The Nuances of it 

Deep stuff, you listen and than ask yourself : Is this I am having for this person True Love??

Enjoy