I want to reach Absolute Emotional Independence

[Keryo Koffa]

I am aware that I program my subconscious with my responses. What I seek is to become completely emotionally independent, like Sadhguru or what Leo strives towards. If I were an artist or scientist, I want the level of independence that the Stoics are known for. I want to be so emotionally independent, that there is no room for even spite to manifest, that whatever I choose to do doesn't allow subtle suggestions to manipulate my happiness and being.

That I don't even use negative reactions as fuel. That all reactions are only seen as reactions. Because to act out of spite is still to construct a counter-identity. I want to be so free, that all sensations become pointers, that pain is no longer painful but an indicator I'm consciously creating and taking advantage of to navigate this body, so aware that all suffering becomes transparent. So transcendent that all negativity collapses and inflects into suggestion for shaping experience.

Maybe this will take psychedelics, maybe I'll have to self-actualize to the level that I'm no longer limited to this reality. Whatever the case, my destination is to be completely free and emotionally secure. Maybe the desire itself is insecure and so I'll have to transcend that also. This is the place, if any community strives for the absolute then its this one and I want to take advantage of the resource that are the self-actualizing members here with their experiences and awareness to accelerate what I need to do and process to get there.

Edited June 30 by Keryo Koffa

[Staples]

I am not sure that absolute emotional mastery is entirely possible as a human. But you could get very very good at it. 

We are slaves to our biological machines in this life. To my knowledge the best we can do is get hyper-conscious and override our reptilian brain before it reacts in stupid ways.

First step would be consciousness training, with a deliberate focus on emotions. Noticing them, learning how to change them. Read Peter Ralston's consciousness series and mastery, that should give you all the tools you need.

[hyruga]

If you are wealthy, then you don't really care about what others think and you will be emotionally independent.

Another way is to realise that everyone will die. So the life you have now is transient so there is nothing to worry about.

 

Edited July 3 by hyruga

[Raze]

Try emotional mastery by David Tian and break through difficult emotions by Shinzen Young 

[Rafael Thundercat]

 

[Evelyna]

Hi Keryo

You can always practise and get better at it little by little. Practise makes progress and the more attention you hold on this desire the more often you will notice emotions and behaviours you would like to change. Thats what ultimately this process requires- THE KNOWING IT CAN CHANGE. Know you can change how you view your emotions and know you can choose to react in a different way to given situation. It will also require more fluid definitions you hold and more of an open mind which means your opinions would have to become more fluid, flexible too. But this is all in practice. I wish you all the best

Eve