thoughts on dating a single mother

[Alex4]

Hello everyone,

I have been in a relationship for six months with an incredible woman. The only thing is that she has a 16-year-old daughter and I admit that it creates insecurity in me, although so far this fact has not affected the relationship much, it is true that I do not see her as much as I would like but in general terms I am satisfied. 
What is your opinion of dating a single mother? Do you think it's a bad idea? I see a lot of opposition to this on forums but in my case so far I have been very happy and made lots of plans (luckily her child is old and mature enough to stay home alone). 

I am very monogamous and so is she, I see myself with her all my life. I'm not fucking around. 

In my head I see no much problem, but it's the general opinion to no date single mother which disturbs me.

[NoSelfSelf]

Forget about the red pill ideology as long you date women on your terms there is no problem.

[bebotalk]

Single mothers are evil. 
Even if they are successful and have good jobs, the fact their marriage broke down and the court gave them custody of their child over their ex-spouse, means they are disease-ridden, unhealthy, and full of baggage!! 

It's black and white, and never shades of grey! Seeing things in nuance or complexity is CRINGE. 

[shree]

On 30.6.2024 at 5:43 PM, Lila9 said:

Single mothers are not a disease.

They are women who experienced unsuccessful relationships like any other human. Many of them were treated unfairly by men and left by their husbands or partners, alone with children.

It is funny how women are often the ones who are looked down upon because of society's or men's faults.

Single mothers are strong women who do the selfless job of two people, if not more, because raising children alone isn't easy. In hunter-gatherer tribes, each baby is raised by 10-15 people on average.

In modern society, one single mother is often raising 1-5 or more children alone. Not only that, people look at her as if she were some sort of slut or damaged property without knowing her story.

Not all mothers are good, there are definitely some abusive mothers, single or not. But the majority of them do their best to provide their children with the best lives possible.

If you have genuine feelings towards the single mother you are dating and you both enjoy the relationship, it doesn't matter what other men might think about you and her being together.

 

Well written!

 

I would just add this: YOU need to be okay with the fact she has a child, and you must be able to make an authentic connection with the child if your goal is long term relationship.