Women looove a nice guy

[NoSelfSelf]

2 hours ago, Kid A said:

I don’t have those old chats from Tinder anymore, but like I said, after I started using emojis like this <😊😅😂>, my results got way better. I also found out that humor is very dangerous when texting, so I pretty much stopped using it except for in opening messages. Boring conversations are what works in online dating.

Here are a few examples from dates:

1. I went out with a Russian girl. Early on I said «… because you Russians are a bit, you know, old fashioned.» She then snapped and started yelling at me. The date was over right after that.

2. I went out with a Pakistani girl. We were talking about two famous Pakistani politicians. I’m not a fan of neither of those two and was honest about it. She clearly didn’t like that and the rest of the date was pretty awkward from there.

3. I went out with a girl from a part of this country where they are known for being cheap. I jokingly said that the dialect make them all sound like villains. She was really offended by that…

4. I went out with a girl who used snus (pretty popular here). I half-jokingly called her disgusting for using it. She found an excause to go home right after that.

Because you are judgmental, that is an instant turn off because indirectly she interpits you are going to judge her the same,discussing politics is a bad idea or anything where you going to be 2 oppositions fighting eachother thats a big no,you directly judging her calling her disgusting thres nothing playful about it,when she knows you well you can use it,but then she knows you not coming from judgmental place.

Dont be judgmental in any way or talk about nothing that will not create intimacy in the end.You are showcasing to her that you not mature with this approach.

Edited July 4 by NoSelfSelf

[NoSelfSelf]

1 hour ago, Lila9 said:

Are you also stoic? Have a backbone? Can be assertive when needed? Have decent self-esteem? Know what you want in life? Have some maturity?

These are some of the attributes that women assume men already have when they say they want nice men. We assume that you already have all of that, and the kindness, gentle behavior, and emotional maturity are the cherry on top, but also crucial to making women hooked.

 

 

This is it! when i saw it,immidietly wanted to share since there is so much confusion around this(as a guy just starting who hasnt found himself ).If one is dealing with a woman and she cant feel gentlness handling her ,she will interpit everything as agressive and disttasteful.But again if someone looks to be gentle to get her in bedroom then its a big fail and natural asshole(non integrated) succedes because he could fake charm, but since he has backbone it works.

This is mindblowing because asshole must have charm 😂

Edited July 4 by NoSelfSelf

[Butters]

This whole thread reminds me of that IT Crowd episode where Roy tries to be a 'bad guy'