Non-violent communication

[Staples]

In one of Leo's recent videos, he mentioned he was going to do an episode on non-violent communication. I wanted to get ahead and see what the fuss was about before he made the episode, and found this gem:

It's a 3 hour video, so a great time killer for us self development nerds.

Seriously this has already totally changed my way of thinking about social activities and how we relate to people for the better. 

Very keen to see Leo's video on the topic, I think it will make the episode extra juicy having a little bit of extra background knowledge before diving straight in.

[numbersinarow]

1 hour ago, Staples said:

It's a 3 hour video, so a great time killer for us self development nerds.

Wouldn't killing time be the last thing you'd want for someone into self-improvement? Being glad that the video is 3 hours long so that it takes up your time just seems to really be against the mood of self-improvement.

[Leo Gura]

@numbersinarow Give him a break. He went out of his way to research the topic and found something useful to him.

[Quader]

My father showed me this video and explained to me how he resonated with non violent communication as a paradigm shown here. My response was to tell him when violence is received viscerally, the response leads to violence against violence, or at least intolerance. And that this intolerance delivered an apathy towards a violent individual that would lead to the inability to reverse the cycle of judgment leading to a cruel sentence, mimicking the violence.

I'm an asshole for doing that but I don't know what other anecdotes to use to stop discord 

[Rafael Thundercat]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

@numbersinarow Give him a break. He went out of his way to research the topic and found something useful to him.

Leo here is actually demostrating a bit of non-violent communication. Or in other words, if there is no need to use violence, why would we use it. We need to stop reacting all the time to everything with the impuse to be vocaly agressive or passive agreesive.

[TheAlchemist]

This video is indeed a great intro to NVC

Edited June 22, 2024 by TheAlchemist

[Princess Arabia]

8 hours ago, numbersinarow said:

Wouldn't killing time be the last thing you'd want for someone into self-improvement? Being glad that the video is 3 hours long so that it takes up your time just seems to really be against the mood of self-improvement.

I think what he actually means is, because there are so many hrs in a day and one person can do so much and can usually only do one thing at a time; it's a great video to watch while doing something else as in driving (listen to), washing dishes, walking, exercising, cleaning etc etc. 

At least for me that's how I manage the time to listen to a lot of long videos. If I'm cooking, I'll have my laptop on the countertop listening, if I'm going for a walk, my bluetooth speaker is pumping listening to a podcast or video, cleaning my room, doing laundry etc etc. It's a great time killer in that aspect. 

Like if I click on the above video and it's something i see that interests me, I'll save it, make a note, and watch it when I'm able to, and what I'm doing doesn't need any concentration or attention. 

Edit: 5mins in and it's a video I'd watch or listen to because i like psychology-type stuff so I'll save it and watch later.

Edited June 22, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[UnbornTao]

Nice, thank you.

[Princess Arabia]

Here's a summary video I found while browsing of the one OP posted that's about 17mins long for those who want a shorter version. 

[Yimpa]

Most religious people wouldn’t even bother taking this topic seriously. They would deny that they even use violent communication to begin with. Their religion has brainwashed them into thinking that they are saints!

It is important to widen your perspective.

Edited June 22, 2024 by Yimpa

[Yimpa]

Here is an example of how not to practice non-violent communication:

 

[Princess Arabia]

22 minutes ago, RightHand said:

We all have moments in our lives where we can snap and do terrible things in the next 10 seconds. Whether it's yelling at someone, breaking something, or assaulting someone with a pickaxe...

 

Lol, Everybody has done the first one, some have done the second, but the third....idk...takes a psycho for that one unless it's self-defense. 

[Yimpa]

9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

but the third....idk...takes a psycho for that one unless it's self-defense. 

I’ve most definitely done that in my past. And to my mother.

Fast forward 10 years and we are now best friends 

[Leo Gura]

41 minutes ago, RightHand said:

assaulting someone with a pickaxe

My typical weekend.

Edited June 22, 2024 by Leo Gura

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

My typical weekend.

Lol

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

I’ve most definitely done that in my past. And to my mother.

Fast forward 10 years and we are now best friends 

You assaulted your mother with a pick-axe? Tell me you're joking.

[Yimpa]

Just now, Princess Arabia said:

You assaulted your mother with a pick-axe? Tell me you're joking.

Not with a pick-axe, but with a pot.

[Yimpa]

All the spiritual gurus you look up to… yes, they’ve all done batshit things! They are protecting their spiritual egos by not disclosing said things.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Yimpa said:

Not with a pick-axe, but with a pot.

lol. That's the mother's job. Oh well. I would never think to assault my mother with anything, barely even got mad at her (to her face anyway), out of respect.

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Yimpa said:

All the spiritual gurus you look up to… yes, they’ve all done batshit things! They are protecting their spiritual egos by not disclosing said things.

I don't look up to Spiritual Gurus. I don't look up to people period. Admire, respect, love, appreciate etc, but not look up to. The only person I ever looked up to in my life was my mother and she's gone. Nothing she did or her personality, just for looking up to sake. No one else could ever fit that place.