How To Express Your Authentic Self To Women

[eTorro]

Hi.

I recently saw a YouTube video of Leo talking about being authentic with women.

That authentic self has to be discovered, of course, but how?

Do we just approach women? We just go and talk to women?

How does it work?

[Schizophonia]

Don't think too much.

[Yimpa]

By being bold.

[NoSelfSelf]

Well there are many reasons,but what i noticed with you is that you said in one thread, that you had many approaches,girlfriends,sex then in other thread asking for lines to say to a woman,doesnt add up.

So for you to be authentic is to embrace your current self and avoid the mindset of being more than you are, it really hurts you since you think you are not good enough.When you think you not good enough  you look to present yourself like somebody you think women will like, but you are not actually that(person you constructed in the mind).So every action,words will come from place of lie and you know to keep lying is really hard, because you need to come up with the things that are not actually true all the time on a fly thaa-daa😆..

But when you accept you and speak from actual truth of your life situation and who you are, words,actions become so smoother and easier..

 

If for example woman asks you what you do in free time and to be authentic you say the truth.If you play video games ,watch porn you say that,if she really feels you she wont mind.Not like looking for some magical answer where she will  be blown away.She will be blown away if you start living authentic life towards your full potential.That can't happen if you keep playing around in your head the lies of the guy you are not.

Edited June 21 by NoSelfSelf

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, eTorro said:

That authentic self has to be discovered, of course, but how?

The whole self-actualization and spiritual process is self-discovery.

And pickup is also that process.

Edited June 21 by Leo Gura

[eTorro]

21 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

The whole self-actualization and spiritual process is self-discovery.

And pickup is also that process.

If I talk to women on the streets, I make them uncomfortable momentarily.

I don't care if or when I get uncomfortable — the issue is that I don't want to make those girls uncomfortable.

But if I go with what @Leo Gura is saying, I'd approach many women on the streets regardless of how I'm making them feel. 

The only solution that would work is TO NOT CARE HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL AT THAT MOMENT.

In other words, I just approach people without caring about the outcome or how they'll feel.

[Myagooshki]

2 hours ago, eTorro said:

If I talk to women on the streets, I make them uncomfortable momentarily.

I don't care if or when I get uncomfortable — the issue is that I don't want to make those girls uncomfortable.

But if I go with what @Leo Gura is saying, I'd approach many women on the streets regardless of how I'm making them feel. 

The only solution that would work is TO NOT CARE HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL AT THAT MOMENT.

In other words, I just approach people without caring about the outcome or how they'll feel.

This isn't wrong per se. This is part of ego strentgth. You're just talking to people. If they're upset then they need to be the ones setting better boundaries. There's nothing wrong with talking to people on the street. Don't harass people when they reject you. Some rejections, yeah, you can be like "pffff" or something if they're over the top rude. You don't need to supplicate to people who reject you, just because sure you're not being too aggressively hard on them. Just keep going. Have you ever watched Baby Reindeer on Netflix? Dude gets a lot of "normal" rejections from his comedy audiences and he takes it to heart. This isn't to say that some of the people rejecting him weren't being douchey, but it isn't completely uncanny for those audiences to exist and present themselves to you like that. People out there are douchebags, don't let them fuck with your head. Find a way to enjoy what you're talking about. Talk about stuff you like to talk about. If that's aliens, philosophy, computers, there are ways to talk about these topics with all sorts of people and yes, it is okay to talk about these things with girls you are trying to fuck. You just want to flirt a bit also.