What about Lonely Handsome Man? Suffering from Sucess

[Rafael Thundercat]

One may think that is impossible to be Handsome and Lonely. But I will tell you one thing: Once I was trying to atract a women and was all in Vain till one day she told me : I am atracted by ugly men!! Handsome man I despise! So couterintuitively in order to atract her I would need to become more ugly and carelss with my apperance. 

Maybe Handsome guys suffer the same tragedy of many Super Beautifull woman, of being judged by their looks and having a hard time to be recongnized by other qualities:

These comments in the comment section say it all :

In my early 20s, I returned to college after I going from 315 pounds to 210 pounds through years of training. I also got a solid tan from my summer job, quality clothes, kept/ built muscle and kept my teeth clean. I earned a reputation as a “hot guy” when I returned to college, but it then became the loneliest time of my life. Guys didn’t laugh at my jokes and it felt like more and more guys were sizing me up or talking shit behind my back. Women who I knew would look away and appear on guard when I was around, and people stopped smiling at me. Oddly enough, more women than I expected would start to look at me with a kind of insecure frown- like I reminded them of some high school crush they couldn’t date.

Suddenly, since I hung out with the artistic crowd, I became a kind of target for everyone’s insecurities. Which is weird because I grew up as the funny fat kid with glasses. But imagine if Chris Farley suddenly looked like Chris Hemsworth in Thor- the jokes just don’t work anymore. It was a massive eye opening experience where suddenly I realized that attractive people get judged WAY more than the average person. So @DannyVera, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about

 

[aurum]

10 hours ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

Once I was trying to atract a women and was all in Vain till one day she told me : I am atracted by ugly men!! Handsome man I despise! So couterintuitively in order to atract her I would need to become more ugly and carelss with my apperance. 

Sure. But don't go too far here.

On the whole, your prospects for dating are far superior if you are better looking. 

Your looks will screen out women who feel like you are out of their league. But they will include a lot more than they will exclude.

Which is not to say that being good looking doesn't have its challenges. Obviously good looks are not pure upside.

[LastThursday]

The way attraction works is that on average you will attract someone with the same level of beauty or handsomeness as you. This is regardless of how attractive or ugly you think you are. There will be outliers and this will be through luck or bad taste or some other exceptional attributes - but it's not the norm.

The most handsome men will always attract more attention (from all levels), however they will in turn be attracted to the most beautiful people, so the net effect is that the most attractive people will be more likely to end up with each other and so on down the ladder of handsomeness.

[Hojo]

@Rafael Thundercat

If you are a handsome man and very shy, self concious you will have a bad time.

Ugly men will be subconsciously jealous of you and will be standoffish and untrustworthy it can make it seem that people dont like you.

You need to have the confidence that people see in your face when they look at you even if you dont have it in yourself.

If you do not initiate kindness as a beautiful person people will think you are stuck up even tho you are just reflecting them.

What self concious people dont realize is beautiful people cant see their face either. So if they arent full of themselves they cant see their beauty and feel normal.

''''Suddenly, since I hung out with the artistic crowd, I became a kind of target for everyone’s insecurities. Which is weird because I grew up as the funny fat kid with glasses. But imagine if Chris Farley suddenly looked like Chris Hemsworth in Thor- the jokes just don’t work anymore. It was a massive eye opening experience where suddenly I realized that attractive people get judged WAY more than the average person.'''

People that do this are secretly saying you are better them. So take charge of whats happening to you you are beautiful now and that demands power. They are looking at you and secretly identifying with you cause you are beautiful.

Just dont use it for ego as God made it so you cant see your own face on purpose we are all equal. Just program your mind for more self confidence that people are subconsciously projecting onto you.

 

Edited June 10 by Hojo