People's opinion when i am cringe

[jacknine119]

i am trying to dont care about reject and people's opinion, but its hard when i also think that i was cringy. how can i solve this? 

Edited June 1, 2024 by jacknine119

[Recursoinominado]

Well, you can be cringe or out of the ordinary, which one was it?

When I tried to be more social and confident, I often did "cringe" things but that's also the process of discovering a new you, sometimes you will go too far.

If you are afraid of going too far sometimes, you will be forever stuck whatever you are. 

Also, consider that most people are WAAAAY too judgy and we tend to be like that too by default.

The only way out of it is to stop judging yourself first and then develop a way to contemplate if you are going to far and correct if necessary.

[Mada_]

Contemplate socialising. I came to the insight that it’s kind of futile for me to keep seeking validation when people have different value sets and therefore will validate different things.

Lately I’m noticing a change in myself where if I don’t get validation, I just drop it and keep moving with the conversation e.g. I say a joke no one laughs “oh well that wasn’t funny, moving on” and being able to let that go. In the past I would just keep hammering the joke until someone acknowledged me. 
 

If you have the LP course, do the limiting belief exercise in the making it real section. My friend and I who also has the course guide each other through this exercise, you will discover layers of limiting beliefs that you need to work through. Then once you reframe that belief you can do an affirmation for 5 minutes a day, for a period of 7 days to remind your subconscious mind of the reframe. Then repeat the process - thats my strategy at least I believe it’s well informed. 

[Keryo Koffa]

@jacknine119 An important perspectival lens I discovered is the Self/Other Unity. When you judge another, you judge a part of yourself. Same with cringe, anger, etc., whatever you apply to self, applies to others, what you apply to others applies to yourself. Try building a framework of understanding behavior and how you interpret and perceive it, then apply the same rules to yourself and others. If you have confidence in your own universal judgement, you become less dependent on the judgement of others. If you struggle with cringing at yourself, you can use that to feedback yourself into shape and then you don't even need to face shame from others, but only from yourself, and you are 100% in control of your internal world, even if you're not always aware of it.

[UnbornTao]

Some social sensitivity is appropriate and at the same time don't get bogged down by social expectations. The principle of balance is helpful in this case.

Edited June 6, 2024 by UnbornTao