List some of the things that you think you're wrong about?

[Basman]

It seems harder for some than others to reflect on what they're wrong about. I guess its easy when you have regrets.

Finally something I'm good at...

[UnbornTao]

Take a look; you guys should find plenty of personal examples. Start with: "I was wrong not to "find" anything I was wrong about."

For example, broadly speaking, consider ways in which you: justify your excuses, think that X or Y are going to finally make you happy, play the victim, avoid pain, complain about things without doing anything about them, say one thing and do another, blame your life on this or that, use white lies for self-benefit, pretend to be something you're not. Bring to mind your own biases, hypocrisy, selfishness and self-deceptions.

These are some of my personal examples:

• Taking oneself to be unique and special as if it were a fact of the universe (honestly, who doesn't?)
• Acting arrogant and righteous in subtle ways
• Making interactions about oneself, letting irrelevant stuff, such as the occasional impulse to be right, get in the way of the exchange
• Being cynical at times
• Engaging in superficial honesty. The more I move in that direction, the more I feel like that
• Being dismissive towards others
• Misusing humor at inappropriate times
• Being eager to judge before making an attempt to really listen
• Complaining about not being heard while simultaneously not listening to others
• Invalidating everyone, including oneself, under the guise of deconstruction (done with selfish intent)
• Making sharp remarks when hurt to get revenge
• Being too contrarian or disagreeable

Some of these are vague; I'm not going to share a detailed analysis here.

Brainstorm and introspect for some time. They don't have to be monumental fuckups such as robbing a bank. Subtle, small, specific cases work, too, as long as you asses them as such.

Edited May 30 by UnbornTao