Sex Is Overrated. Am I Alone In This?

[eTorro]

Hi.

I've been part of the pickup community.

I talked to many girls in the past and I've had many girlfriends.

But no matter how much sex I have, it doesn't make me happier.

The more sex I have, the more awful life becomes for me.

I can't explain it properly. I feel like I have a void inside.

Is anyone in this situation?

[Hojo]

Sex is one of the things that will never satisfy you you are looking for the feeling of being with God but its no permanent and to cum again to feel it. You will forever chase your own tail if you are filling the void with sex.

Its like any drug or anything else people repeat over and over for gratification.

Maybe you want connection more but have warped your mind to confuse yourself into thinking you want sex but you want love.

Edited May 27 by Hojo

[Leo Gura]

What is it you expect?

What kind of happiness was sex supposed to provide you other than to mollify your horniness?

Edited May 27 by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

It makes you happy if you don't expect or rely on it to make you happy 

" There are two ways for driving yourself crazy : not getting what you want , and getting what you want "

Edited May 27 by mmKay

[strika]

1 hour ago, eTorro said:

Hi.

I've been part of the pickup community.

I talked to many girls in the past and I've had many girlfriends.

But no matter how much sex I have, it doesn't make me happier.

The more sex I have, the more awful life becomes for me.

I can't explain it properly. I feel like I have a void inside.

Is anyone in this situation?

And that's where semen retention comes in, that's how it starts, you have all the sex in the world, you realize it ain't it, you go the other way and realize you were scammed by the society from the get go, cultivating sexual energy for happiness > wasting sexual energy for happiness. And also SR is basically the 2nd most efficient practical unifier of your basline state of consciousness with God that there is.

[Applegarden8]

I don't know, never had it. Don't care that much either at the moment. I will have her only if I really vibe with her, otherwise it's just a social barter.

Edited May 27 by Applegarden8

[BlessedLion]

Sex is a beautiful part of life. Do it consciously and connect emotionally. Look up David Deida and Tantric sex 

[koops]

Do you have a life purpose?

When you have that in place, sex become less important.

 

Its usually a mistake to have sex as a high priority.

Sex is an amazing side dish, but a horrible main dish.

[Lyubov]

I physically really love sex and to be honest one of my top intentions currently is to explore my sexuality more with more women. I wouldn’t call it overrated but I will say it never completes anyone and we have often times been fed by society and our own false beliefs that having sex completes us and we need it to be happy or joyful or peaceful. 

I also think there are dimensions to sex and a grass is greener on the other side problem here. When I was having problems in my last relationship I almost lost attraction to an otherwise very pretty young woman. When I had easy access to sex I would only have it maybe once a week and this was on the sort of relationship is coming to an end phase. 
 

There was also keeping it interesting in the bedroom and considering her needs, there’s a lot more to sex than just pumping and cumming. 

So how we perceive sex and what we have can really come into play with how we apply our beliefs to it. 

I do think there is a really limiting and false belief that we have to be having sex always, however this doesn’t mean suppressing desire. Desire is a great thing, I think it just needs to be created responsibly. 

Edited May 30 by Lyubov

[Natasha Tori Maru]

At the root of this you my be confusing happiness with pleasure.  

 

Really big issue for many and a core element of addiction.

[Hugo Oliveira]

I can relate.

I don't buy into the idea that "sex does not make you happy". Of course it can do. It is a fulfillment of a desire.

The point is that you probably are confusing sex with connection. Connection with yourself, with good feelings, and with your partner(s). 

Constantly chasing sex without feeling good about yourself and the whole situation is a trap. It can not only be frustrating but also damaging. Nobody talks about this in the Pickup community, instead, they suggest you chase more and more as if more experience would make you invincible.

Take a break if necessary and contemplate the magical chemistry that arises when you see a beautiful woman. Make clear to yourself what is loving and what is hunting. 

[petar8p]

It is an act of kindness 

If you do it to search for Hapinees or fulfilling yourself, you cannot be satisfied from it. 

If you do it OUT of Hapiness and fulfilment, you will be grateful for the experience, enjoy it for what it is and it won't take anything from you. It won't be transactional, it will be a gift.

Same is true with food, money, adrenaline, drugs or you name it. It's not the thing, but the place it's coming from!

Edited May 31 by petar8p

[integral]

Besides that you’re probably having low quality sex like two rats, sex tends be more meaningful to women because they tend to experience it as love and bounding. If you’re detached from the bonding aspects of it all then it’s completely Souless and booooooriiiiiiiiiiing.

Edited May 31 by integral

[BlessedLion]

Sex should be about Love nothing else 

[Someone here]

Cigarettes feel better than sex.

Try Marlboro Gold.

[Twentyfirst]

Meh it's just a biological function that the human mind took too far 

[eTorro]

On 6/3/2024 at 9:34 AM, Someone here said:

Cigarettes feel better than sex.

 

I agree. I was a smoker before and I loved it. Smoking is better than sex, except for your health. 

[MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI]

Sex is amazing if you don't cum. Maybe you have sensitivity problems.

[eTorro]

15 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

Sex is amazing if you don't cum. Maybe you have sensitivity problems.

I prefer my cup of coffee in the morning, mate.

I would not trade coffee for sex.

Today I talked to people about sex, and they told me that sex gets boring after you do it a few times.

[petar8p]

19 minutes ago, eTorro said:

I prefer my cup of coffee in the morning, mate.

I would not trade coffee for sex.

Today I talked to people about sex, and they told me that sex gets boring after you do it a few times.

Have you made girls squirt and/or laugh/cry while having sex?