Why approaching women is important?

[TheGod]

I moved to Toronto a few weeks ago in order to work on my game. I’ve approached just around 50+ girls by now (90%-day game) and I can clearly see why approaching is important. Everyone has their own reasons for doing the game some of them are very immature and toxic (lay count) and some of them are wise (developing social skills). My reason was mainly to get rid of the fear. Today after approaching another girl and asking her what were her top 5 values (she said she never thought about it and then she said she didn’t have any specific value) I became aware why I had such a big fear. It’s because all this time I’d been deluded by my own imagination. When I was a teenage, I had created an image of what is women without actually talking to women (I was very shy and anxious kid).

 Now at the age of 27 the illusion cracked and I begin to see women for who they actually are. To be honest I’m very disappointed with a value of women I have approached (although they looked hot). I know it sounds funny, but deep down I used to think of them as though they were goddess, beings with a higher value than regular guy. I realized that the perfect girl that I had been chasing all this time actually is a fantasy.

On the other hand, I’m happy because now I know that women won’t add any crucial value or meaning to my life. I’m responsible for making my life meaningful. Real happiness doesn’t depend on having or not having a girlfriend, unfortunately to my falls beliefs and ideas. I know some guys who keep idealizing and worshiping women and the other half demonizes them thinking that women are evil materialistic cold bitches. None of these guys are correct. They are trapped in their minds that play them.

Nevertheless, I won’t stop approaching women, until the fear of approaching is completely gone.

[Buck Edwards]

Everyone adds value to life.

[TheGod]

34 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Everyone adds value to life.

The weather is nice outside

[Buck Edwards]

8 minutes ago, TheGod said:

The weather is nice outside

The birds are beautiful as always. 

[TheGod]

14 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

The birds are beautiful as always. 

Birds can fly as well 

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, TheGod said:

Birds can fly as well 

Women are humans just like men. There's no secret about women other than what your mind comes up with. The only thing in my observation is that women don't prefer someone who isn't too friendly with their general interests. If you want to please them you have to make them feel interested in what you do or be interested in what they are doing in their lives. In short be their friend. But don't get friendzoned. Always know when to detach. Women like an air of mystery around men. So if you get too promotional about yourself, it can be a turn off,lile a used car salesman vibe that turns off a lot of high quality women. Be the mysterious guy who isn't too invasive. 

[TheGod]

14 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Women are humans just like men. There's no secret about women other than what your mind comes up with. The only thing in my observation is that women don't prefer someone who isn't too friendly with their general interests. If you want to please them you have to make them feel interested in what you do or be interested in what they are doing in their lives. In short be their friend. But don't get friendzoned. Always know when to detach. Women like an air of mystery around men. So if you get too promotional about yourself, it can be a turn off,lile a used car salesman vibe that turns off a lot of high quality women. Be the mysterious guy who isn't too invasive. 

Sorry bro but I don't understand why you're giving me a pick-up advice when the topic isn't about it. I didn't ask about what women prefer or how should I behave myself around them. 

Anyways, thanks for the advice 

[NoSelfSelf]

First thing with reading you are not doing game you are game,so it seems you think approaching women is game.

In 50 approaches you cracked what woman actually is im curious what are they?

Interesting to see that guys who cant offer nothing to a woman will say, that woman cant bring no value to a man.

Other than that props for facing fears.

[TheGod]

4 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

In 50 approaches you cracked what woman actually is im curious what are they?

 

Not really, I realized that they are not what I thought they were. I had stupid, naive and idealizing ideas. On the other hand, I still lack a significant experience. But “the perfect girlfriend” was a part of my imagination.

4 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Interesting to see that guys who cant offer nothing to a woman will say, that woman cant bring no value to a man.

 

This one is hard. To be honest I think that different women need different things from men and vice versa. Value is a subjective therm. 

[Applegarden8]

Life is for enlightenment, let me live that possibility

[BlessedLion]

Honestly man, you’re in the wrong place. Toronto has a very anti male culture and it’s hard to be a masculine man there. Most Canadian women I meet are just not that attractive and very out of touch with what it means to be sexy. This is why you feel that way. It’s because they are NOT Godesses. The toxic feminist of that culture have stripped that from them and those women are not in tune with their sexual power or how to make a man feel like a man. 
 

Currently I’m in Brazil. A very rich feminine culture where sexuality is something of pride and even the fattest women can be sexy with just how confident they are. But most of them aren’t fat. They take care of their bodies, know what it means to be feminine and naturally make you feel like a more masculine man. 
 

This isn’t a stupid spiral dynamics debate and it’s not an issue of development. These women are naturally just sexier and more feminine because their culture encourages it, and yes, they are Godesses here. Actual Godesses. I’m in constant awe of this place and even reluctantly talking about it because I don’t want a bunch of men coming here fucking it up

[TheGod]

6 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

Honestly man, you’re in the wrong place. Toronto has a very anti male culture and it’s hard to be a masculine man there. Most Canadian women I meet are just not that attractive and very out of touch with what it means to be sexy. This is why you feel that way. It’s because they are NOT Godesses. The toxic feminist of that culture have stripped that from them and those women are not in tune with their sexual power or how to make a man feel like a man. 
 

Currently I’m in Brazil. A very rich feminine culture where sexuality is something of pride and even the fattest women can be sexy with just how confident they are. But most of them aren’t fat. They take care of their bodies, know what it means to be feminine and naturally make you feel like a more masculine man. 
 

This isn’t a stupid spiral dynamics debate and it’s not an issue of development. These women are naturally just sexier and more feminine because their culture encourages it, and yes, they are Godesses here. Actual Godesses. I’m in constant awe of this place and even reluctantly talking about it because I don’t want a bunch of men coming here fucking it up

 

Bro we are definitely on the same page about this issue! My ex was from Rio! 

I can't compare Latin women to European or Canadian women, they are on a different level! I actually miss the time when I worked on cruise ships in San Paulo. I met so many beautiful women. Thanks God, there are some Latin girls here, in Toronto. When I talk to them it’s not a feministic nonsense. On the other hand, they are not trying to please men easier. It’s a perfect balance. I could write a book about different it is to flirt with Latin women in Spanish.

I’m planning to move to Latin America at some point in my life. Not only for the girls, I like their night life it kinda suits my personality. The only reason why I’m here in Canada is because of the war in my home country.   

Spiral dynamics mambo-jambo is irrelevant here. People who want to be at the ultimate stage don't even need women, because it's a distraction.

[NoSelfSelf]

@TheGod So one that has game has a mindset that he is the value, so becoming the value is most important- so everything you do is valuable because you are the source now your source is fear and negative programming,its like only way to buy big mac is to go to a macdonlads its because thats the unique value they offer(but what is in you that offers such unique value?)

[NoSelfSelf]

14 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

Honestly man, you’re in the wrong place. Toronto has a very anti male culture and it’s hard to be a masculine man there. Most Canadian women I meet are just not that attractive and very out of touch with what it means to be sexy. This is why you feel that way. It’s because they are NOT Godesses. The toxic feminist of that culture have stripped that from them and those women are not in tune with their sexual power or how to make a man feel like a man. 
 

Currently I’m in Brazil. A very rich feminine culture where sexuality is something of pride and even the fattest women can be sexy with just how confident they are. But most of them aren’t fat. They take care of their bodies, know what it means to be feminine and naturally make you feel like a more masculine man. 
 

This isn’t a stupid spiral dynamics debate and it’s not an issue of development. These women are naturally just sexier and more feminine because their culture encourages it, and yes, they are Godesses here. Actual Godesses. I’m in constant awe of this place and even reluctantly talking about it because I don’t want a bunch of men coming here fucking it up

Since when women make man feel like a man that doesnt make sense.

When one is not a man thats how he thinks: i cant bring out things out of her so i want her to be masculine to bring things out of me😅

@TheGod Forget what i wrote beforehand its too far out there for someone thinking women here are different then women there..

 

[TheGod]

6 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

thinking women here are different then women there..

The difference is you assume that women are the same and I know that they are different. How come? Because I lived in different countries. My experience or your assumptions, what is the valid source? 

[NoSelfSelf]

@TheGod No you are 100% right im full of sh#t,in near future due to estrogen male apocalypse, we will have to look for extra feminine and hot as hell women in the core of the earth 🙌

[joeyi99]

@TheGod So your only goal is to just overcome the fear of approaching? 

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, joeyi99 said:

@TheGod So your only goal is to just overcome the fear of approaching? 

For now, I have 2 goals: overcome fear & destroy my unrealistic expectations towards women (idealization). I feel less fear with every approach, as well first scratches on my rosy glasses that I'd been using to look at women have appeared.

After I approach a 1000 girls I'll change my goals.

I'm not in a rush, 

[Lyubov]

I don’t really know how to start a conversation with a woman in a loud club setting. It’s easier for me in a setting outside a club. A bar or in the beach is easier. In a loud club where there’s a ton of girls and guys acting bold, I’m just lost. I sort of want to learn and have no limits when and where I interact with women. 

[TheGod]

2 hours ago, Lyubov said:

I don’t really know how to start a conversation with a woman in a loud club setting. It’s easier for me in a setting outside a club. A bar or in the beach is easier. In a loud club where there’s a ton of girls and guys acting bold, I’m just lost. I sort of want to learn and have no limits when and where I interact with women. 

To be honest I prefer day game as well. I started my approaches in clubs, but now I can clearly see it doesn't fit my personality. Drank girls are very annoying, especially if I'm the only sober person on a dance floor. 

But it's easier to have sex from night game and it's much faster to start kissing or making out with a girl. I saw some guys doing it within minutes.