How to actually stop beeing addicted to phone LONG TERM

[matoriii]

I know and did all the detoxes and had miimalistic phones . Its not a problem for me to take action but that " will " will only take you so far . I am intressted in some kind of natural solution or idea . Also i am asking this cause i realise that in mine and also most of yall lives THIS addiction is the thing that is keeping you stuck and not catapulting you into life...

 

Also the part that is tuff for me to discipline myself its hard for me to feel shame cause i done alot of first of all self improvement and had some crucial realisations that I KNOW i am everything and its worth of love and self worth but even that is beeing damaged since i am more and more less spiritual beeing stuck in this kind of life since its an escape from doing the hard stuff i need to do .. 

[universe]

What are you doing on your phone?

[matoriii]

@universe Watching videos basicly binge watching , also listening to music daydreaming ... all escape type things . And if you ask what i am escaping .. It is probably needing to do shadow work and beeing in shambles inside my head cause i wanted to reach the unconditional ... love happines , also working so its tuff . 

And yeah i dont need you to tell me about this inner thoughts and all cause i already think too much when i am off the phone which even more strenghtens the cycle . I need the tip for that first step ... or not even first step but solution to this practical . Thanks for response tho 

[universe]

I am wondering what kind of videos those are. Smartphones are so small, do you not have a laptop or tv to watch videos?

[matoriii]

@universe yeah its mostly laptop to be honest and tv , not so much a phone , and i am honest its not porn if u allude to that . Thats what i mean its tuff like attackers are everywhere lol . So i would really appreciate any tips .

[universe]

Ok easy, have you tried filling up your calendar somehow?

Like seeing friends, visit family, a hobby activity, dance class, social events, solo retreats, going out in nature?

I think these kinds of subtle addiction to videos can take hold of us when there is too much free time.

And when you are busy doing something else you will not miss it that much.

You can start by scheduling three events like the ones mentioned above during your next week.

And then you increase it to daily events, then multiple daily events.

[matoriii]

@universe i like how you implement it as a habit cause for us i think even the way of thinking is a habit so habits shape us so this is great . But arent i just filling up my schedule ? I am kinda still addicted to diffrent things isnt it ?

[universe]

No, meeting friends and family and having a hobby isn't called an addiction.

And even if, there is nothing wrong with being addicted, as long as you are happy, healthy and have a fulfilled live.

[matoriii]

@universe i know but what are then people pleasers ? They cant be alone so then they people please cause they either cant love themselves beeing alone (self image) or cand validate themselves ... So they feel alone and are around people ? Are they happy or addicted ? If you are around people doesnt mean you will be happy but i get what you are saying . You are right but my goal is freedom and even when im alone to not fall into bad habits .

Hope you get what im trying to say . 

[Schizophonia]

1)Take your phone

2)Explode him against a wall. 

3)Replace him by a very simple cellular without internet

 

tadaaa

[Princess Arabia]

Stop seeing stuff as an addiction. When you find yourself doing it, don't judge it. Just observe from a distance. Don't pay attention to the bullying thoughts. Don't make assessments, don't analyze, don't try to stop in the moment. Let it be, but observe. Give it some love. Say, I love you but you gotta go. Keep doing that and eventually, with ease, it'll go away.

Calling it an addiction will just perpetuate the mind and feed the thoughts that aligns with addictive patterns. It's kind of like an identity thing.

Edited May 24, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Chadders]

@matoriii Do what I do. Leave your phone at home and go for a walk or bike ride

also remove news and social media apps

[Hojo]

give it to someone and say if anyone calls to tell you if its important.

Then dont have it for 3 days or so you will get bored and do other stuff

and then you will get used to doing other stuff.

Edited May 24, 2024 by Hojo

[enchanted]

On 23/05/2024 at 6:37 PM, matoriii said:

I know and did all the detoxes and had miimalistic phones . Its not a problem for me to take action but that " will " will only take you so far . I am intressted in some kind of natural solution or idea . Also i am asking this cause i realise that in mine and also most of yall lives THIS addiction is the thing that is keeping you stuck and not catapulting you into life...

 

Also the part that is tuff for me to discipline myself its hard for me to feel shame cause i done alot of first of all self improvement and had some crucial realisations that I KNOW i am everything and its worth of love and self worth but even that is beeing damaged since i am more and more less spiritual beeing stuck in this kind of life since its an escape from doing the hard stuff i need to do .. 

Do Sadguru's inner engineering  course and everything about you will change. 

Otherwise just REALLY WANT to quit and eventually you will. The reason this is true because there was a time in your life when you REALLY WANTED to have nothing more than endless time on your phone.....and you made that happen too. 

Edited May 25, 2024 by enchanted