Number is important in the game

[TheGod]

I finally grasped how to feel more at ease when approaching women. The key here is understanding that chances to get laid if you are a newbie are very small. Which is why approaching someone just because you want to have sex is a low-quality reason. 
For myself, the main reason why I need to approach women is one - get rid of the fear. I was bullied in school so from childhood I had self-esteem issues. I used to put women on pedestal (I was raised by my mother and grandmother). I tried to lie to myself saying that I don’t need to approach women making a lot of excuses, but recently I really realized all of my bullshit. I have to approach women. I need to start seeing them for who they are otherwise I’ll be one of those guys in their 50s standing at the bar with a bottle of beer looking at women but too afraid to approach. 
Lay count is nonsense and people who show off with the amount of the girls they have slept with derive their sens of self worth from it. Deep down they still weak, baby men. 
For me what’s important is the approach number. As long as I have  balls to approach a women it’s a win. It’s irrelevant how she reacts. 
My plan is to approach a thousand women by the age of 30 (I’m 27). Even if I don’t get laid it’s not important. If I want to get laid 100% I’d go to a prostitute or watch porn. 
I want to make my weakness into my greatest expertise. 

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, TheGod said:

I have to approach women. I need to start seeing them for who they are otherwise I’ll be one of those guys in their 50s standing at the bar with a bottle of beer looking at women but too afraid to approach. 

Who are they to you. 

 

4 hours ago, TheGod said:

My plan is to approach a thousand women by the age of 30 (I’m 27)

Seems like you're only in the game to approach. Don't know why you're approaching if it's just for the numbers. What a waste of time and energy just to say "I've approached 1000 women". Then what.

[universe]

Of course it is a numbers game. Like everything in life.

Want to get a good job? Write 100 companies

Want to sell a shirt? Offer it to 100 people

Want to get followers? Make 100 posts

Want to get apples? Plant 100 trees

Want to build muscles? Lift some weight 100 times

 

You know what you have to do. Don't listen to the voice in your head which is telling you all kind of stories why you can't act today.

You can work on quality, mindset and being emotionally mature along the way.

 

❤️

[TheGod]

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Who are they to you. 

Someone who is superior to me and more worthy than I am. Someone who I have to please and pretend to be like. It sits deep down in my subconscious mind. 
I’m approaching women to: get rid of the fear, put them down of the pedestal, improve my social skills. 

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, universe said:

You know what you have to do. Don't listen to the voice in your head which is telling you all kind of stories why you can't act today.

Yes my friend, I’m acting now. The more rejections I get the less I care. The end of my women problem will die soon. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, TheGod said:

Someone who is superior to me and more worthy than I am. Someone who I have to please and pretend to be like. It sits deep down in my subconscious mind. 
I’m approaching women to: get rid of the fear, put them down of the pedestal, improve my social skills. 

Ok, makes sense. 

[Lyubov]

I like your reasoning for talking to women. I think keeping low expectations is always good because having expectations closes you off from being present. You aren’t accepting reality when you have all sorts of expectations. Having expectations also closes you off from all the different possibilities that can unfold from talking to someone and also from learning new things too since anything that doesn’t fit your expectations is often labeled as failure. 

I try to drop all my beliefs when I talk to women and just go with the belief that it’s interesting and good to talk to new people and I’ve found this to be often times true. Of course not everyone I vibe with but I also accept that it’s also a bit of a numbers game. Not everyone is meant to fit with me. 
 

Also look at why you create fear talking to girls. You choose to create that fear. Why? What do you believe here about talking to women? 

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

I think keeping low expectations is always good

Women and expectations are two words that can't be used in one sentence ;D It's seems to be that women don't know what to expect even from themselves. 

 

1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

Also look at why you create fear talking to girls. You choose to create that fear. Why? What do you believe here about talking to women? 

Childhood issues, but I'm working on them and very soon will transform myself in the domain of dating. 

[Lyubov]

1 hour ago, TheGod said:

Women and expectations are two words that can't be used in one sentence ;D It's seems to be that women don't know what to expect even from themselves. 

 

Childhood issues, but I'm working on them and very soon will transform myself in the domain of dating. 

Great job, you seem to really be on the right path 

[Dauntment]

Good luck with whatever journey youre setting but I always think the "numbers" game is absurd. I came across a reddit post. I even went to find it for you about a similar conquest. In my opinion, if you're needing to approach 1000 f**king women for (meaningful) "results", you are SERIOUSLY doing something wrong. I would say "Quality not quantity". 

But if/since you ARE going to playing some numbers game, I'd at least emphasize Diversity in your quest. Various ages, different cultures & regions, all ethnicities etc. so that way you have a much more RICH pool of experience rather than "knocking 200-300 approaches at your nearest mall/plaza" kinda thing

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, Dauntment said:

Good luck with whatever journey youre setting but I always think the "numbers" game is absurd. I came across a reddit post. I even went to find it for you about a similar conquest. In my opinion, if you're needing to approach 1000 f**king women for (meaningful) "results", you are SERIOUSLY doing something wrong. I would say "Quality not quantity". 

 

You can't talk about quality before approaching at least 1000 women. It doesn't matter how many pick-up advice you read, watch youtube videos about it. What matters is direct experience in the field. With experience comes expertise. You've got to find your authentic style and it takes lots of practice. After you've approached a 1000 now we can talk about quality and change the aim of approaching. 

 

1 hour ago, Dauntment said:

But if/since you ARE going to playing some numbers game, I'd at least emphasize Diversity in your quest. Various ages, different cultures & regions, all ethnicities etc. so that way you have a much more RICH pool of experience rather than "knocking 200-300 approaches at your nearest mall/plaza" kinda thing

I won't comment on this because it's too obvious