How to talk to cute girl at my work?

[toasty7718]

Hey actualized,

It's been a while since I've post in here. I come to you in a time of great need. As you may have known, I'm currently working at an organic health foods store and it's a pretty solid working environment. The front end department has many people come and go because it's a customer facing job, of course, and recently this really cute girl who's anywhere between the ages of 18 and 21 started working here. 

I have yet to be in a relationship. My experience when talking to women is lacking, to say the least. I had an intense infatuation for this one girl in my psychology clsss who didn't feel the same way towards me and I don't want to repeat that blunder.

How can I shift my mindset about her? What should be my ultimate goal when conversing with her? How do I have her develop an emotional connection to me? What I'm do I do?

I saw she had a Led Zeppelin T-shirt today and I figured I might as well compliment her on it and establish that we have similar music interests. She smiles when talking to me. What other conversation topics can I use when I see her in the break room, for example?

[Leo Gura]

15 minutes ago, toasty7718 said:

How can I shift my mindset about her? What should be my ultimate goal when conversing with her? How do I have her develop an emotional connection to me? What I'm do I do?

You flirt.

Flirting is being playful, humorous, and cheeky. Communicate to her like you are interested in her, but in a challenging way.

As in, Hey, I'm interested in you, but also not too interested.

Be playful with her. Don't try to have serious talk.

"Hey, I like your shirt, but I think it would look even better on me  "

Edited May 23 by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

If you want a specific girl, get good with girls overall. Train your skillset so you can apply it with her. Otherwise you will do your learning mistakes on her and it will be exponentially harder to make anything happen once she senses your unconfident vibe

Edited May 23 by mmKay

[Yimpa]

1 hour ago, toasty7718 said:

I had an intense infatuation for this one girl in my psychology clsss who didn't feel the same way towards me and I don't want to repeat that blunder.

How long did it take you to find out that she was not into you? 

[NoSelfSelf]

If you dont care about your job then do it ,because when it comes to flirting its first how much influence you have over yourself then words, so if you dont believe in yourself then it will come off as creepy...

[toasty7718]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

How long did it take you to find out that she was not into you? 

I feel like I knew initially but after a few weeks of her not really responding to my texts it was evident 

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

"Hey, I like your shirt, but I think it would look even better on me

If a guy said that to me, I would think he was a narcissist. If he added "and mine on you", now that would make me smile, as long as he leaves it at that.

[universe]

9 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

If a guy said that to me, I would think he was a narcissist. If he added "and mine on you", now that would make me smile, as long as he leaves it at that.

How would you flirt with a cute guy at work?

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, universe said:

How would you flirt with a cute guy at work?

I'm the wrong person to ask this question as to the type of work I do. 

If just on a general scale, I don't really go for "cute", I've outgrown "cute". So you would have to rephrase this question for me to be able to answer, as both criteria doesn't compute. Cute and work.

[toasty7718]

22 hours ago, Yimpa said:

So, what mindset shifts should I incorporate when talking to her? What's my ultimate goal of the interaction so I don't come off creepy?

Edited May 24 by toasty7718

[toasty7718]

Nevermind

 

shes 25

[Yimpa]

On 5/23/2024 at 7:34 AM, Leo Gura said:

Hey, I like your shirt, but I think it would look even better on me

You sneaky little devil… I had a dream last night and you were dancing around in my underwear!

[kamill]

If you're thinking about posting a question on a forum about a specific girl, you are already losing a battle. You’re probably too focused on this one girl. The best way to meet someone special is to approach and talk to thousands of different girls. If you approach fewer than 100, you’re likely to fuck up. But go for it anyway!

[toasty7718]

"He who seeks wisdom from others on how to speak with a woman at his workplace has already conceded defeat within himself."

- Confucius 

Edited June 26 by toasty7718