Is It Possible To Be Completely Fearless?

[onacloudynight]

I've realized recently through lots of meditation and mindfulness that I have tons of fear that I have been repressing. My fears tend to be focused mainly in social situations. I fear expressing myself 100%. Like I am holding some parts of my self back, because of the fear of being perceived as weird. I would like to know if it is possible to completely eradicate this fear. As I wish to express myself 100% authentically in interactions.

On a whim, one day I decided to put my fear to the test. Since I feared being seen as "weird", I decided to purposefully do something that was a bit "out there". I decided to go to the mall, in the crowded food court, and scream at the top of my lungs and just stand there and take it, with all the eyes on me. Let me tell you afterwards I felt extremely liberated, like I was invincible. Obviously doing that once didn't completely eliminate it, but I would like to know what other actions I could take, so that the fear is completely eliminated.

Edited April 18, 2017 by onacloudynight

[egoeimai]

This was so brave. Well done! Congrats. I would say that whenever you feel that fear around others,remember that people will judge you and that is totally okay. You cant make them not do it. But you can chillax backwards and see what happens. Let them say to you everything that makes you feel afraid,look at their judgemental eyes,and just accept them for who they are. They are not going to stop judging. But you can stop being afraid of them. You can be free. Just see yourself as a person that can be around mean people,but cant be influenced by them. If you dont let those words affect you negatively,also If you let go of the positive stuff that others saying to you...you will be free. Simply,whatever they say,is not about you. It is about them. Their perception. As abe says,people will love you people will hate you but none of it will have anything to do with you. I recently let go the opinions of others about me, I let them go...I just let them have their opinions. But I no longer believe that theyre true. Because the following happens: when you have an opinion about you (good) and others have an opposite opinion(bad),your ego wants to prove them wrong...you hate them. When they believe in you,so they have nice things to say to you about you (good),but you have a bad opinion about yourself (bad), .....you love them. But the worst is the following. When they believe bad things for you,and you believe the same___you feel awful,because you see that they are right (when they dont-theyre being mean to you,but mostly u r being mean to yourself! ) Then you feel the contradictory thoughts and you wish you had an opposite opinion from theirs. All that being said,the conclusion is; fear is only in your mind. And whenever they judge you,criticize u,its THEIR problem. Not yours. Sooo...thats it.Go free yourself.

[Salaam]

I actually appreciate and am thankful for my fear now a days.

Why? Because my fear does not paralyze me or halt my action. Instead my fear just helps me be more sensitive to a situation, it makes me sharper, and it adds meaning and expands my edge based capacities as I face it's resistance and STILL MOVE.

That's what you did in your example and you got to bear the fruits of it. That rush of exaltation and liberation. That success. You adapted and gained momentum that will make the same type of situation or similar that much easier to do once again.

So no, you don't eradicate fear or become invincible to it, you really don't want to, because then you'd lose that meaning and feeling of success afterwards and it's beneficial adaptations towards our edge. That stuff only comes by overcoming resistance. Instead you grow and adapt with your fear so it harmonizes with you and then you're like me, no longer afraid of fear, but appreciative of it as one of the other many signals your body uses to communicate with you that is also a tool for adaption and satisfaction in life.

The key is to move though. We can rationalize all we want in our head to make us feel safe or whatever and that's fine, but all that is secondary to actually taking ACTION like you did. It's only after we take action and pass through that firewall of resistance do we reap the rewards and adaptations that change how we relate to our fears.