I'm going to become an asshole

[TheGod]

It's been two years since I broke up with my ex. Ever since, I've been going to night clubs, trying to approach women. I've been doing some day game. But all in vain. I've got a friend who has multiple girlfriends at the same time. The more I talk to him the more I realize what I'm doing wrong. I'm way too needy, direct and too pussy with women. What my friend does is he tells women lies constantly. He tells them what they want to hear, not what he really thinks. I realised that most of the women don't actually appreciate honesty. It's what they say they need, but in reality they are not attracted to it. 

All my life I've been trying to be gentle with women, trying to respect them, treat them fairly. Now I see that I was wrong. I'm going to become an actor when dealing with women. My goal is to have 3 girlfriends at the same time. I'll be using lies and manipulation.

Before you try to comment something, let me do it first.  I'm conscious that I want to do it because I feel bitter and I'm also conscious this won't make me happy. On the other hand, I know that I won't feel worse than I feel now, because now I feel lonely and tired, I don't want to feel victim anymore. Survival is unfair but it is what it is. 

[NoSelfSelf]

Nah you are saying you are going to become a loser for life, asshole doesnt care about a woman like you do.

[Princess Arabia]

BRAVO!!

[Jannes]

13 hours ago, TheGod said:

I realised that most of the women don't actually appreciate honesty. It's what they say they need, but in reality they are not attracted to it. 

When they first fall for the lie they like it, when they find out they feel betrayed. Find intelligent high quality women who can see beyond manipulation. 

13 hours ago, TheGod said:

All my life I've been trying to be gentle with women, trying to respect them, treat them fairly. Now I see that I was wrong. I'm going to become an actor when dealing with women. My goal is to have 3 girlfriends at the same time. I'll be using lies and manipulation.

You will corrupt your whole being with that and will attract low quality toxic people in your life. It's like saying: I know I am doing something stupid but I am doing it anyway because I want to suffer. And this is not an attempt of balance from you, you are greedy with wanting to have 3 girlfriends at once. The friend who betrays that girls has nothing holy in his life, he is probably very far detached from god and miserable.

13 hours ago, TheGod said:

Before you try to comment something, let me do it first.  I'm conscious that I want to do it because I feel bitter and I'm also conscious this won't make me happy. On the other hand, I know that I won't feel worse than I feel now, because now I feel lonely and tired, I don't want to feel victim anymore. Survival is unfair but it is what it is. 

You know I kind of get it but you know it's stupid.

If you thought this was intelligent you would have already done it by now. 

 

 

[Jannes]

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

BRAVO!!

wtf!?

[StarStruck]

You don't understand the feminine and you blame it on the feminine. Yea, girl's god is her emotions. So if you don't serve to her emotional needs it doesn't matter if you lie or don't. He doesn't get pussy because he lies. He get's pussy because he gives the women what they want. If you started lying today you wouldn't get pussy; go try it out.  Second part is that girls can smell incompetence and lack of confidence. It is the female equivalent of boobs and ass: having confidence and competence. You need to get on that shit and get negativity out of your head, or on the longer term it will make you bitter and resentful.

Edited May 14 by StarStruck

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

You don't understand the feminine and you blame it on the feminine. Yea, girl's god is her emotions. So if you don't serve to her emotional needs it doesn't matter if you lie or don't. He doesn't get pussy because he lies. He get's pussy because he gives the women what they want. If you started lying today you wouldn't get pussy; go try it out.  Second part is that girls can smell incompetence and lack of confidence. It is the female equivalent of boobs and ass: having confidence and competence. You need to get on that shit and get negativity out of your head, or on the longer term it will make you bitter and resentful.

Yes, somewhat; except the boob and ass part. I know fat and ugly girls with boobs and ass.. Just leave it at pretty, attractive, gorgeous, hot or beautiful. That's what attracts men on the surface. 

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Jannes said:

wtf!?

What you want. For me to try and deter an ass from being an ass. Asses gotta get their asses whipped before they realize it doesn't pay to be an ass. He needs to try every angle before he realizes his mistakes. Let him go imitate his friends and see how far that gets him. His friends are probably being genuine assholes and liars who are assholes and liars in every aspect of their lives. Pretending to be a dick ain't gonna get you too far if you're not a genuine dick.

Edited May 14 by Princess Arabia

[FourCrossedWands]

So you are going to create infinite webs of lies just to have sex with a couple of girls you don't even like. Why not just pay for hookers? Much easier and cheaper lol.

[hoodrow trillson]

What does your friend look like?  Lmao

 

[Basman]

This is not going to end well, I think.

[Jannes]

@Princess Arabia I didnt get that you were sarcastic. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Jannes said:

@Princess Arabia I didnt get that you were sarcastic. 

a female would have. Hehe

[Jodistrict]

It sounds like you are conscious of your motivations and feelings.   As long as you maintain awareness, try it and see what happens.  Experiment.   Then you will self correct.  That will give you more real guidance than someone giving advice.

Edited May 14 by Jodistrict

[Buck Edwards]

Go watch leos video on traps. It's s trap you set up for yourself when you think you need to do something to get sex. You don't. Relationships have to be authentic and genuine. You're missing out on the real part. The loss is yours. 

 

[blessedlion1993]

22 hours ago, TheGod said:

All my life I've been trying to be gentle with women, trying to respect them, treat them fairly. Now I see that I was wrong. I'm going to become an actor when dealing with women. My goal is to have 3 girlfriends at the same time. I'll be using lies and manipulation.

and thus a toxic pick up artist is born. Genuinely curious if lying and manipulating makes any difference, keep us posted.

[Lyubov]

You don’t have to lie and manipulate women to get women. 
 

[Chadders]

@TheGod You need to fundamentally build your inner game to become less needy. It’s fine to really want a woman but to never need her. Develop this with divine connection to the spirit so the love you get through that is greater than what you’ll ever get with a woman (I appreciate this is not easy so you don’t have to be Buddha just connect more deeply with the ethereal)

As for woman it’s about honesty not being a jackass. So for example be direct with her so she knows what you want and that you’re not afraid to ask. Being the nice guy in other words basically means being overly polite and accommodating. Definitely fuck that off because you are holding back your true honesty

final point and this is related to the spiritual dimension. Recognise you are not in control in how she responds. It is up to the universe. Take yourself out of the determining outcome and you’ll feel less pressured to make it happen when it is not you but the universe that ultimately decides. 

Also just a comment on your friend. If he is able to compulsively lie he does sound like he has sociopathic traits. Sociopaths do tend to find pickup easier because they are more emotionally detached but do not think that this is a good thing. Being detached from your emotions may grant material rewards easier but won’t help you connect with the deeper dimensions. Your capacity to feel hurt is equal to your capacity to feel deep love and divine connection. As someone with emotions the way to detach is to connect with the ethereal so you are not numbing your emotions it is just that you simply do not need as before. 

Also show compassion for your neediness in this area! you’re just a human after all unless deeply connected with the divine 

Edited May 15 by Chadders

[Schizophonia]

Most of people who post on this kind of topic have 0 experience and are paranoiac. 

Or more simply are completely insane. 

Edited May 15 by Schizophonia

[Chadders]

@Schizophonia so you claim