How to not get attached to a girl

[StarStruck]

I feel like I develop an attachment too quick. Personally not looking for a gf at the moment. The weird thing is that I develop emotions for girls who are not relationship material. 

[Schizophonia]

What's the issue ?

Plus you specified doing sexual transmutation or things like that, it's normal to become more "lover", I suppose. 

It may be considered more masculine not to fall in love as vividly and/or intensely as women on average, but ultimately it is when health begins to decline that you begin to become more "dry" emotionally.

Edited May 11 by Schizophonia

[Butters]

Think of her as a skeleton. 

[sholomar]

Watch red pill content to unwire the "provider male" conditioning in your brain.  SSM has some good stories.  You don't want to be the first to say "I love you" and put her on a pedestal and let her have you wrapped around your finger.  You might have "mommy issues" which is the male equivalent to a woman having daddy issues.  There's nothing rational about romantic relationships... they are mostly based on evolutionary impulses. You can study our psychology to distill down our traits but for normies that spoils the "mystery" and the "fun."

 

Edited May 12 by sholomar

[Abe27]

11 hours ago, StarStruck said:

I feel like I develop an attachment too quick. Personally not looking for a gf at the moment. The weird thing is that I develop emotions for girls who are not relationship material. 

Perhaps it's just becourse that is what you need. In a largy way i think about my emotions, needs and wants as strong guidelines for furfillment and happiness, as the axioms to go of from. Not that being happy is the end deal, if you rather what something diffrent, just be sure it might very much not be a good experience.

You can of course be straied off track and find "wrong things" interesting or desiable, most likely from my view since you are very much to destorded from what you actually need. 

You have some needs that "have" to be met. If not, then it can control more and more. 

[StarStruck]

2 hours ago, Abe27 said:

Perhaps it's just becourse that is what you need. In a largy way i think about my emotions, needs and wants as strong guidelines for furfillment and happiness, as the axioms to go of from. Not that being happy is the end deal, if you rather what something diffrent, just be sure it might very much not be a good experience.

You can of course be straied off track and find "wrong things" interesting or desiable, most likely from my view since you are very much to destorded from what you actually need. 

You have some needs that "have" to be met. If not, then it can control more and more. 

Good point. I love the intimacy because I’m not intimate with myself when I’m alone. 

 

13 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

What's the issue ?

Plus you specified doing sexual transmutation or things like that, it's normal to become more "lover", I suppose. 

It may be considered more masculine not to fall in love as vividly and/or intensely as women on average, but ultimately it is when health begins to decline that you begin to become more "dry" emotionally.

Sexual transmutation doesn’t mean one should become a simp. 

[Ulax]

Could be limerence rather than attachment.

[Rishabh R]

@StarStruck it could be easy for me to say that but ultimately letting go can be used in this case.

[Javfly33]

If you think a woman has something you need, is inevitable to develop attachment

[numbersinarow]

19 hours ago, StarStruck said:

I feel like I develop an attachment too quick. Personally not looking for a gf at the moment. The weird thing is that I develop emotions for girls who are not relationship material. 

Falling in love with 5 different girls from walking down the street is obviously extremely harmful and ughh... why do you want to stop doing it? The fact that these girls find every male body disgusting and couldn't want sex less is what concerns me.

[Schizophonia]

8 hours ago, StarStruck said:

 

 

Sexual transmutation doesn’t mean one should become a simp. 

There is a big difference between having feelings, and being a doormat (give too much of your time or money) 

 

[Hojo]

Stop making up stories in the mind about you and them.

[Breakingthewall]

Most of the time, attachment is something that you yourself provoke and develop out of fear of losing that girl. On the one hand, you want to be independent and free, on the other, you can't stand the idea that this certain girl could escape your sphere of influence. The only solution to this, in my opinion, is practice. It's dangerous because you can stay hooked for years on something you don't really want, but you have to play this game. If the gods are on your side, they will send you some toxic bitches who will play with you like a doll until you have no dignity left, and this will serve as an antidote to getting attached too quickly. Also It is always convenient to have several in your agenda, so the attachment is not so focused, but it still happens. good luck

[Lyubov]

what do you mean by attached? I would assume you mean you are placing your value outside yourself into needing approval or something from the other person but I would need to understand your position more before sharing my thoughts. 

 

[Chadders]

@StarStruck yes I know what you mean. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can easily get emotionally involved

There’s no straight forward way other than building yourself up emotionally and spiritually so that you do not need, though you may only want a beautiful woman. It’s all about connection ultimately and the deepest connection can only be found within your eternal essence as consciousness