Need for Autonomy in Relationships

[Rafael Thundercat]

A recent event meeting a long known friend made me realise again this need in me. I am in Brasil in a very Tropical area, enjoying engaging with the local simple people, markets, beach and more. And suddenly I meet this Romenian woman who I know from Europe. Very intense and sort of Hot Woman. But spending almost two whole days with her presents to be exausting. One of the reasons I think I feel not inclined to accept another invitation from her to hang out is because I feel that when I am with her I sort of can fully follow my own flow. Yes I can make decisions but when I am with another I need to compromisse in some moves. For example, for me was ok to be in the near local beach, no need to go visit some different one, for me is all beach,sand, trees etc.. and she needs to go search for newness. Great, sometimes I feel the need for new horisons too. But some people are all about themselfs. Now she send me a message if I have space in my bag to take some of her shit to Europe. I refused promptly. 

Imagine  that you would just listen others playlists, have others diets, visit only places chosse by others? Thats why autonomy is crucial, at least for me. Maybe some have less need for freedoom and yes, sometimes I like to let others show me new stuff, but mostly I like to guide my own steps.

 

[LastThursday]

+1 for autonomy. But sometimes it can be fun and freeing NOT to think for yourself and be in someone else's flow. I reckon your Romanian friend is just more extrovert than you, which in itself is neither here nor there, just a difference in style. Most relationships involve some sort of compromise (romantic or not), I would say tolerate what you can tolerate and no more than that. And, sometimes it's fun for other people to be in your flow and you lead.

[Rafael Thundercat]

6 hours ago, LastThursday said:

+1 for autonomy. But sometimes it can be fun and freeing NOT to think for yourself and be in someone else's flow. I reckon your Romanian friend is just more extrovert than you, which in itself is neither here nor there, just a difference in style. Most relationships involve some sort of compromise (romantic or not), I would say tolerate what you can tolerate and no more than that. And, sometimes it's fun for other people to be in your flow and you lead.

Yes is all about proper balance. 

[Princess Arabia]

Knew you'd be back posting more relationship posts. We try to escape ourselves but there's nowhere to go. Post and leave, post and take a break. No need to bash home.

[Rafael Thundercat]

On 27/04/2024 at 6:58 AM, Princess Arabia said:

Knew you'd be back posting more relationship posts. We try to escape ourselves but there's nowhere to go. Post and leave, post and take a break. No need to bash home.

Sweet that you notice.