Why is the act of surrendering so challenging for me now?

[CoolDreamThanks]

I think being exact about what you mean by "surrender" is important. People have different definitions. 

[Fountainbleu]

I explained that in subsequent posts. 

[CoolDreamThanks]

Oh sorry, didn't have time to read. 

[Loving Radiance]

15 hours ago, Fountainbleu said:

Couple of questions please.. If I'm more of a feeling type than cerebral as you mentioned, would i just feel into those blocks, talk to them through feelings, like ask them what they need me to protect them from through feelings rather than through a thought, vision or talking to them? Or is verbally communicating to them and sharing a vision with them part of the process?

Also could you please share an example with me of how I could protect myself and fulfil those needs consciously mentioned in number 2? Thanks!! 💜

#1 Yes. Be all-accepting and feel deeply into the blockages & fears, and after some time there will be a feeling what these blocks protect you from and what hidden need there is. When you envision how you would consciously care for that need and what freedom it would evoke in you, let a feeling arise that you'd instinctively connect to that state of consciousness. Send that feeling as an invitation to those blocks and fears, communicating you are ready and capable to care of your needs... and this would result in a deep trust & relaxation for your protective parts.  When you connect to the child parts, let an intuitive communication develop between you and them through emotions and feeling energies. Their fluid nature has profound depth.

#2 When you get the message that the protection is there to "create a safe distance between you and situations & environments of pressure" (e.g. pressure = needing to do something that you don't want to do) and that the need is "feeling to be looked after and having someone to be with who's present and attentive"... then feel deeply into the purpose of that protection. Let an intuitive feeling arise what this situation and the child part needs of you, e.g. feeling ease and putting off the pressure by taking deep breaths and feeling capable & empowered to deal with this situation. Feel deeply into what the need wants from you and let another intuitive feeling arise, e.g. you being is such caring, warm, open and present state of being that you are easily there with the child.

[ryoko]

On 4/26/2024 at 2:35 AM, Fountainbleu said:

I want to surrender to make life easier. To flow. Where I can be surrendering i find myself resisting, essentially causing suffering. That's why i want to surrender. 

I understand now. If there's resistance, fully give in to it. Let it be there. Just look deeper. There's nothing wrong with resistance.

Spiritual people will condition you to "let go, surrender.." and all that crap. Just don't listen to them. And remember none of what they say is the absolute truth. What's best for you right now is your own feeling, let that be your guide.

[Razard86]

On 4/25/2024 at 1:52 PM, Yimpa said:

This is silly. Surrender old ideas of yourself and replacing them with higher quality ones is better than becoming nothing.

I've come to realize that part of its expression is to glorify nothing as if it's some object.

This comes from a misunderstanding of what a self is. It also comes from a lack of understanding of what meaninglessness and meaning is. 

Basically if someone doesn't contemplate totality, they will get stuck on some part being superior.

It's like staring at a picture and being zoomed in, and staring at a picture and being zoomed out. If you want to have the full picture you would need both perspectives but most people will settle for one or the other. Love is a tricky thing.

[Fountainbleu]

3 hours ago, ryoko said:

I understand now. If there's resistance, fully give in to it. Let it be there. Just look deeper. There's nothing wrong with resistance.

Spiritual people will condition you to "let go, surrender.." and all that crap. Just don't listen to them. And remember none of what they say is the absolute truth. What's best for you right now is your own feeling, let that be your guide.

I understand you but would you be willing to expand? At the end of the day it's all spiritual. This appearing to be real is all spiritual. 

[Fountainbleu]

2 hours ago, Razard86 said:

I've come to realize that part of its expression is to glorify nothing as if it's some object.

This comes from a misunderstanding of what a self is. It also comes from a lack of understanding of what meaninglessness and meaning is. 

Basically if someone doesn't contemplate totality, they will get stuck on some part being superior.

It's like staring at a picture and being zoomed in, and staring at a picture and being zoomed out. If you want to have the full picture you would need both perspectives but most people will settle for one or the other. Love is a tricky thing.

Yes yes and yes. 

[Fountainbleu]

13 hours ago, Loving Radiance said:

#1 Yes. Be all-accepting and feel deeply into the blockages & fears, and after some time there will be a feeling what these blocks protect you from and what hidden need there is. When you envision how you would consciously care for that need and what freedom it would evoke in you, let a feeling arise that you'd instinctively connect to that state of consciousness. Send that feeling as an invitation to those blocks and fears, communicating you are ready and capable to care of your needs... and this would result in a deep trust & relaxation for your protective parts.  When you connect to the child parts, let an intuitive communication develop between you and them through emotions and feeling energies. Their fluid nature has profound depth.

#2 When you get the message that the protection is there to "create a safe distance between you and situations & environments of pressure" (e.g. pressure = needing to do something that you don't want to do) and that the need is "feeling to be looked after and having someone to be with who's present and attentive"... then feel deeply into the purpose of that protection. Let an intuitive feeling arise what this situation and the child part needs of you, e.g. feeling ease and putting off the pressure by taking deep breaths and feeling capable & empowered to deal with this situation. Feel deeply into what the need wants from you and let another intuitive feeling arise, e.g. you being is such caring, warm, open and present state of being that you are easily there with the child.

Thank you. I will be reflecting on your messages. 🙏🏿