Solution to victim mindset

[StarStruck]

If that girl didn't work out, don't take it personal.

If your investments didn't work out, don't take it personal.

If your home burned down, don't take it personal.

What happened in the past, nothing is personal.

I already knew this but this week, integrating this lesson into my conscious was due time. Every "curse" that happened to you, is nothing personal. But if you decide it is personal you will identify with it, and it will become personal. If you take it personal, it becomes ego (through the mechanism of identifying with I'm that). And you become unconscious to that thing you choose to identify too.

If you dig deep enough you will eventually come to the pain body / your past trauma. This whole process is as much an emotional process as a framing process. Nothing in the past, future and now, in your field of perception is personal. That is why everything that can happen will happen. The only thing you can do is raise your consciousness as much as you can because consciousness is a intention based self-organizing mechanism. The only thing you have control over is your intentions and outside of that there is no more control. Setting high quality high priority intentions every day is power while everything outside of that is force and tiresome.

I used this knowledge to make good money. Now I'm focusing on getting the top notch girls. And I noticed I have a lot of emotional baggage regarding this topic. I'm a very masculine person (yang energy) and girls hold the secrets to yin energy. That is why it is so important to set right intentions with girls. Your intentions should be based on enjoyment of life/consciousness, instead of overcompensation/negativity. In my opinion, most girls are not so smart but they just instinctively understand this because they are life givers. And although they are stupid, it is mother nature. That is why the people who take things too much personal, are the people who are the most traumatized, and they are usually the people who don't procreate. You basically have to love life and if you do you get rewarded for it. While if you hate life, you get hate back.

 

[cjoseph90]

This is a good post and agree with you. Especially the not talking things personally, Even though my ego wanted to take that girls 'although they are stupid' comment personally.

 'are the people who are the most traumatized,' yup this is definetly true 

And good for you for making more Money ect with your business.

[Schizophonia]

It's even simpler, your nervous system pushes you to victimize yourself because it doesn't have the necessary energy to cope with failure any further.

No one really ruminates on defeat, it actually takes the form of victory. Winning is being important in the eyes of others, being "the victim who never has what it takes" remains an energetic victory.

[Schizophonia]

People stop ruminating on psychedelics, it has nothing to do with the psychological aspect of it but it's good because psychedelics increase the perception of energy. Even a purely serotonergic tryptamine like psylocybin potently increases OXPHOS.
LSD, an agonist of most dopamine receptors, can make you ultra elitist and obsessive-compulsive for a few hours.

[StarStruck]

@Schizophonia It is survival instinct of the victim versus intuition of the higher self. 

25 minutes ago, cjoseph90 said:

This is a good post and agree with you. Especially the not talking things personally, Even though my ego wanted to take that girls 'although they are stupid' comment personally.

 'are the people who are the most traumatized,' yup this is definetly true 

And good for you for making more Money ect with your business.

But you are good at other things 😏

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

@Schizophonia It is survival instinct of the victim versus intuition of the higher self. 

Yes, narcissism and the life drive as the Lacanians would say.

3 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

But you are good at other things 😏

I PM him a while ago to ask him questions about insomnia, and as I'm very curious I continue to ask him questions here and there. I don't really know what was going on in her head but she just ghosted suddenly without a little "explanatory" message (a few words would have been enough).
She's a random on a forum so I don't care, but there's no doubt she definitely has a vagina 

 

[cjoseph90]

9 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Yes, narcissism and the life drive as the Lacanians would say.

I PM him a while ago to ask him questions about insomnia, and as I'm very curious I continue to ask him questions here and there. I don't really know what was going on in her head but she just ghosted suddenly without a little "explanatory" message (a few words would have been enough).
She's a random on a forum so I don't care, but there's no doubt she definitely has a vagina 

 

Dont take It personally, as the op states. As some say on here 'girls are flakey af'

[Princess Arabia]

You see it's never enough. Now, it's the top-notch girls. Nothing wrong, just saying. After you get the top-notch girl, then it's unto something else. Nothing wrong, just saying. Let the chase go on, nothing else to do. Never fulfilled, nothing wrong, just saying.

So disappointing you have to develop the "don't take it personal strategy". Another strategy is the "raise your consciousness" strategy. The stupid girls, as you call them, keep outsmarting you and your survival strategy to not go mad is to not take it personal . But take it personal enough to raise your consciousness enough to outsmart them.

"The only thing you have control over is your intention", you said. Still looking for control. Hanging on for dear life. "Setting high-quality, high-priority intentions is power," you said. Trying to gain power, to be powerful. "While everything outside of that is force and tiresome", you said. It's getting to you. Very exhausting being an individual isn't it. Tiresome and energy-draining. Always having to beat the system, always having something to defeat. So, by setting your own intentions, now you only have yourself to compete with. Can't blame nobody but yourself. The problem with that is it breeds low-confidence, low self-esteem. 

You call them top-notch, putting them up on a pedestal. A pedestal means out-of-reach. So now you blame yourself and call it "emotional baggage". You didn't notice it with the not so top-notch girls. You considered yourself at the same level or they were beneath you. You didn't stand out. So now the pedestal is above you and now you find faults within yourself as to why you can't reach the pedestal. It's my "emotional baggage". As long as I can fix that, I'll reach it.

"The not-so-smart girls aren't do stupid because they are life-givers which makes them instinctively smart enough to out-smart what you believe is good enough tricks to try and out-smart them. It's mother nature's gift to them and taking that personal isn't the smart way to go about that. It's best to just surrender to mother nature or else you'll get traumatized and not procreate. Best reward is to love life and life will love you back or else the hateful life will hate you back". This is what you're basically saying. 

This is more of a "how to become a victim of life circumstances" post rather than a solution to a victims' mindset post. There are no solutions here, it's only revealing how tired you are of the struggles and challenges you're facing with women and the power you think you had over them and by you raising the bar without raising your consciousness level how that's not a good thing. So now to become more of a victim you want to raise your consciousness to deal with the higher levels you've set for yourself and that will solve that problem. Why that won't work is if you are capable of making $1000 easily, making another $1000 is not a challenge. So getting the top notch girl leaves you no-where to go because she won't be top-notch anymore. You're trying to reach the top-notch and since she won't be top-notch anymore, you'll consider yourself declining and going backwards with the next pursuit or still trying for the next top-top notch. A bigger and better top-notch. Endless cycle.

The don't-take-it personal approach is spot-on but for the wrong reasons. It's because there's nothing personal about you and life is not about you. I will leave it at that. The rest will figure itself out when you've gotten knocked down enough.

Edited April 24 by Princess Arabia

[StarStruck]

@Princess Arabia why is the don’t take it personal approach spot on for the wrong reasons? 

I don’t put these girls on a pedestal. It is a figure of speech. I was talking about girls with the best genetics and best personality. What you might see as top notch girls is not the top notch girls I’m talking about. You might see big boobs or pornstar girls as top notch. I prefer natural and next door girl type of girls. 

I also want to eat top notch food. It doesn’t mean that I put top notch food on a pedestal. You are just projecting your own mindset onto me. I like top notch food and I like regular food for that matter. 

About the endless chasing. You have a point about that. This is why I meditate everyday to find the end in my self but I’m not no fan of spiritual by passing and wasting what is left of my youth. I can enjoy both the spiritual and material. Later life is meant for spiritual while younger life is meant for catching fish. 

Edited April 24 by StarStruck

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, StarStruck said:

I don’t put these girls on a pedestal. It is a figure of speech. I was talking about girls with the best genetics and best personality. What you might see as top notch girls is not the top notch girls I’m talking about. You might see big boobs or pornstar girls as top notch. I prefer natural and next door girl type of girls. 

What does best genetics mean to someone on the outside looking in. Isn't that about looks. How can one tell that someone has good genes without either knowing them first, or based on how they look based on your idea of what good genetics look like. Beats me. Anyway, I won't get into that. Didn't realize an ugly girl with rotten teeth and smells bad with the best personality would be considered top-notch to a man. You said best personality, not looks and personality just best personality, son I'm replying to that.

I don't see anybody as being top-notch, by the way. It's just what I like and don't like. My preferences. If I like a man and he happens to be rich, I wouldn't consider him top-notch. If the same is poor, I wouldn't consider him to be not top-notch. Maybe wouldn't be right for me under the circumstances because of my preferences, but could be right for someone else. In the middle either, doesn't matter. Handsome or ugly, doesn't matter. Never about top-notch for me but about compatibility and preferences. 

Big boobs and porn-stars isn't what women see as any better a woman than any other attractive woman. We don't look at those kinds of things and consider a woman hot or not hot based on those things. 

2 hours ago, StarStruck said:

I also want to eat top notch food. It doesn’t mean that I put top notch food on a pedestal. You are just projecting your own mindset onto me. I like top notch food and I like regular food for that matter.

You have a point here except I wasn't projecting my mindset unto you, I was merely analyzing yours. Coming back at me with a rebuttal will open my mind up to a different perspective, which you did here, and allows room for different ones. Doesn't mean it's a projection.

 

2 hours ago, StarStruck said:

bout the endless chasing. You have a point about that. This is why I meditate everyday to find the end in my self but I’m not no fan of spiritual by passing and wasting what is left of my youth. I can enjoy both the spiritual and material. Later life is meant for spiritual while younger life is meant for catching fish.

This is a personal choice, relatively speaking and you're allowed to approach life anyhow you prefer, even though I beg to differ, but that doesn't matter. Either way it's the same difference, can't have one without the other.

[BlueOak]

6 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

It's even simpler, your nervous system pushes you to victimize yourself because it doesn't have the necessary energy to cope with failure any further.

Exactly Correct.

Animals, after experiencing a shock or trauma, shake, bark, roar, jump around, and get it out of their system.

Humans are conditioned to behave politely and bottle it up, keeping it in the nervous system. A dog, when abused for years, will do the same and be a shaking mess; that's a visual image of a human who has been through too much.

[Guest Bazooka Jesus]

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

So disappointing you have to develop the "don't take it personal strategy". Another strategy is the "raise your consciousness" strategy. The stupid girls, as you call them, keep outsmarting you and your survival strategy to not go mad is to not take it personal . But take it personal enough to raise your consciousness enough to outsmart them.

Touché, if you pardon my French.

The only way to transcend the rat race is to realize that the rat race will never end, no matter what you do (or don't do). Once you truly understand and accept this, being caught up in the rat race will no longer be a problem. And then you just play the game, for the sheer heck of it. 'Cause what else is there to do?

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Touché, if you pardon my French.

The only way to transcend the rat race is to realize that the rat race will never end, no matter what you do (or don't do). Once you truly understand and accept this, being caught up in the rat race will no longer be a problem. And then you just play the game, for the sheer heck of it. 'Cause what else is there to do?

Exactly. Humptity Dumptity hump.

[Schizophonia]

37 minutes ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Touché, if you pardon my French.

+1 dans le baguette gang. 

 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CidDVoHdmQ

 

[StarStruck]

6 hours ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Touché, if you pardon my French.

The only way to transcend the rat race is to realize that the rat race will never end, no matter what you do (or don't do). Once you truly understand and accept this, being caught up in the rat race will no longer be a problem. And then you just play the game, for the sheer heck of it. 'Cause what else is there to do?

You can't transcend survival. If you think you transcended survival, try to go into a forest with bears while being stained in honey and you will find out. This transcending the rat race is just a bubble in some western societies.

[Guest Bazooka Jesus]

9 hours ago, StarStruck said:

You can't transcend survival. If you think you transcended survival, try to go into a forest with bears while being stained in honey and you will find out. This transcending the rat race is just a bubble in some western societies.

Lol. Did you even read hat I wrote?

Let's try again, shall we?

No matter what you do (or don't do), the game of survival will never end. Once you accept this fact, being caught up in the game of survival will no longer be a problem for you.

Or, in the words of M. Scott Peck:

Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult - once we truly understand and accept it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.

- The Road Less Traveled -

 

Acceptance = Transcendence.

 

 

Edited April 25 by Bazooka Jesus