Living My Life As A Character In A Novel Is Better Than Having An Agenda

[Mesopotamian]

I wanted to share this with you guys, The best thing that I am trying to learn as I am maturing up is to live my life as a character in a novel. I am trying to have less control over the narrative of my life. One method to do this is just to try to embrace what life throws at you, swim with the current, resist less, and bow more for circumstance and people who come in your way. 

One thing though I was and still trying to achieve is to calibrate my value and moral compass, be oriented towards truth, love and kindness. 

What this approach enabled me to do is to observe more, and learn from my observations, understand how reality works, and all of that wasn't and won't be available to me if I had an agenda, which could act like a filter to reality, in many times distorting how I perceive it. 

Terms like success, dating, sex, marriage now have different meanings when I seek the truth, and I've notices that many of those if not all of them are social constructs that I needed to avoid in order to grow up in character. 

I was able to get different definitions for things that make sense to me. For example the country, is an imaginary circle you draw around a group of people or a nation, and when I started to draw this circle closer or smaller, my country became my city, and my nation is the people whom I interact with on a daily basis. That did liberate me from my past conviction that I am doomed because I am from a less respected country.

 

 

Edited April 21 by Mesopotamian

[Bobby_2021]

Characters in novels do have agendas though.

[Mesopotamian]

45 minutes ago, Bobby_2021 said:

Characters in novels do have agendas though.

they kinda let life unfolds though.. most of the time people tend to buy into other's agenda.. 

Characters in novels don't go and take courses and set their eyes on achieving and such for example.

[Bobby_2021]

@Mesopotamian  You need to have an agenda and also let life unfold. That is why you should have a flexible agenda that has enough room for life to unfold. These things are not mutually exclusive.

Taking courses is kind of overrated though. The main characters are driven internally. They do not offload their thinking to courses or gurus. But you can take courses, without offloading your thinking to guru as well.

But I get the point. Begin internally driven is necessary.

 

[Mesopotamian]

10 hours ago, Bobby_2021 said:

@Mesopotamian  You need to have an agenda and also let life unfold. That is why you should have a flexible agenda that has enough room for life to unfold. These things are not mutually exclusive.

Taking courses is kind of overrated though. The main characters are driven internally. They do not offload their thinking to courses or gurus. But you can take courses, without offloading your thinking to guru as well.

But I get the point. Begin internally driven is necessary.

 

I guess it's an act of balance, and courses, knowledge, and theory is of utmost important too, however sometimes we're rigid when it comes to letting life unfolds, for example, do you bow to somebody whom you think is stupid? are you willing to go along for a bit with them and let them take you and guide your life? or is it the opposite, once you label someone as stupid, you try to avoid them, cut connection with them and move in a different direction?

[Ramanujan]

@Mesopotamian How is it going sir. any luck getting out of iraq

[Mesopotamian]

23 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

@Mesopotamian How is it going sir. any luck getting out of iraq

It's going alright more or less thank you for asking! I did a trip to a nearby country for two months, lived there and back now to Iraq.. how's your life going?