Leo, how to deal with extreme jealousy ?

[Rishabh R]

I am single, 23 year old studying in college . Whenever I see any couple it hurts me a lot and makes me jealous. How to deal with it ? I have cold approached many girls and girls of my batch are insecure( I am also an insecure person ). Will this phase of my life pass ? Cause girls of my batch prefer other guys over me . How do I deal with resentment , anger , a feeling of taking revenge towards them . Even tough I have not abused or beaten any girls and I don't want to ask I am doing self directed CBT and recently ordered a book meditations by Marcus Aurelius .

Edited April 16 by Rishabh R

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBt0ZKv9pBA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0Yw6wNNx7E

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-erase-your-jealousy-without-turning-pushover

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iL0cGYGda3U

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lD1ny_Q8sKo

 

Edited April 16 by Raze

[Schizophonia]

Listen to this energy, there is a reason it is available.

[Rishabh R]

@Schizophonia how ?

[Schizophonia]

12 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Schizophonia how ?

Jealousy is a process of adaptation to a richer environment.
Not a loss of energy, not a negative signal but on the contrary the signal that your tribe is energetically rich, and the perception of that pushes you energetically upwards.

The more sociable you are, the more jealous you will be and get the driving force ("sexual energy") to pick up women.
And flirt with greater aggression, obviously.

Edited April 16 by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

22 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

How to deal with it ? I have cold approached many girls

By taking action and approaching girls.

You will stop being jealous once you get a girlfriend.

Edited April 17 by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

You are in college, forget cold approach . You don't need it.

You have plenty of opportunities to socialize. Make friends. Go to events. Go to parties , find activities that you enjoy where there are cute single girls... Etc

I don't know how exactly college looks like in India , but as long as you are social and there girls around, you will eventually get laid by trial and error

Cold approach is for serious people that lack time or want extraordinary results.

Half-assing practicing cold approach will make you miserable 

Cold approach is just a tool to meet a girl you otherwise wouldn't have access to. Make female friends. Meet friend's friends, join group classes group meetings, events...

 

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura I have approached girls but when I approach a random girl then that girl becomes insecure and their boyfriends become angry. I fear that will I land in trouble if I approach a senior girl. I now approach known girls.

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura I have approached girls but when I approach a random girl then that girl becomes insecure and their boyfriends become angry. I fear that will I land in trouble if I approach a senior girl. I now approach known girls.

Approaching is a skill that takes lots of experience to get right.

Go practice in a bar/club.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura  Is there any other option since I remain in my campus after coming from the classes to study in my hostel. By the way sorry for making excuses.

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Approaching is a skill that takes lots of experience to get right.

Go practice in a bar/club.

I am directly good if I am healthy and euphoric.

[Raze]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

By taking action and approaching girls.

You will stop being jealous once you get a girlfriend.

I believe he is India, I don’t think cold approach is effective there 

[Rishabh R]

@Raze yeah you are right. I am in India and cold approach here is seen like stalking.

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura  Is there any other option since I remain in my campus after coming from the classes to study in my hostel. By the way sorry for making excuses.

Go to social events at night.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura ok thank you and there I must approach. And also before approaching a girl I must see around if she is there alone or not?

Edited April 17 by Rishabh R

[Leo Gura]

44 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

And also before approaching a girl I must see around if she is there alone or not?

No!

Girls are almost never alone. You must approach them in groups. You must even approach if she is with boyfriend or husband.

RSD coaches would make students approach girls who are making out with their boyfriend. You approach and interrupt their makeout.

You gotta grow serious balls to approach well.

But you can start off easy by approaching all-girl groups.

Edited April 17 by Leo Gura

[Value]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

No!

Girls are almost never alone. You must approach them in groups. You must even approach if she is with boyfriend or husband.

RSD coaches would make students approach girls who are making out with their boyfriend. You approach and interrupt their makeout.

You gotta grow serious balls to approach well.

But you can start off easy by approaching all-girl groups.

@Leo Gura

WHAT..! How exactly did those interactions play out? 😂

And btw why, what do you learn from that..?

[BlessedLion]

Honestly, staying in a hostel is such a great way to meet women. It creates this illusion of like being in a tribe because you’re all kinda living together.  
 

The key is to stay at a social party hostel and get a private room. 
 

I hooked up with a Brazilian girl here in São Paulo last night my second night out. 
 

It’s the call

[Leo Gura]

21 minutes ago, Value said:

And btw why, what do you learn from that..?

You learn that you can approach anyone, and that your mind is just making excuses.

[Value]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

You learn that you can approach anyone, and that your mind is just making excuses.

Yeah but wouldnt the bf get super pissed off?🤦‍♂️😂