Females are very cringe about age

[Nemra]

25 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

The only one's that appear to benefit from very young and submissive girls are the men. Nothing in it for the young and submissive. What a bad position to be in...ugh. 

TBH, imo, both don't have benefits. Imo, those young people are easily locked in their views about sexuality (they think all people are like them, etc.), and they aren't aware that it can have a negative influence on other parts of their lives.

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, Nemra said:

TBH, imo, both don't have benefits.

If you notice I said "appear" to benefit.

[Nemra]

@Princess Arabia Sorry, didn't notice.

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Buck Edwards said:

Champion. Where's your clinic at? Just drop the address already. 

I would like to become your psychologist if you pay me

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

Yes daddy, beat me up daddy, tear that thing up, daddy. Tie me to the bed daddy. Fuck me hard daddy. Don't you fucking cum too quick daddy, I need this pussy beaten up daddy. Ouch!! 

lol

[Princess Arabia]

48 minutes ago, DefinitelyNotARobot said:

I don't think it's about "men not understanding men" or "women not understanding women" or "men not understanding women" etc etc etc. I think it's about the fact that people simply do not understand people very well. This goes for both men and women. Men don't understand men and they don't understand women. Same goes for women. There wouldn't be all these debates about what it means to be a "real man" or "a feminine woman", if people understood themselves

Yeah, you're right. We just have ideas about what we think people are and the confusion stems from what we believe to be true when there's actually nothing to understand. Understanding is limited and this isn't.

[Buck Edwards]

3 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I would like to become your psychologist if you pay me

lol

Not paying. Not even a cent. First get a degree. 

[Emerald]

8 hours ago, StarStruck said:

She enjoys the sex more than me. I think women enjoy sex more than men. And dominance and submissiveness fit like a hand in a silk glove. 

This is a silly thought about what a younger woman gets out of dating/partnering with an older man.

Truthfully, sex with an older man and with a younger man isn't that much different at all... except (if anything) older men can have more issues in that department and less stamina. 

When I was in my early 20s, I was mostly interested in men in their early 30s or sometimes a bit older. And it was always about feeling like I can learn from someone with more experience and feeling taken care of by someone who is already established. It was really a craving for maturity and seeking out stability.

In retrospect (as I'm now in my mid-30s), I look back now and see that my attractions (and even fetishization) of older men came from not having a strong support system and being sexually attracted to what I saw as a symbol of stability and support.

The issue is that, older men who specifically seek out sexual relationships with younger women tend to be immature compared to the average man of their age. And they usually can't offer the younger woman what she's REALLY looking for with that dynamic as he doesn't really understand what she sees in him.

And if a longterm relationship blossoms between them, she will keep getting more mature and he will keep staying at the same maturity level.

So, a 20 year old who dates a 30 year old and sees that he has is own apartment is exciting because he feels like a full-fledged adult.

So, the younger woman wants a fully mature man which is why she's dating older. But the older man who is attracted to the younger woman is trying to avoid growing up and using her as a means to hold onto his youth. 

She's looking for the settledness of maturity. And he's looking for the excitement of youth. And so it creates a mismatch that leaves her lacking what she really wants but likely doesn't know how to articulate.

That's why it's generally not a good idea to seek out a relationship with a big age gap for young women (and young men too for similar reasons).

[Schizophonia]

9 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Not paying. Not even a cent. First get a degree. 

Psychology degrees don't matter, anyone who is self-taught can be a therapist.

Psychiatry is another matter, it is a medical profession, but I never claimed to be able or willing to be a psychiatrist lol. It’s a bit of the same story as Dietitians versus Nutritionists, in short.

 

Edited April 5 by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

Btw, most psychologists suck.

[QVx]

6 hours ago, Emerald said:

This is a silly thought about what a younger woman gets out of dating/partnering with an older man.

Truthfully, sex with an older man and with a younger man isn't that much different at all... except (if anything) older men can have more issues in that department and less stamina. 

When I was in my early 20s, I was mostly interested in men in their early 30s or sometimes a bit older. And it was always about feeling like I can learn from someone with more experience and feeling taken care of by someone who is already established. It was really a craving for maturity and seeking out stability.

In retrospect (as I'm now in my mid-30s), I look back now and see that my attractions (and even fetishization) of older men came from not having a strong support system and being sexually attracted to what I saw as a symbol of stability and support.

The issue is that, older men who specifically seek out sexual relationships with younger women tend to be immature compared to the average man of their age. And they usually can't offer the younger woman what she's REALLY looking for with that dynamic as he doesn't really understand what she sees in him.

And if a longterm relationship blossoms between them, she will keep getting more mature and he will keep staying at the same maturity level.

So, a 20 year old who dates a 30 year old and sees that he has is own apartment is exciting because he feels like a full-fledged adult.

So, the younger woman wants a fully mature man which is why she's dating older. But the older man who is attracted to the younger woman is trying to avoid growing up and using her as a means to hold onto his youth. 

She's looking for the settledness of maturity. And he's looking for the excitement of youth. And so it creates a mismatch that leaves her lacking what she really wants but likely doesn't know how to articulate.

That's why it's generally not a good idea to seek out a relationship with a big age gap for young women (and young men too for similar reasons).

@Emerald I do wholly agree with your view on what prevents relationships with significant age gaps working.

That being said they can work, albeit the reality is that this is really rare. It does require both people to bring significant maturity and openness to grow, relative to their age, to make it work.

For me personally, it would be fantastic to find a youthful younger person who fulfils the above. Although, one should not close their eyes to the beauty of every person around them in pursuit of one particular outcome.

[StarStruck]

10 hours ago, Emerald said:

This is a silly thought about what a younger woman gets out of dating/partnering with an older man.

Well, I didn't say that is the only thing. That is 1 of the things she gets out of it.

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Truthfully, sex with an older man and with a younger man isn't that much different at all... except (if anything) older men can have more issues in that department and less stamina. 

When I was in my early 20s, I was mostly interested in men in their early 30s or sometimes a bit older. And it was always about feeling like I can learn from someone with more experience and feeling taken care of by someone who is already established. It was really a craving for maturity and seeking out stability.

In retrospect (as I'm now in my mid-30s), I look back now and see that my attractions (and even fetishization) of older men came from not having a strong support system and being sexually attracted to what I saw as a symbol of stability and support.

That is just your experience.

And which men you were dating? They couldn't get their dick hard in their early 30'ies? Probably because of porn use. 

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The issue is that, older men who specifically seek out sexual relationships with younger women tend to be immature compared to the average man of their age. And they usually can't offer the younger woman what she's REALLY looking for with that dynamic as he doesn't really understand what she sees in him.

And if a longterm relationship blossoms between them, she will keep getting more mature and he will keep staying at the same maturity level.

So, a 20 year old who dates a 30 year old and sees that he has is own apartment is exciting because he feels like a full-fledged adult.

So, the younger woman wants a fully mature man which is why she's dating older. But the older man who is attracted to the younger woman is trying to avoid growing up and using her as a means to hold onto his youth. 

She's looking for the settledness of maturity. And he's looking for the excitement of youth. And so it creates a mismatch that leaves her lacking what she really wants but likely doesn't know how to articulate.

That's why it's generally not a good idea to seek out a relationship with a big age gap for young women (and young men too for similar reasons).

I don't see early 20'ies and early 30'ies as a an age gap relationship. Early 20'ies girls are at her peak while early 30'ies men are at their peak. It is natural that they are attracted to each other.

Probably there are men who appreciate a bossy 30 year old woman but it is not me. I actually know men who do (they are an outlier; they are attracted to older women because of mommy issues). More power to them and more opportunity for me. But the thing is a bossy woman will rarely find a good partner, it will be a very dissatisfying relationship because she will have to downgrade to a lesser man in her eyes and the only way the relationship will hold is that she knowing she can't get any better.

You have your experiences and you are entitled to it but I think you dated older men to overcompensate some stuff. Granted you admit that but I don't think every girl who dates an older guy dates to self medicate their emotional wounds.

And lastly: what feminists don't get is that fertility is something that can't be overcompensated with other attributes. Sexual relationships can be for fun but at it is core it is about reproduction. If nobody cared about fertility, humanity would end and that would be the end of all human relationships too. There are people who don't care about reproduction but from the POV of the consciousness of humanity they are just outliers. If there would be a disease that would make all women infertile, hell would break loose.

 

Edited April 5 by StarStruck