Game equivalent for women. How to make a guy stay?

[Emerald]

2 hours ago, Raze said:

Yes that makes sense, but I’m not sure what the solution is then, because purposefully killing excitement can put a relationship at risk itself, or stop you from even starting one.

You don’t have to purposefully kill the excitement. Things will just naturally get more settled if the relationship is progressing.

And this more exciting feelings are replaced by more oxytocin/bonding/attachment feelings of wellbeing 

[Lucasxp64]

On 03/04/2024 at 0:41 PM, Emerald said:

[...] he fancied himself as philosophical and deep in the way he viewed his sexual philosophy. [...]

It seems to be like economical theory.

Economic theorists are hooked on painting the "idealized actor", but DOING business is different.

Edited April 4, 2024 by Lucasxp64
Make it briefer and keep the same point.

[Bobby_2021]

On 4/3/2024 at 10:59 PM, Princess Arabia said:

Ever seen the American Psycho movie, he's like a perfect example. Lol.

Patrick Bateman is literally me fr fr.

On 4/4/2024 at 0:08 AM, Raze said:

Women may prefer the role of being the selector, but then again so do men, I doubt the average guy would say he’d rather go through the stress of trying to pursue someone (risking awkwardness, embarrassment, rejection, or even reputation damage) over an alternative of women hitting on him and deciding that way, maybe if he felt too bad rejecting someone else

Men do select/reject in the way he chooses to approach women. He is selecting the kind of women he wants to pursue. So men are doing the active selection and women can do only passive selection. It's still fundamentally select/reject.

Men can select/reject on the basis of looks. 

I am a little weirded out when women are interested in me. I just don't know how to operate when women are in control. Perhaps I should let go more often. Although it doesn't happen too often. So it isn't much of a concern. 

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Bobby_2021 said:

I am a little weirded out when women are interested in me

Leo once said to me, he doesn't trust women who are attracted to him. Here you are saying this. There it goes when tons and tons of men will say she approached me, but she wasn't my type, never his type; and the other tons and tons and tons that chase after women who keep running. They even chase after women who live in different countries, different cities they even move and relocate so they can chase, they ignore the ones that like them then they complain about the ones that don't. They call women easy who give it up easily and complain that when she plays hard to get. Makes no sense along with the rest of life. So it blends in perfectly. I might start a thread about this, just for the hell of it and to hear all the rebuttals and reasonings.

 

Edited April 6, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Bobby_2021]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

Leo once said to me, he doesn't trust women who are attracted to him. Here you are saying this. There it goes when tons and tons of men will say she approached me, but she wasn't my type, never his type; and the other tons and tons and tons that chase after women who keep running. They even chase after women who live in different countries, different cities they even move and relocate so they can chase, they ignore the ones that like them then they complain about the ones that don't. They call women easy who give it up easily and complain that when she plays hard to get. Makes no sense along with the rest of life. So it blends in perfectly. I might start a thread about this, just for the hell of it and to hear all the rebuttals and reasonings.

All this happened because women are less willing to make approaches.

Women in general not making approaches is ruining the chances of even women who are bold enough to make approaches since men would instantly think that something's off.

You guys are huge proponents of getting men to act more feminine, cry etc. Now it's your turn. Act more masculine. Do more approaches. 

I can guarantee you that you will have way more chances to get into a relationship far more than men. Still you don't do it. 

Also I can guarantee that men get high from chasing. It's in our nature to go hunting and come back with the prey. 

[Princess Arabia]

27 minutes ago, Bobby_2021 said:

Also I can guarantee that men get high from chasing. It's in our nature to go hunting and come back with the prey.

Highs breeds lows. No one wants you to get high so you get bored easily and go chase the next high. You're making my point even more. Men chasing women shouldn't be a high but a natural way to be, how nature intended. There's a reason for it and you're trying to go against it by your logical reasonings and understanding it from your logical mind. 

You're speaking from both sides if your ass cheeks. 

Edited April 6, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

27 minutes ago, Bobby_2021 said:

I can guarantee you that you will have way more chances to get into a relationship far more than men. Still you don't do it.

This isn't a problem because it really doesn't matter in the big picture, but you have to stop thinking about these things logically to even start to come close in understanding the nature of how these things really work in the "real" world. This sentence is a math equation. You yourself said you're a bit weirded out when women are interested in you, but you're here making comments saying women should do more approaching.

What that sneaky little mind of yours is doing is thinking its special and its the only one that's disinterested in women who shows interest but the rest of men aren't the same way, I'm special. When 95% of men are like this. Women approaching men is a bad idea. (on a general scale).

Edited April 6, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Bobby_2021]

11 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Highs breeds lows. No one wants you to get high so you get bored easily and go chase the next high. You're making my point even more. Men chasing women shouldn't be a high but a natural way to be, how nature intended. There's a reason for it and you're trying to go against it by your logical reasonings and understanding it from your logical mind. 

What you even saying? If we didn't chase like we do now, we would gone extinct long ago already.

Chasing is done exactly like Nature intended. And there is no logic involved in chasing. We are chasing only following the emotional instincts to get laid. 

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Bobby_2021 said:

If we didn't chase like we do now, we would gone extinct long ago already

If's aren't Realities. I can see there's no point here if were going down the if's route. 

[Bobby_2021]

2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

You yourself said you're a bit weirded out when women are interested in you, but you're here making comments saying women should do more approaching.

And you think there is a logical fallacy in these statements?

Cute. 

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Bobby_2021 said:

And you think there is a logical fallacy in these statements?

Cute. 

Yes, it's logically illogical.

[Princess Arabia]

To tell you the truth @Bobby_2021I don't like to be chased. Especially by guys I'm not interested in. Didn't say I don't like to be admired. Difference there. so keep all the you should be lucky somebody chasing yo ass comments to the side. Doesn't feel good to be chased by the unwanted. If I like a guy, I will give signals and leave it to him to acknowledge them. If not....next.

Do you see how many guys that will sleep with any available pussy. There would be a lot worse than me-too movements and feminist groups and child-support problems going on in society if women were approaching men left and right it if that was the norm. Guys would be like sure, sure, sure, sure, yes, yes, yes, yes, let's go, lets go, lets go, lets go. The world would be in crises with all the angry and bitter women who would be bred from this sort of dynamic. 

Edited April 6, 2024 by Princess Arabia