Commitment Contract - featuring Friends

[felixk_priv]

In case anyone else , is also in a position where they have made a few solid commitments in their life but they tend to fade out . / Any kind of permenant commitment on any level, then listen up . 

I have made a commitment contract with my friend , for a number of things not to do / otherwise I have to pay him a thousand pounds and also socially post weird videos of myself . ( Not sexual ofc you perv ) 

I am pretty sure this will work . The commitment needs to be just bad enough that you know it would painful , and just okay , so that you would actually do it .

Also I'd recommend having a guy because for me personally , I would find it painful to be so weak , to not follow through on this agreement . 

If you know you need this , reply to this thread !! Let yourself be known . I will pay for your solicitor to write up your contract 

[mmKay]

Commitment contracts are cool, but who is keeping you accountable for your actions besides yourself ? Who's proof checking? How are you making sure you will give him the money if you don't follow through? The mind is extremely sneaky with rationalizations. You almost can't trust yourself

 

A solid and fail proof web for accountability is absolute gold, but most strategies don't hold water and end up not being that effective . If you share your situation in more detail maybe we can learn something and perhaps polish up your model 

Id argue that if you trust your friend It would be better to already give him the money and videos and earn it back , and work to show him proof of archivement ( if its possible for your goal, but most likely impossible until full time commitment from your friend)

 

Commitment contracts with cash work the best if the activity can be proved real time, like showing up to the gym and lifting the weights in front of someone, or giving your wingman 200€ and only giving it back after you playfully talk with 10 girls in the club, or after you loose X amount of weight, or finishing your product before a certain deadline... Etc

 

The more personal and private these goals are the less likely this strategy will be effective 

But good post, this accountability strategy hasn't been shared here in a while 

 

 

Edited March 30 by mmKay