Masculinity vs. Femininity - A complex explanation

[Alexop]

This is a sketch, it will become an article on coming website. It starts to get shape, I am curious of you thoughts. Excuse the grammatical errors, I'll fix them soon. I only speak english on the internet

If you find yourself at the table with some leftist-leaning hippie people and you dare to open this female vs. male topic, most probably you'll ring all their sexist patriarchy alarms. And I understand why, it is a topic that requires a lot of research and contemplation, a lot of logical analysis, and as we know them, they are not the best friends with logical approaches. What is their approach to this topic?

Well, they might say something like this: "Yeah the traditional beliefs that men are like this and women are like that, these are outdated beliefs from traditionalist religious people and they always tend to favor men over women, I think everybody is different man and we should embrace every individual as it is regardless of gender. We need to break free from stereotypes man...". Although their point is valid to some extent, you don't need more than two neurons in order to hold this position, positions like: "do not generalize"; and "just accept the person as it is"; yeah that is cute and all of that, but I always had a feeling that something is missing. I observed closely how men behave when they meet at a table, and how women do it. You might say we behave differently because of cultural expectations and norms not because of our nature. Of course, culture has a lot to play here but is it really only cultural determinism? If you have a point about this topic, you might be put in two categories: the progressive hippie category which I mentioned now which advocates for cultural determinism, or the conservative traditionalist perspective which advocates for complete biological determinism. Both lack complexity, depth and nuance, we are influenced by both biology and culture and I'll explain why.

Here I am after more than two years of researching this topic, I don't even know where to begin. I'll begin with the beginnings of life, I found research which says that on average, when a baby boy forms in his mother's womb, he gets a testosterone injection in the body, which means the brain receives it also. What testosterone does to the brain is remarkable, it makes the individual behave in a slightly more autistic manner. Scientists measured the pre-natal testosterone levels of individuals and correlated them with increased autistic behaviors in childhood. Nature is not 100% precise, so baby girls can also get a high dose of testosterone before birth, leading to a more boysh girl and nothing wrong with that. Here I agree with hippies, everbody is different and need to be accepted as they are man… This means that the base brain, the one unaffected by testosterone, is the feminine brain, and I'll explain what femininity is throughout this article. The "extreme male brain" theory of autism, proposed by psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen, suggests that individuals with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) exhibit an exaggerated version of typical male cognitive patterns, characterized by a strong interest in systems and a reduced emphasis on social cognition. ASD is more common in males than females.

If you give children a lot of toys you'll notice that girls on average will choose to play longer with dolls and they tend to imagine their feelings and thoughts, whereas boys tend to play with constructional and mechanical toys. Notice when I mention the words: "most of them", "on average" and "tend". There are no black and white distinctions in this article so don't throw eggs yet.

How about when the children grow up? Of course, they will go through the renowned period of puberty when men get another big dose of testosterone in the system, which makes them grow taller, grow hair everywhere, grow bigger and stronger muscles, and get a lower pitched voice. Whereas women get a good dose of estrogen which makes them beggin the menstrual cycles and develop the typical feminine traits of wider hips and bigger breasts. What about the behavior though?  Let's begin with women, shall we? They tend to talk more, are more social, are more in tune with other people's feelings and they tend to choose fields and jobs where emotional intelligence and socialization play an important role. Fields like psychology, human resources, healthcare, and very interestingly they get attracted by science fields where they study people or animals like sociology, veterinary science and gender studies. Much less to computer science and programming. Now does it mean women can't be good programmers? Of course they can, but many won't find it very enjoyable. Fun fact about the ICF coaching course I went to: coaching is an EQ based profession, the trainers were two women and the attendees were 7 women... and me. And this happened in Sweden, the big mamma of gender equality. Sweden has made considerable efforts to equalize the gender gap in professions, but the result was the opposite, the gap is even bigger in Scandinavia than in more traditional countries. People will choose to work what they want to work regardless of your equality ideals and ideologies. In childhood I was the stereotypical boy interested in engineering and technology, I dreamed of becoming an aircraft engineer. But in my teenage years, after experiencing bullying and PTSD, I was forced to fix myself, and under that process, I became extremely passioned about personal development and philosophy. I still watch engineering documentaries but my heart is now in figuring out the world and helping people reach their best potential, so now I have a hybrid things-people passion. Big life events can change your interests.

Let's take a look at the gentlemen for a minute. Asperger himself said that in order to become a successful scientist, you need a touch of autism. Nicola Tesla might have died a virgin, and Albert Einstein was late to talk and said he was never very interested in socialization. Men are on average more individualistic and less social. Have you noticed how many men are advocating for libertarian ideals like tax cuts, deregulations, free market, and private propriety? Whereas more women than men tend to advocate for socialistic ideals like welfare state, tax increase, and more regulations. Women's holistic, less autistic brains make them more cooperative and more compassionate towards those in need, for animals and environment. Statistics show a much higher density of autism-spectrum individuals in so called  "IT hub" locations like silicon valley, and they are mostly men, you guessed it right. The pay gap between men and women is influenced by this, besides the still prevalent prejudice against women in patriarchal societies. Tech jobs are on average much better paid than HR or healthcare jobs, another influence is that men negociate their salary more aggresively and are much more confident in their capabilities even if in reality they pretty much suck, they can at least appear convincing. Testosterone makes them much more competitive in the market, if this is an appreciated and valued character trait in their social circle, motivating them to climb the ladder and work until they fall sick. You see, there is a misconception that testosterone makes all men more aggresive. Yes it can be so if their social circle appreciate aggresiveness and curelty, if they lived in a getto neighborhood the last 20 years, then yes, testosterone will make them more aggresive as it makes them compete and seek the appreciation of their peers. But if a man lived in a budhist monastery the last 20 years, testosterone will only motivate them become even more kind and meditative, as these qualities make them more appreciated there. Want a less aggresive man? Then don't date a gangster for god's sake. Now that we have an idea of what testosterone does to the brain, let's take a look at what estrogen does to it. Estrogen is renowned as the main female hormone. John Grey presents in his book: Beyond Mars and Venus,  the whole hormone dynamics that happen in a woman's menstrual cycle and how it changes her mood throughout the month. I won't delve into that here, I just want to skim the surface of how estrogen affects men's and women's lives.  I'll quote a note I took from his book: "When encountering mild stress women increase estrogen which connects them even more to their emotions, men increase testosterone which detaches them from emotions. Both sexes increase estrogen when they encounter a lot of stress. Men tend to do actions which increase testosterone to get rid of stress, women tend to choose activities that increase estrogen, progesterone, and oxytocin".  Boom. What are the activities that increase testosterone? Well, the activities that disconnect you from your emotions and make you feel competent and appreciated like skillfully riding your motorcycle or discussing the last football match with your male friends in your man cave. Again, it is not black and white, I also heard of women who go into their male side when feeling stressed, I heard of a woman running 30 km a day in stressful periods. But in general, when a woman is stressed and she is in close contact with her needs and intuition, she'll want to do activities that connect her with her emotions and with people, activities that increase her estrogen and oxytocin. Like reading a romantic novel, watching a love movie, or calling her best friend or therapist and telling her how she feels and what happened. You'll wonder why would men want to increase their testosterone and women their estrogen? John Grey advocates that men need to go into their male side to be able to relax and get rid of stress whereas women need to get into their female side. Shortly, men feel good being men and women being women. Everybody has his or her male and female side. Now in progressive countries like Scandinavia, we see a lot of women tapping in their male sides by getting in leadership roles and stressful positions which crave a lot of comptenece. In Sweden, on average, twice as many women than men go out on sickleave because of stress and burnouts. I am not yet ready to give a verdict here as I am still reasearching the subject. There are nieche cases of feminine men and masculine women who love being like that. And even individuals who want to transition to the opposite sex. These are rare cases, I honestly do not know enough to discuss about this eighter, what I know for sure is that you need to find your authentic self. If you really feel that you are the most authentic when identifying as non-binary, then do it. In this article I discuss what the main trends are.

The different ways men and women behave and respond to stress are very important especially in relationships. If your man comes home stressed and wants to go take a beer with his buddies let him go instead of continously asking him what went wrong, he does not want to speak with you because he wants to dettach from what happened until he replanishes his testosterone and feels better. If your woman comes back home sad and stressed on the other hand, ignoring her will not help, because in contrast with what you use to do when stressed, she wants to connect with her emotions and have someone to support her. And the way you as a man solve a problem is a bit different from how women do, she won't need solutions and advice at the moment, she only wants emotional support and understanding. You can be Mr. fix it all another time. If we do not get these critical differences and play the hippie game of everybody is unique, the relationship can suffer. The man-woman polarity is what makes it a romantic relationship, the contrasts between you makes it exciting and romantic. It is not just about the looks, the behavior makes you who you are, you perform the gender as Judith Butler use to say in her books.

Of course we need to talk about sex. There is an extremely obvious contrast here. A man can get aroused by simply seeing a beautiful woman, whereas a woman need to get to know the man, and feel secure and intimate with him before getting aroused, she actually needs to increase her oxytocin levels in order to want to have sex. This is what many men don't realize and get surprised when their women don't want to have sex on command, because for men, having sex is like taking a piss. That is why men have a harder time getting sex, because women are not so interested in only having sex, at least those mature women in whom I am interested. They look for a guy who wants to stay committed to a relationship.

Imagine you have these two energies inside you. If they are in balance, you will behave in a calibrated way, when you swing too much towards one energy and ignore the other, problems appear. What does excess masculinity look like? Well, an autistic, unsocial, over-competitive, unempathetic, nerdy person who has a robot-like behavior and sees everything else as objects to be exploited. What would excess femininity look like? An over-empathic, over-indulgent, over-emotional, over-self-sacrificing person who will get burned out becoause she only looks for the needs of others and disregards her own needs. We can see this in women who get abused and exploited in relationships by selfish masculine men and forgive them all the time. What they should do instead is connect with their male side and decide to end the relationship for good, to start taking care of their own needs, raise their standards and find a better man. Be careful at your childhood trauma tough, my mother had a bad relationship with her father, he was domianting her all the time. That made my mother vow to take care of everything by herself and marry a docile man. She ended up regretting the choice she made. Women love to be vulnerable and be lead by a competent loving man. They hate when they are always forced to go into their male side to come with solutions and figure out stuff because their men are lazy and incompetent. You don't have to fear masculine men, you need to find one who embraces his feminine side also.

Masculine people have managed to create awesome technologies, thinking models and ideas that created our modern world we have today, by without femininity, all that technological progress will do more bad than good. Nuclear technology will do more harm than good if we use it to nuke each other or destory the environment. In fact the world is so broken today because there is too much masculine energy ruling the world, we need to become more feminine and empathic in our aproaches.

You might ask why did the universe made us in this way? I see it as a survival specialization, we lived in tribes since thousands and thousands of years. The universe specialized women in better taking care of children, because children need love and empathy more than anything else, whereas men specialized in hunting, exploring and defending the territory, actions which require more dettachement and logic.

We are approaching the end of this material, realct a bit on the way I wrote all of this. Do you see how I balanced my two energies in order to create a calibrated, nuanced and deep approach? I encourage you to do the same in your search for meaning and answers, theory is very important. If you don't have your theory right, you won't know how to act. My masculine personality of dettaching form silly groupthink and pursuing my own journey of figuring out how the world works saved my life. But I see how important is to balance this energy with femininity, instead of judging those who can't do what I did calling them cowards, I want to inspire them fix their lives, that is true masculinity.

Edited March 28 by Alexop

[Shodburrito]

This article is a bunch of baloney! Ain't no way men and women are that different. We all just people, ya know? Who cares 'bout testosterome or estrogem or whatever. My cousin Jimmy acts more like a girl than my sister sometimes and he's a dude! And I know tons of ladies who could beat up guys easy.

All this stuff about guys bein' more into systems and robots and math is stupid. Plenty of girls like that nerdy stuff too. And guys can be emotional and all huggy and crap, I seen it. Sayin' guys and girls play with different toys is dumb. Just let kids play with whatever the heck they want!

I don't get why it matters if guys got more hair and muscles and lower voices or girls got hips and boobs. What's that gotta do with anythin'? Guys can like talkin' and helpin' people and girls can like workin' alone and competin'. Jobs should go to whoever can do 'em good, not cuz they got certain private parts.

All them science words don't mean nothin'. You can't say guys are from Mars and girls are from Venus or whatever. We all from Earth! Who cares if girls get periods and moody or guys get angry and less feely. Everybody's different and that's okay.

This thing about girls only wantin' sex if they love the guy is old-fashioned. Girls like doin' it too, and sometimes they just want some fun. Guys ain't always horndogs either. And that's fine.

Basically, all this girl brain and boy brain stuff is silly. Let people be who they are, don't put 'em in boxes. We need everybody's skills and smarts to make the world better, not just guys or just girls.

[Alexop]

You are the exact hippie I am talking about 😂. Watch the nuances. John Grey's books were gold because after reading them I could see the examples everywhere, do you really think we all were socialized into this? That sounds like a conspiracy theory, a hippie one. The same way we have different bodies, even different bone densities, we have IN GENERAL different brains. We basically have different organs in our bodies, you tell me our behavior is exactly the same? Give me a break. If you ever got a girlfirend, or will in the future, remember or notice her mood swings through her mens cycle. Of course you behave on an averaged way when you don't know who you are because nobody showed you how to search. Leftists basically socialize people into behaving the same and then say: "look! All these men-women stereotypes were just a social construction!"  Some kindergardens in Iceland separate the boys from the girls and they teach the boys how to show emotions and the girls how to be stronger and more aggressive.

Edited March 29 by Alexop

[Alexop]

5 hours ago, Shodburrito said:

 

This thing about girls only wantin' sex if they love the guy is old-fashioned. Girls like doin' it too, and sometimes they just want some fun. Guys ain't always horndogs either. And that's fine.

 

Where are all the male prostitutes then? Why are there no female incel forums? You do not understand what "on average" means dude. Study dating apps and see how the dynamics are completely asymmetric, dudes struggling to get a date and girls getting overwhelmed by the demand. They want it but in a different way, they want a whole emotional experince not just the act of sex. 

Edited March 29 by Alexop

[Ishanga]

I have to agree with Shodburrito, generally speaking first We are Pieces of Life, then We are Human Being, and expression/form of Life, then we are Male/Female, Masculine/Feminine, the male/female part is strictly for reasons of procreation and serving a survival purpose, the Masculine/Feminine part represents the Duality in nature, Masculine traits are represented as moving forward, action, building up, intensity and such, Feminine is settling down, calm, creativity, silence and such, now both sexes have all of these traits within them, but if you identify too much one way or the other you will miss out on many things, balance is needed, so that is the effort in Spirituality, to bring them both together and have a sense of Oneness and Completeness.

The main problem today in society is we are way to identified with our Intellects, which separate and divide, intellect is like a sharp knife, it cuts things up to be able to mentally understand everything so we can survive another day, so when this can happen regarding any subject matter, it can be dissected to death, and made to be logical, but this is not the way to understand something, you have to be Inclusive, to include it and connect with it to understand something totally, not dissect it and divide it, so because of this Addiction, we see more differences in things than Commonalities and sameness, which in the end causes wars, suffering for all living things as we are seeing today in the world!

[Alexop]

40 minutes ago, Ishanga said:

I have to agree with Shodburrito, generally speaking first We are Pieces of Life, then We are Human Being, and expression/form of Life, then we are Male/Female, Masculine/Feminine, the male/female part is strictly for reasons of procreation and serving a survival purpose, the Masculine/Feminine part represents the Duality in nature, Masculine traits are represented as moving forward, action, building up, intensity and such, Feminine is settling down, calm, creativity, silence and such, now both sexes have all of these traits within them, but if you identify too much one way or the other you will miss out on many things, balance is needed, so that is the effort in Spirituality, to bring them both together and have a sense of Oneness and Completeness.

The main problem today in society is we are way to identified with our Intellects, which separate and divide, intellect is like a sharp knife, it cuts things up to be able to mentally understand everything so we can survive another day, so when this can happen regarding any subject matter, it can be dissected to death, and made to be logical, but this is not the way to understand something, you have to be Inclusive, to include it and connect with it to understand something totally, not dissect it and divide it, so because of this Addiction, we see more differences in things than Commonalities and sameness, which in the end causes wars, suffering for all living things as we are seeing today in the world!

I mentioned in the article that these are two energies within us. Without my logic I would be probably dead now dude. With logic and distinctions you can create an action plan and understand the world for real. This hippie rethoric sound great and all of that, but in practice your life is nowhere near good, you don't take intellectual responsibility to have a fixed point. Words are a cheap tool for the ego, actions impress me and I did not met a spiritual hippe who's not broken yet. Only cheap chat, parroting the gurus and memories from the trips. But after all that, now I know whom are the people to take around me, and these spiritual monkeys found on this forum won't be my first choice. Rather talk to chatgpt, way smarter.

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[Ishanga]

1 hour ago, Alexop said:

I mentioned in the article that these are two energies within us. Without my logic I would be probably dead now dude. With logic and distinctions you can create an action plan and understand the world for real. This hippie rethoric sound great and all of that, but in practice your life is nowhere near good, you don't take intellectual responsibility to have a fixed point. Words are a cheap tool for the ego, actions impress me and I did not met a spiritual hippe who's not broken yet. Only cheap chat, parroting the gurus and memories from the trips. But after all that, now I know whom are the people to take around me, and these spiritual monkeys found on this forum won't be my first choice. Rather talk to chatgpt, way smarter.

Logic is great for surviving another day, its what has allowed us a Human Being to stay around as a species, since we are so weak in some many ways compared to other life forms, if we had no intellect/logic apparatus then we would not be here on this forum chatting BS. But survival is only one level of living experience, animals do this will little effort, its born into them instinctual, but we can go way beyond this experientially and otherwise...

[Alexop]

2 hours ago, Ishanga said:

Logic is great for surviving another day, its what has allowed us a Human Being to stay around as a species, since we are so weak in some many ways compared to other life forms, if we had no intellect/logic apparatus then we would not be here on this forum chatting BS. But survival is only one level of living experience, animals do this will little effort, its born into them instinctual, but we can go way beyond this experientially and otherwise...

We are animals dude. We survive instinctually also, especially you. Most people do not use logic to survive, and that is fine. But our complex world we have today requires logic and mapping. If we still lived in the woods, everything would come natural to us, there won't be any woke clowns to tell you that biology doesn't matter. If you don't have a good living philosophy in these days you'll end up suffering like a dog.

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[Ishanga]

1 hour ago, Alexop said:

We are animals dude. We survive instinctually also, especially you. Most people do not use logic to survive, and that is fine. But our complex world we have today requires logic and mapping. If we still lived in the woods, everything would come natural to us, there won't be any woke clowns to tell you that biology doesn't matter. If you don't have a good living philosophy in these days you'll end up suffering like a dog.

We have animal nature in us for sure I agree, I don't think we "are animals", we are Human we have no limits on how we can experience life, animals do, they can come close to us in certain ways (think tigers in captivity, they can seem pretty nice and emotionally attached to ppl, but can turn on a dime, their inborn instinct is much stronger than ours, our intellects/logical mind takes over from instinct and blocks it much more nowadays), but humans are capable of experiencing all of existence, living like a virtual God within themselves, no other life on this planet can do this...

Your still in Survival mode "dude", whether its in the jungle or woods or the corporate board rooms in New York city, they all want more, more of whatever their mind is identified with, power, wealth, fire, wood shelter, women, sex,drugs etc... that is just survival in a tuxedo lol! We are capable of much more than this as human beings!

[Alexop]

21 minutes ago, Ishanga said:

We have animal nature in us for sure I agree, I don't think we "are animals", we are Human we have no limits on how we can experience life, animals do, they can come close to us in certain ways (think tigers in captivity, they can seem pretty nice and emotionally attached to ppl, but can turn on a dime, their inborn instinct is much stronger than ours, our intellects/logical mind takes over from instinct and blocks it much more nowadays), but humans are capable of experiencing all of existence, living like a virtual God within themselves, no other life on this planet can do this...

Your still in Survival mode "dude", whether its in the jungle or woods or the corporate board rooms in New York city, they all want more, more of whatever their mind is identified with, power, wealth, fire, wood shelter, women, sex,drugs etc... that is just survival in a tuxedo lol! We are capable of much more than this as human beings!

Whant can I say, good luck then becoming god or whatever you want to achieve! My passion is to understand the mechanisms through which we bullshit ourselves even if this will cost me friends, sex, relationships or even happiness. If I would only want to be happy, I would join a stage green permaculture community and live there in fake bliss. I hope you guys will ultimately understand that you cannot jump over stage yellow, you adore your gurus, but your gurus are masters of logical thinking also. The real ones.

[Ishanga]

15 minutes ago, Alexop said:

Whant can I say, good luck then becoming god or whatever you want to achieve! My passion is to understand the mechanisms through which we bullshit ourselves even if this will cost me friends, sex, relationships or even happiness. If I would only want to be happy, I would join a stage green permaculture community and live there in fake bliss. I hope you guys will ultimately understand that you cannot jump over stage yellow, you adore your gurus, but your gurus are masters of logical thinking also. The real ones.

I don't want God, I don't know what that is, other than what ppl have said and the books written about God, which in the end are all but stories to me..

I want Bliss as my foundational Emotional state, I know that all Experience happens within Me, no where else, I know that if I stop all Stress Response, no matter what is happening (via the Accept all that is, Live Now and Respond rather than React methodology) that Peace can be my starting point in this venture, soon after Peace will become more intense and turn into Happiness, Joy then Bliss..

I know that my Body and MInd are just accumulations of sorts, Body via Food that I have eaten, Mind via the data input from my 5 senses, conditioning via my culture/society that I was brought up in and teachings, learning experiences(clinging to memory) and such, and if I can calm all of this down and stop identifying with Body/Mind, I can experience something else, what was there before all of this and have a more high quality experience of Life other than just working, eating, sleeping, sex, drugs, accumulating more experience and whatever else to only find it leave you empty looking outside to stimulate inside experiences and then dying...

[Princess Arabia]

I think this article has something to it. It might not be necessary to survive and might be a bit in-depth but Reality is as much complicated as it is simple. I find a lot of truths in it. It's not about who cares if what or who cares if that, it's just a way of seeing the differences within the sameness. 

[Princess Arabia]

6 hours ago, Ishanga said:

but if you identify too much one way or the other you will miss out on many things, balance is needed,

We don't have to identify or disidentify with anything for there not to be balance. You're speaking from the relative pov, if so then that's fine, And is all illusion. But from the Absolute level, balance is already the case. We're the one's finding fault with things and trying to "fix" something, but it's futile and all is already perfection, even the relative perceived imbalances.

[Schizophonia]

I like to think of it as two objects with different voltage, the "male" being the object with higher potential and providing the current.

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[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

I like to think of it as two objects with different voltage, the "male" being the object with higher potential and providing the current.

Exactly, that's why the female was created to balance out the stupidity of the male. Just kidding.

[Alexop]

23 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Exactly, that's why the female was created to balance out the stupidity of the male. Just kidding.

some truth here haha.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Alexop said:

some truth here haha.

Hehe 

[Schizophonia]

42 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Just kidding.

It's not totally wrong.

Men are more pert, because they cannot (unless they are homosexual) look for the phallus in sex with other men.
The phalic filling is therefore more indirect, it will be a matter of inflating one's sense of self through the pride of having, for example, won a sporting competition against other men, won a violent war against another tribe, have high social status in general...
Religion is also a good way to masculinize yourself by filling yourself with this phallus, in a kind of energetic transfer "God(s) -> Men > Women"
There are obviously men with "low energy", or at least very calm, but still very masculine and strong.
We can continue the metaphor by imagining that the tension (potential) at the fundamental levels of one's chi is always strong, but that there is a fairly strong resistance also before the expression of one's chi in matter (through one's avatar). reducing local tension.
In fact, in the collective unconscious, a very masculine man is generally a man with high resistance, that is to say "tough", "dry", the type to dress in a leather jacket, rather than 'a very sunny man.

Both strong energy potential but mitiged energy lose because of an efficient resistance : 
Because who says great resistance in an electric current, says that at the same time as the tension does not decrease at the fundamental levels of chi, the reduction of the electric voltage in the expression of chi by the avatar makes the loss of energy here and there lower (because the loss is only, ultimately, proportional to the level of resistance) in contact with external objects with lower potential.
Resistance also works in both directions, so a man with low resistance will have less desire to be filled by elements with higher potential in the expression of his avatar.

So a person could be rich in testosterone, strong, but very hypomanic/anxious can more easily lose their energy, and in all cases want to be filled with BDSM fantasies, religious rituals or not, devotion in general, desire loud and aggressive music, “girl” music.
A man can be less "manly" but be psychopathic, very deep-rooted, and have rape fantasies, be very brutal with other men...

Amphetamines/cathiones (which increase potential but also decrease resistance due to stress) have a reputation for causing masochistic/homosexual fantasies, hysterical, mannered, and generally feminine behavior. The same goes for certain neuroleptics, feclonine, probably exogenous glucocorticoids.
Benzodiazepines and downers in general will do the opposite, can create sociopathic behavior, rape fantasies, etc.

I think I went too far lol, and it could be go deeper if I wasn't too lazy.
It doesn't matter, too late

Edited March 29 by Schizophonia

[Princess Arabia]

On 3/28/2024 at 6:31 AM, Alexop said:

Of course we need to talk about sex. There is an extremely obvious contrast here. A man can get aroused by simply seeing a beautiful woman, whereas a woman need to get to know the man, and feel secure and intimate with him before getting aroused, she actually needs to increase her oxytocin levels in order to want to have sex. This is what many men don't realize and get surprised when their women don't want to have sex on command, because for men, having sex is like taking a piss. That is why men have a harder time getting sex, because women are not so interested in only having sex, at least those mature women in whom I am interested. They look for a guy who wants to stay committed to a relationship

I'm re-reading this article because I rushed through it the first time, but I find it very informative. This part right here should be in the dating section and its own thread so these monkeys can see what I'm talking about when I mention certain things over there. IT fits nicely into what I try to convey a lot of times but didn't know how to quite articulate it or even knew why it is the case; I just know it is. Not so much the last sentence, but the rest. I think the last sentence can be deleted because it's not so much the case unless that's her goal or desire. I said monkeys to be funny, so don't take offense, guys.

Edited March 29 by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

Re-read the entire thing and found it fascinating. Some will think it's horseshit maybe because they are not curious enough to learn about human behavior; but I am, even so that I went to college for human psychology. One semester but I got a 3.5 GPA, when I left for personal reasons. 

I learnt quite a few things here and a lot explained why men and women behave the way they do to a degree. The part I found really intriguing is the part where men will do things to increase their testosterone level, even unaware that that is the result of their action. Seems instinctual. Women the same. 

What I really got from this is we seem to be instinctually wired for survival. All our actions, the way we do things, why we do them, why we're attracted to what we're attracted to, why we argue, why we fight, why we bitch and moan, why we feel empathy, why we don't, why we whatever, is not only from environmental factors but biological. We can't help it. Not to say we can't or shouldn't try to improve the way we react or respond to things, but what actually happens is not really our doing but how we respond is. I don't know, that's how I interpreted and how I summarized it. 

I think this article is very important. It will make us understand each other more and lessen the unnecessary judgements and useless criticisms we have of the sexes. The problem is, there's always a blame game at play and we'd rather blame each other for what we consider to be faults of ours, so anything that dives deep into us looking at ourselves from the inside out will not be too popular and will be shaken off as irrelevant.