Leo, I'm in a big city - now what?

[thenondualtankie]

I live in London. How do I take advantage of this? I don't want to go solo clubbing, nor do I know anyone that I could go with.

Right now my main idea is to go to a lot of new age events. Breathwork sessions is an appealing one. There's also the psychedelic society which does events and meetups.

These events are usually super expensive though, like £40+ for a single session.

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, thenondualtankie said:

I don't want to go solo clubbing

How about finding people on Meetups? That's how I found a bunch of friends when I moved to Toronto

[Leo Gura]

London has good day game.

London has a big night life.

London has tons of wings and PUAs.

Look for wingmen.

Research the best spots in town where girls go.

London is one of the top cities in the world for game. So make use of it.

Edited March 27 by Leo Gura

[Ulax]

Go to zoo bar in Leicester square lmao. There are about 25 puas per square inch in that venue lol.

or use the website game global

[mmKay]

How is 40£ expensive for someone living in London? I thought you have to be at least middle class to afford living there

[thenondualtankie]

like if you wanna do something several times a week it adds up really fast

[thenondualtankie]

10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Look for wingmen.

How did you do this back in the day?

[TheSelf]

@thenondualtankie Now go talk to hundred girls, same as you, plan to do so, still thinking about how to get started, haha

[Yimpa]

15 hours ago, TheGod said:

How about finding people on Meetups? That's how I found a bunch of friends when I moved to Toronto

What kind of Meetups have you joined? 

[Leo Gura]

13 hours ago, thenondualtankie said:

How did you do this back in the day?

Online forums.

That's how the whole pickup movement got started.

RSD sprang up from online forums where guys shared tips on how to approach girls.

Edited March 28 by Leo Gura

[Mada_]

17 hours ago, thenondualtankie said:

like if you wanna do something several times a week it adds up really fast

Don't make excuses. Make a budget and do things that fit into it (e.g. day game will always be free) and/or find a way to increase your income. 

[Leo Gura]

You don't need to waste money to talk to girls in London. Just go approach girls on the street corner.

[Chadders]

I have been thinking about trying day game. I don’t like clubbing can’t get in the mood

Cafes to me seem the best bet. It’s just having that opportunity to arise naturally like when the waitress brings you food/coffee and there’s a spark

Yeh London will be amazing for girls

[Miguel1]

You guys need to start getting used to just socializing with people in general. For the sake of socializing. For fun. It is not so serious.

Baby step yourself up. If you are so nervous at first, then just say something short for them and then wish them a good day!

You can literally just say: ''heyy you look very lovely! Have a good day :)''

From there you can slowly increase the length and quality of the conversation.

This is not rocket science. It is not hard work. It is supposed to be playful and fun.

How would you talk to someone if they were an old friend you haven't seen in years?

Enjoy the conversation.

Edited March 28 by Miguel1

[Chadders]

@Miguel1 the key is to not hold back your intent. That’s where the friction is

like when you try to be cool by trying to be detached which makes you blunder. You have to just lean into the intent and honest in your manner with how you’re feeling towards a woman