The vast majority of problems come from being too empathetic, because we project our desire to protect our ego onto others.
The ultimate result is that we hide everything we think and want from others, and this is a monstrous waste of time.
It is so strong that even most people who are very conscious still have this form of darkness. Everything would be simpler if we could just sit down and take turns saying "we love you because you're so generous", "we don't like you, because you're such an asshole because that blah blah blah..."
“I want to fuck you, because you’re beautiful”
“I don’t want anything to do with you because you look like an elephant seal.”
etc.
I would really like people here to tell me why they don't like me even if it gives rise to very cringe thoughts, and I would also like to do the same.
Same in reality, obviously, but it's easier on a forum. It would be violent for the ego in the moment, but it would avoid a lifetime of neurosis.
It's basically emotional procrastination.